Who should have called Ovi or Armaan?W Pg.15 - Page 3

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

40 years is a long period . It is NOT the onus of the child if the parents choose to believe another sibling over her to salvage a relationship but a full right to be hurt and pained at a realization that no relationship ever existed .

Ideally the daughter they disowned should treat them as if they were DEAD .

Archana did nothing what-so-ever for Ovi...she did nothing...zero, just giving birth shouldn't make a child obligated to the parent...Archana just rooted for her adopted kid, baas. The adopted kid always wanted to be the center-piece of attention and she just made sure about it by hook or crook. Manav, the Dad was useless under the influence of 'beautiful' Archana. I don't see him missing Ovi at all...so much nonchalant is he, that he was 'going' to look for Ovi after Ankita's marriage - and who is Ankita to Manav?? no one really - as he is still unaware of Soham's connection to Ankita. Both leaves India and has not been shown to 'look' for Ovi...no worry, no nothing...so, now they know that Ovi is missing - or at least not with Arjun. It doesn't make them worry about a person missing - wouldn't we be worried if a person or a child goes missing ? Yet, they are planning for the 3rd wedding of a 40+ yr daughter...wow, and Ovi should care for Arman, Why??? Really, why is the onus on her - when Mom is happily shopping gold for the 3^rd marriage of a daughter...only thing I can say...this adopted daughter is one lucky girl...she has got it all - and she has got it because she satisfies some ego of the mother - Parents are selfless - oh, my foot...

I am not sure how one can debate in a vacuum when all characters and actions are interlinked. At my age and all the experience that comes with my job and life, that is unrealistic. Besides, when bashing is on Ovi - everything seems to be orderly, unbiased and neutral - the moment the other side is presented it becomes a problem - how, may I ask??? May I ask, what is the exact issue here - that ppl aren't bashing Ovi to their hearts content and saying she is to be blamed - is that the problem here??

Ok! The question now is whether or not the topic of the thread I started is realistic! Actually, I don't mind that at all. At least it is not about upholding or critiquing a character.

Soniiya dear, I did not want to return. But I think clarifying what I meant by the topic and the disclaimer has become necessary. So, I will do just that. And I do this in a friendly spirit since I think it is often necessary to clarify your position in a healthy debate.

What I wanted to talk about is this: Should the current track about parents and daughter not being in contact with each other and especially parents not taking the initiative to contact a child be an aspect of the plot of the show that is titled "Pavitra Rishta" - a show in which the lead characters are supposed to be ideal in their relations?

Of course, a story cannot be told without characters and their actions and what we are talking about draws on what the characters in a story have done. Yet what a story presents through its characters are themes. And it is possible to talk about whether or not a particular theme in a particular track is consistent with the larger theme of the show Pavitra Rishta.

My idea that this aspect of the story is not consistent with the larger theme of the show is based on my agreement with the widely held belief that parents' love is unconditional. At least that is the ideal and I happen to agree with it. Whether this is true can certainly be debated. And some people obviously will have a different opinion. But it is not necessary to make absolute judgments about any character for such a debate. In other words, one can refer to incidents and actions of the characters without saying X is inherently this or Y is inherently that.

In general, I do not want to discuss characters in absolute terms in a story that is still unfolding, especially in a daily soap like this, because the writers (who are the creators of the characters) themselves do not know how they are going to make any specific character behave in the next episode. They turn characters positive and negative rather flippantly. So, if the creators of the characters themselves do not know the essential nature of a character, how can we as viewers know what is going on in the inner mind of that character? It does not seem possible to me. It was in this sense that I said I would not like to discuss any specific character.

Finally, I did not make the thread to present Ovi as a victim, but just to discuss the theme mentioned above. And in the story, I found it inconsistent that parents like Armaan who are referred to as ideal by all others would not even try to inquire about their daughter in 20 years, however difficult she might have been as a 20 year old. And the inconsistency is compounded by the fact that they thought she was with Arjun. A single phone call to Arjun to inquire about Ovi and her child would have clarified everything. Sure, they or Arjun did not know Ovi's whereabouts in Australia. But once this was cleared, Arjun could have told Ovi about the inquiry in the next communication and things could have turned out differently. This is certainly a question of fairness as many have pointed out; but it is also about parental love in my view. And yes, people mature as they age from 20 to 40; but for parents, their child always remains a child no matter how old they grow.

I guess I have clarified my position. I do not need to say more. Others can take the thread further or truncate it the way want.

Once again, this is only a friendly gesture in the spirit of healthy debate.

Bye!