My dear Soumya (and my dear Vasu too),
Soumya, brava! A completely coherent and lucidly argued post. I have done an acid take on yesterday's episode on Janhvi's and Kools' threads, for I had to get it off, sore eyes or not.
But this is from a different angle. You are absolutely correct re: the highlighted part, and also about the whole chain of fact and fiction, and the unwarranted deduction re: Ovi's baby and Romil.
I have always, even is the days when Ovi was getting on my nerves big time with her tantrums, felt that these self-serving ideas being floated for self-evident reasons were disgusting, and I have said so time and again.
This time, though it has nothing to do with the baby angle,
how on earth can Ovi's taking a call from her erstwhile friend and business agent - and I am sure she took the call, and why not?
- be construed as her 'romancing' him? And what is it about the miraculous timing? He might have been trying to persuade her to return off and on, for she was a profitable client, or he might have been in India and called her as an old friend.
While I am on the topic, I do not see why Purvi should not 'romance' her legally wedded husband either. In fact, I wish she would make up her mind, stop behaving like a yo yo, and go off with Onir. If not to Kolkatta for fear of being stoned, why then she can come to my civilised city, Pune, and I will undertake to find them something better than a kholi!
As things are, Onir must be alarmed at the prospect of having to provide for not just his
Mishti but the baby as well, with all the attendant demands on his near empty purse,and without any means of livelihood. He is slender in build, and I do not see him lifting boris and unloading trucks as Manav used to do. Moreover, for all her airy pronouncements about people living without houses, when push comes to shove, Purvi is no Archana, who slept on the pavement without complaint. Purvi starts asking for a
thikana, and if they had the baby as well, Onir would never know a moment's peace.
If she does go off to the Kirloskar mansion with Pari, all the practical problems would be solved, except that it would paid to the last shred of self respect left for Onir and make him look like a
pucca cuckold.
Yes, it is a harsh term, but that is exactly what he will look like then. Yesterday, he had already begun to look very strange, hovering in the background while his wife was kissing her
beti and the
beti's father was trying hard to muscle into the frame. It was pathetic. No one, at least not in India, would respect a husband who allows his wife to carry on in this fashion. He would be promptly branded a
namard. Even I, with my liberated outlook, have had as much as I can stand of this sort of broadmindedness. Onir might have accepted her with all her baggage, but I wonder if he had signed on for this roadside tamasha.
Shyamala Aunty
Originally posted by: sowmya_jairam
I am not picking and choosing at my convenience. I did not say anything about the comment on Ovi going shopping--coz that's true. It was shown, and I cannot refute it and say Ovi was trying to divert her mind from her current circumstances by going shopping. Can I? The latter is just my analysis, the former is a fact--that she did go shopping. Just like onir and purvi were romancing. At least what I thought of as romance, and there's nothing wrong in it. They're married and at least one of them is in love, so all power to them. Honestly, I don't think anyone is at fault for the kidnap--not even arjun, who is even incapable of hiring an efficient nanny to look after Pari. People take their kids outside and sometimes, they get lost.
Some fans are angry that purvi is romancing her husband, period. But the anger at purvi in the forum in general is because she really did not have the right to tell anything at all to arjun about pari. She gave up the baby, for whatever reasons and lets not get into that right now, immediately after giving birth. Did not take the baby back when the deceit was exposed, did not even take the baby back when arjun literally begged her to since pari needed her mother. She has not been a mother to pari in any sense, and she can not demand anything from arjun or ovi (who had taken care of pari so far) regards pari. She cannot randomly go and assert her rights as a parent when she refuses to take any responsibilities towards the baby---they go hand in hand. Even now, I can bet you that tomorrow she will hand pari back to arjun and backtrack once again. If she doesn't and takes pari with her instead, I'll be happy to lose the bet. Being on the streets is no excuse. Arjun is the father and everyone knows it, he will more than gladly provide support for his baby's needs.
About Ovi and romil. That is not fact, it has never been shown or expressed by any character in any way that there was/is anything between them. It's not just feminism or being prudish. Punni had affairs with married men, and that is fact. I actually like her coz she knows exactly what she wants and how to get it, and neither is she ashamed about it nor does she lie to herself. Purvi did try to do some weird kind of sting operation with mittal when she learnt of his affair with punni. Ovi also has been accused of pretending to flirt with other guys to make arjun jealous (back in Canada). I may or may not like comments on my fave character on the show, but if somebody makes comments on these incidents I really cannot refute them because they are facts, they were shown.
But there is absolutely nothing to indicate anything, even a close friendship between ovi and romil. In fact, the only times the character is even mentioned is when they want to refer to ovi's modelling career. This is also fact. How then, can you suggest and then judge her on it? Have you read the posts, even by members I think generally make sensible posts, that ovi's baby is probably fathered by romil or some random dude? There have been many, many of those---some expressed even now. Is there -any reason for such a suggestion other than a wish/ an excuse for arjun and purvi to reunite? In some way, though I have no idea how. Even if ovi had an affair with romil and her baby was his, that doesn't automatically mean that arjun-purvi can or will reunite because as we know, onir married purvi knowing she was pregnant and accepted her baby as her own. What other reason could there be for wishing and hoping that ovi's baby was fathered by romil?
The point of my post was this. That you, like a lot of others were maligning a hated character, a female, for something that she clearly has not done. At least there is no evidence for it. If you talk about the dratted deal, I will defend it if I have the patience for it. But there's no defense here because you cannot prove a negative. I replied to you because I have read some of your posts, and while I don't agree with a lot of it I did think they were sensible. We can analyze characters and their actions in any way we want based on what is shown to us. We should not create assumptions out of nothing and then judge based on those assumptions, right?
Originally posted by: archis_2013
Hold on pls.. I am sorry, you have not been reading posts in this forum including mine before you write such response.
It was in response to a post which criticised Purvi romancing with her husband and forgetting about Pari which I have found in many a post that all os us have seen while we were shown she explaining to Arjun on why she cannot take the baby back. If walking on the streets of Mumbai on a hot April day, going to jails etc, etc as they have shown so far sounded romantic to you, why cannot I point a finger at Romil whose call she received out of blue and then, she announces that she will do modelling without even consulting with her father?
Either we all go strictly by what is shown on our television sets or go by how we perceive the show is. My friend, we cannot pick and choose at our convenience.
And lastly, I too am one of those modern women who have a professional life, who interact with many men and women of all ages and have travelled many a times alone for business reasons. And I have seen personal examples of friends who had past relationship that for reasons they had to continue with the interaction but their current partners trust them fully. I clearly understood I was crossing lines when I wrote that. But that was exactly my point. I had written a lengthy email to Tiyali on the matters of trust. When you can all "understand" Ovi and she crying foul at Arjun for every meeting with Purvi even in public places like marriage halls, malls, at office and even at family functions and every thought of theirs as unholy, why cannot I construct something over a guy who himself said he had proposed to Ovi to marry him early?
Yes, I support Purvi most of the times because I think I understand her. I have also supported Ovi in few threads, including this. But I see red when every action of Purvi is criticised and every action of Ovi is glorified irrespective of whether there is logic in it or not. That is what I call as hypocricy.
Lastly, I truly like the way you write , the message sounds sincere without the sarcasm. Pls do continue.
Shiv Shakti
