Truth from my eyes:Viewbie's note on Pg5 - Page 4

Originally posted by: April2007

Good for you..

Many on this forum are saying that girls should have sanskar meaning she should suppress her feelings and take abuse..respect for elders is equated with taking abuse from the elders, sucking up to them and being a doormat.

Gur preet is very competant and talented. She is ahead in cooking and ragoli design. I have not seem immature girls very good in cooking and designing. Gurpreet is being called immature not sanskari because she doesn't totally suck up all the time and has made a mistake for standing up for herself, when abused.

Originally posted by: nayan-2009

gurpreet is a very traditional n sanskari girl.she does have all the qualities which a bahu needs.n about respect give respect n take respect right.all the other moms like her n she gives them respect n love also.n i don't think that in this 21st century noany girl can control their temper for insulting them again n again.compared to this yash's mom gets respect more than that she really deserves

Originally posted by: nayan-2009

gurpreet is a very traditional n sanskari girl.she does have all the qualities which a bahu needs.n about respect give respect n take respect right.all the other moms like her n she gives them respect n love also.n i don't think that in this 21st century noany girl can control their temper for insulting them again n again.compared to this yash's mom gets respect more than that she really deserves

if yash's mom really had a problem with non-veg then why did she chose nandita for yash.that day both nandita n gur were eating together. n about respect gur is not her bahu right now.who gave her rights to yelling n insulting her? if yash's mom doesn't like her she has to convince her son.she's also someone's daughter ,sister..how can a lady insult a gir in a national channel esp a 21yr old girl who is here for seeking her groom

Originally posted by: soniyas

First of all Yash's mom is talking about sanskar and all that..and she forgets that it is not in our sanskar to hurt and insult anyone so much..

She is directly saying for Gurpreet that she is this and that and forgets that she is someone's daughter...and whether Yash or not she will get married to someone..but saying all bad things about her and insulting her and rejecting her straight forward on national TV; she forgot she is putting a blot on Gurpreet coz in India everyone will see and remember this and when Gurpreet will want to get married they will say arre she was rejected on Perfect bride..i'll not make her my daughter in law..

even when Raj's dad came , he did not say he does not like Pri..he put it very decently that she is nice but dont rush and try to know others too..but Yash's mom plainly said no..She could have said that G is a nice girl but i prefer Pooja or Nandu..so try to know them more...i feel G is right in saying she does not want to go in such a family ..Yash's mom is heartless...

it's very True in India that "Ek aurat hi aurat ki dushman hai" and thats why women in India took so much time to come up..

Secondly if she wanted the girl of her choice, why did she come on Perfect Bride..she could go through the normal arranged way...that way she would be able to satisfy her ego by rejecting as many girls as she wants...

Thirdly , i feel its not Gurpreet who's not suitable for Yash but it is the other way round...I feel yash may be good looking but he lacks manners and is full of Ego (my personal opinion from what i saw)..he is like Kamal khan of bb who refuses to do any work and when he does he makes a huge cry for it..

Now coming to hitesh's mom : She may be a short tempered women but what she says is always right..She said to Yash's mom that if she disliked G so much why did she let Yash interact with her for so many days ..she should have told him on Day 1 or may be 2 that dont go ahead with G..Now when the girl has developed feelings she is doing all this...Yash's mom said he has not promised her marriage but he is taking her on dates..is that not any signal to the girl?? why are they playing with her heart??

And the channel off course when Hitesh's mom was consoling G and telling her to be brave..they said: asli mein to Gurpreet ke kandhe par bandook rakhe ke nishana sadha jaa raha hai..What is H's mom's benefit in doing this? She was concerned for G and could not tolerate wrong behaviour towards her..what is wrong if she is fighting for a girl ..why should anyone have some relation to fight for somebody? is being a good human being not enough to fight for someone? But they always show H and his mom in poor light..think again people..

Vridas case : they always show that H'mom said eliminate Vrida becoz of her age..but actually if you watch the episode again..she was only telling to not make Vrinda the bride of the week after the party task she did not say eliminate her...And btw she is right in saying for V becoz Vrinda is 20 yrs..this is not the right age to get married..this is the age to stand on your feet and realize what you are...which makes you face struggle and become more mature..and then you can better understand if someone is your soulmate or not..20 yrs of age is too young to have that capabilty..why not wait than regret later..?

Originally posted by: soniyas

Originally posted by: sunandshine

About vrinda's age..Well if she is 20, then Gur is also just 21. There isnt much difference between the mental age of a 20 year and a 21 year old! All the three of them --Yash, Gur, Vri should do something better in life, than getting subjected to all this.

And yes, regarding Hitty's mom, even she knew right from the second week-third week that Yash's mom opposed their relationship. Why did she wait for so long to give Yash's mom a dose? The only reason that triggered her off is Yash's mom' s insistence about Yash meeting Pooja. No other purpose. When Raj's dad did not totally approve of Priyanka, why did she not console Priyanka when she was also crying so much? Everybody out there has a motive and Gulabo did not only suport Gur but was dissuading Yash's mom in interacting with pooja. Simple truth!

Tell you what, with that atttude and with that rude behavior, Gur will be lucky if any MIL likes her for her son

Originally posted by: bhidesm

What made you think that respect for elders is equated with taking abuse from the elders ?

You have mentioned that Gurpreet is ahead in cooking and rangoli design.

In both these activities, it is important to have perfect amount of all ingredients.

In cooking, food will be spoiled if amount of spices and salt is reversed. Rangoli will not look good if colors have been overlapping each other.

Similarly, in family, every member has his / her role. If a family member opposes others without proper understanding of the issue and without proper manner, then clashes may crop up.