How stupid can this get?:Mod note pg19 - Page 18

Originally posted by: pari87

Hilly and sowmya girlsss!

I work doing research on alcoholism too , but the neuropsychology part of it!

Wow glad to have met 2 people in the same space too!

:)

Originally posted by: Kalapi

I am not sure Pallavi dear, why are you making such comments. These so call women you talk about here are taking of a fictional show and character. I hope you aren't thinking that the actress is talked about. For why should anyone do so? In fact, we should applaud this open conversation for it gives us the peek to what is still the reality. I have seen many members share their own experiences here, what they did when faced with abuse, or an extramarital affair. If we are the pretend and say these are acceptable, no big deal that will send out a wrong message to many younger impressionable minds who also read these posts. Ppl should in my opinion always paint a true picture of what they have seen and experiences, so that we share the truth to ppl who might not be aware off. Now, if you have seen acceptability and abundance of unwed pregnancies in India - well and good, if I haven't that fine too. Let just be frank with each other in such debate without pretense or be prejudice and influenced what could be an deal' condition/situation to appear cool or progressive. I am sure all members are old enough to draw their own conclusions- no need to become 'judgmental': as you yourself said before and such debate will really be much more constructive. After all, to me , this is the purpose of a forum - to have a frank and open discussion platform

Originally posted by: Kalapi

I guess a foursome is warranted now 🤗, not for alcoholism, but I think we are all related😃, although PAri I should have realized that from where you live😃

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Being open-minded means to accept that mistakes can happen and women who get pregnant before marriage dont need people's high-pitched indignation and curses in addition to all the problems they are facing.

It doesnt mean supporting the act itself but being humane and sympathetic to an unwed mother.

Its not attitude to premarital sex (God, how everyone is obsessed with that one act😆) but the whole attitude towards an unwed mother or a fallen woman in society. That attitude links to abuse, rape and molestation. The attitude of keeping a woman in her place and punishing her for a mistake committed by both a man and a woman.

Like most sane people said after the horrible Delhi case, people have to change their attitudes towards women and girls. Just because shes wearing jeans and is out late at night with a guy doesnt give men permission to rape her!

Now Pallavi dear, we are in a forum - how do you think we should discuss the issue of premarital sex? To me, what have been shown in PR regarding Purvi's preganacy hardly happens in a country like India, right? Now, if you want to change the perception that India has towards unwed pregnancy, IF is hardly the platform . For most members are from outside India. Your debate should be taken to the public. Here we talk about the storyline and criticize from the POV of being Indian and what could have happened if this really happened to a girl in India...this is trying to show a true picture, that is all...

Ovi did binge drinking in the first 3 months of her pregnancy which damaged the fetus to some extent, had the fetus been a healthy one, it would also have survived the accident like Pari.

I can confirm these facts with my doctor friends at the next party I meet them. 😊

I acknowledge it was a horrible thing to happen but Ovi was partly responsible and she herself admits to her mistakes in the vdo to Arjun, she also mentioned her drinking.

My dear, as Sowmya said, if Ovi's baby was unhealthy or in any danger surely Onir could have said so. He gave her an all clear certificate. Ovi fell on her stomach flying out of the open car that came to a stop at full speed. The impact and that sudden stop could cause a certain shock through the womb and damage the brain...such strong impact will cause the foetus to be in a stress situaton.This couple with the wait to get a transportation to the hospital plus that of getting her operated could be the final nail in the coffin. In my own experience, foetus stress can happen fast and if the doctor couldn't/didn't act fast - the baby will be lost...do check what I said with your friend..

Originally posted by: sowmya_jairam

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Oh yes, Dear, Bengal is much more progressive than many other states. For example, I felt totally safe travelling alone in a taxi on the streets of Kolkata even at 9 pm. But I would never dare to do that in Delhi. or Bihar...or MP etc. Women are still respected more in Kol than in other cities. People address us as Didi or Boudi and seldom misbehave.

