Truth from my eyes:Viewbie's note on Pg5 - Page 3

Originally posted by: April2007

I don't think I will be able to live with someone like Yash's mom. No punjabi girl will take this kind of abusive and rude behavior. Gur Preet should look for Punjabi or Sikh boy. Most of them respect their women and don't expect them to be doormats.

Yash's mom is talking about some stupid sanskars, she herself is stuborn (she says that once she says no, she never changes her mind..talk about sanskar) dictorial and doesn't give Yash any reason for her dislike or what qualities she would like to see in a bahu.

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Generalizations of any sort arent healthy to nurture😃 I am not a Punjabi and neither is my husband, but both of us and our families value each others thoughts, feelings and I am so not being treated as a doormat. Respect is always mutual and not exclusive to a certain religion/caste/community.

Originally posted by: soniyas

And the channel off course when Hitesh's mom was consoling G and telling her to be brave..they said: asli mein to Gurpreet ke kandhe par bandook rakhe ke nishana sadha jaa raha hai..What is H's mom's benefit in doing this? She was concerned for G and could not tolerate wrong behaviour towards her..what is wrong if she is fighting for a girl ..why should anyone have some relation to fight for somebody? is being a good human being not enough to fight for someone? But they always show H and his mom in poor light..think again people..

Yash mom is very very bossy women..save me from like these mother in law in future oh god

looking at this melodrama involving yash, G and mom.. think Raj and family proved to be more mature than i had thought(contrary to my earlier opinion abt raj).. raj din start talking to his parents straight awy to accept pri as their bahu.. he said i agree and din keep pressing on that i only want to talk to pri.. he sensed his father's disliking and din make pri feel very bad either .. yash is immature.. does nt know how to handle his own mom(dont you guys think its slightly strange that mother and son dont agree with each other at all.. i cant imagine my mother talking to me that way or i call her hitler).. problem lies somwhere within Yash's family(not sure what though where people dont understand each other liking and disliking and respect that. All other families seem to be normal and far more mature(including hity's.. both mother n son stand like a rock over their choice of girl.. maybe thats what saved them from elimination)

Originally posted by: mechocoholic

See...in real life many a times girls are faced with such situations....the mil, the boy's aunt's, chachis, grandmoms, even the fil....anyone can intentionally or unintentionally hurt you, or even their family....maybe in front of others too....and this is exacty where maturity and sanskar's come in play...a matured and decent girl, would handle the issue very subtly, not by arrogantly answering back her elder.....or contemporary for that matter...and disrespecting them in the process....this is how relations get strained....if you show restraint in such a crucial moment while reacting...only then can you solve it , you don't have to take someone's bs like a doormat...but the way in which you tackle such situations makes a world of difference.....

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Originally posted by: sunandshine

Generalizations of any sort arent healthy to nurture😃 I am not a Punjabi and neither is my husband, but both of us and our families value each others thoughts, feelings and I am so not being treated as a doormat. Respect is always mutual and not exclusive to a certain religion/caste/community.

Originally posted by: April2007

I have to say this..

From your post and some others I have come to conclusion that Indian Sanskar (for women) = ability to take abuse and not react. The one who can take the most abuse is most Sanskari. The studies have shown that taking abuse and not allowed to react (suppress) is cause of major illness including cancer. God save me from sanskars that force me to take abuse and suppress my feeling.

I thought India is coming out of era where goodness in women was equated with how much abuse she can take and not react.

I totally reject Indian sanskar as portrayed in this forum. I totally believe in mutual respect of old, young rich and poor. ..without this no society can survive. In the end only arrogant, abusive, mean elders abuse young and if they are not treated well it is because of their own behavior.

Originally posted by: mechocoholic

I do not wish to argue with you...you are right and i'm wrong......

Originally posted by: sonikuri17

I don't think she's being selfish...she's the one who's living with the girls. So, she must have seen something which she doesn't like in gurpreet. But, yes yash's mom needs to come out and say what that is she doesn't like. She keeps on repeating uske sanskaar aise nahin hai she won't be able to adjust in her family.

To me Gurpreet is still a little immature and does whatever she wants do and says what she thinks is right. but sometimes in life you have to think about others too, esp. when you are getting married and going to your in-laws...you have to please them then they are gonna be happy and let me tell you its not an easy job to do.

Like nandita said once saas kabhie maa nahi ban sakti and i agree with her. aap kitni bhi koshish karlo lekin appko woh comfort level kabhie nahin milega apni saas ke saath