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Mahak K

@mahak221

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Posted: 15 years ago

#11

I totally agree with soniyas. yash's mom don't have the right to insult anybody and that too on national tv. i really want to know why yash mom is here. yash mom should have found the girl from somewhere and should have told yash to merry her b/c he can't decide his own. so he doesn't even need to be here where he can't even talk to the girl he like. i don't like yash mom's thinking. poor yash. he really liked gurpreet. she doesn't even care about his feeling at all she is so selfish.

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mechocoholic

@mechocoholic

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: a_ahmed
Just wanted to say that in some of the posts they have said that a marriage is not about the family its only about the husband and wife and if they like each other then thats it. But just wanted to point out that a marriage is more than that. Its the culmination of two families. Its not just about the husband and wife. Do you know why the divorce rates are so high now-a-days its because of this that people prefer living just as a small unit I mean husband, wife , and maybe kids. I am not saying that you have to live with your in-laws but they need to be involved in your life. And if they DIL and MIL dont get along then that will cause problems for the entire family not just between them. Anyway just my 2 cents worth....

How true this is......not only does dil-mil clash affect the family...but it most definately also affects the relationship of the husband-wife.....most sons have a soft-corner for their mother...and deservedly so...she's their mom..she gave them life...and also love their wives..so they are torn between the 2...and if the tension between the 2 elscalates beyond a certain limit....it can cause extreme tension and even divorce in a marraige....my very close friend...is currently in marraige counselling because of this very issue....

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mechocoholic

@mechocoholic

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: mahak221
I totally agree with soniyas. yash's mom don't have the right to insult anybody and that too on national tv. i really want to know why yash mom is here. yash mom should have found the girl from somewhere and should have told yash to merry her b/c he can't decide his own. so he doesn't even need to be here where he can't even talk to the girl he like. i don't like yash mom's thinking. poor yash. he really liked gurpreet. she doesn't even care about his feeling at all she is so selfish.

And isn't yash being selfish......by ignoring his mother's views openly on television???? why do we always expect the parents to sacrifice and understand...can't the children ever accomodate the parents....yash is the most at fault here....when he has come to this show with his mom..he has to give her views importance....imho...

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sonikuri17

@sonikuri17

Inactive

Posted: 15 years ago

#14

I don't think she's being selfish...she's the one who's living with the girls. So, she must have seen something which she doesn't like in gurpreet. But, yes yash's mom needs to come out and say what that is she doesn't like. She keeps on repeating uske sanskaar aise nahin hai she won't be able to adjust in her family.

To me Gurpreet is still a little immature and does whatever she wants do and says what she thinks is right. but sometimes in life you have to think about others too, esp. when you are getting married and going to your in-laws...you have to please them then they are gonna be happy and let me tell you its not an easy job to do.

Like nandita said once saas kabhie maa nahi ban sakti and i agree with her. aap kitni bhi koshish karlo lekin appko woh comfort level kabhie nahin milega apni saas ke saath

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mechocoholic

@mechocoholic

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: raj_aamna

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Minal81

@Minal81

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Posted: 15 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: mechocoholic

Very well said, this applies to every girl in the house and out in the real world, it actually applies to everyone male or female....good job!

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a_ahmed

@a_ahmed

Beginner

Posted: 15 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: mechocoholic

Yeah well said and this is where maturity does come....just by making smart comments and talking back will not solve the problem nor will it make you popular. Earning respect of family members is more important and this kind of paves the way to earning the love of family members. I am not just saying it, this is from my own experience. Patience, being cool and level headed are the keys to dealing with this sort of situation. And this is where age becomes a factor as probably even when I was a teenager I would have reacted the same way as Gurpreet did and probably would have congratulated her for it, but with age you will know how to handle these situations.

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a_ahmed

@a_ahmed

Beginner

Posted: 15 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: a_ahmed

Yeah well said and this is where maturity does come....just by making smart comments and talking back will not solve the problem nor will it make you popular. Earning respect of family members is more important and this kind of paves the way to earning the love of family members. I am not just saying it, this is from my own experience. Patience, being cool and level headed are the keys to dealing with this sort of situation. And this is where age becomes a factor as probably even when I was a teenager I would have reacted the same way as Gurpreet did and probably would have congratulated her for it, but with age you will know how to handle these situations.

Just wanted to say that I think the ideal age for marriage is 24 and above. But I guess theres the factor of maturity here some girls are quite understanding and mature even at a younger age and this depends on their families situations. But ideally most girls 24 and above are usually mature enough. Again this is just what I think dotn know what others think...

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chronic

@chronic

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#19

Gurpreet deffo has attitude problems and insecurity issues, but Yash's mom will be hard-pressed to find hersef a bahu in today's day and age who will curb her own personality and interests to the whims and fancies of her MIL's ideals to such an extent.

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Rani

@April2007

Inactive

Posted: 15 years ago

#20

I don't think I will be able to live with someone like Yash's mom. No punjabi girl will take this kind of abusive and rude behavior. Gur Preet should look for Punjabi or Sikh boy. Most of them respect their women and don't expect them to be doormats.

Yash's mom is talking about some stupid sanskars, she herself is stuborn (she says that once she says no, she never changes her mind..talk about sanskar) dictorial and doesn't give Yash any reason for her dislike or what qualities she would like to see in a bahu.

Edited by April2007 - 15 years ago

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