Dear progressive in what sense...in having extramarital affair, is that really progressive? when the consequences can be so grave if some young girl isn't ready. Or you mean, travel in safe because Kolkattans are getting their need fulfilled from having huge sex session that include premarital sex. Actually, I think none. Kolkatan are much more respective to the woman folks in general. Not only that, femal foetocide is one of the lowesrt in Kol and dowry death is also lowest, But, I don't find that is corelated in anyway to having more sex or being engaged in premarital sex. I could be interested in such studies if ever done...

You never heard of any out of wedlock baby in Kol, maybe u dont know the same set of people that I do...Kolkata is anything but conservative! 😆 Sometimes even I refuse to believe the things that go on in many upper middle class and upper class families! Lower classes are no better, everybody is sleeping around with everybody else. 😆 American TV soaps would be put to shame!

Also maybe u have led a sheltered life and dont know what goes on in other households. I am many years older than you and as they say "mainey duniya dekhi hai" so speaking abt real life cases here.

As for lower classes, that kind of behavior is rampant not only in Bengal but elsewhere in India too...we have lived in 4 states of India and our maid servants had stories that would turn our hair prematurely grey! 😆

Of course we grew up in conservative way, my mother was very strict, didnt even let us cut our hair but she never stopped us from wearing jeans or pants which was in fashion in our times too. We got married early, had kids and now kids are grown up...so have seen a lot of the world and its inmates. Kind of made me accept that anything can happen...

Well, you seem to open for me an alternate reality in the form of Sex life of Kolkatans - must say, I belong to not an unwealthy family (not by any means), but rather an established professional family - but I haven't heard of any...I guess I will accept what you say, even though I come from Kolkata...

will add the maid servant part a little later

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Dear progressive in what sense...in having extramarital affair, is that really progressive, when the consequences can be so grave if some young girl isn't ready. Of you mean, travel in safe because Kolkattans are getting their need fulfilled from having huge sex session that include premarital sex. ctually, I think none. Kolkatan are much more respective to the woman folks in general. Not only that femal foetocide is one of the lowesrin Kol and dowry death is also lowest, But, I don't find that is anyway related to having more sex or being engaged in premarital sex. I could be interested in such studies if ever done...

You never heard of any out of wedlock baby in Kol, maybe u dont know the same set of people that I do...Kolkata is anything but conservative! 😆 Sometimes even I refuse to believe the things that go on in many upper middle class and upper class families! Lower classes are no better, everybody is sleeping around with everybody else. 😆 American TV soaps would be put to shame!

Also maybe u have led a sheltered life and dont know what goes on in other households. I am many years older than you and as they say "mainey duniya dekhi hai" so speaking abt real life cases here.

As for lower classes, that kind of behavior is rampant not only in Bengal but elsewhere in India too...we have lived in 4 states of India and our maid servants had stories that would turn our hair prematurely grey! 😆

Of course we grew up in conservative way, my mother was very strict, didnt even let us cut our hair but she never stopped us from wearing jeans or pants which was in fashion in our times too. We got married early, had kids and now kids are grown up...so have seen a lot of the world and its inmates. Kind of made me accept that anything can happen...

Well, you seem to open alternate reality today in the form of Sex life of Kolkatans - must say, I belong to not wealthy family, but rather an established professional family - but I haven't heard of any...I guess I will accept, even though I come from Kolkata...

will add the maid servant part a little later

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Dear progressive in what sense...in having extramarital affair, is that really progressive, when the consequences can be so grave if some young girl isn't ready. Of you mean, travel in safe because Kolkattans are getting their need fulfilled from having huge sex session that include premarital sex. ctually, I think none. Kolkatan are much more respective to the woman folks in general. Not only that femal foetocide is one of the lowesrin Kol and dowry death is also lowest, But, I don't find that is anyway related to having more sex or being engaged in premarital sex. I could be interested in such studies if ever done...