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RapChick101

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Posted: 12 years ago

#51

Sorry.

I disagree.

Why?

I wouldn't bother explaining.

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sashashyam

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Posted: 12 years ago

#52

My dear,

What a truly admirable model of decisive brevity!👏

I am greatly impressed, and I do wish I could follow your example. But alas, I am too old to change my prolix ways!!😉

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Originally posted by: AttractiveAdya
Sorry.I disagree.
Why?I wouldn't bother explaining.

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Winzy

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Posted: 12 years ago

#53

Originally posted by: ..aastha..
i dnt understand the definition of nautanki.
When ovi made tamasha of her life, father's repution and spoiled the celebration of others , it was nt nautanki bt it was real side of ovi. When she made deal of parents realationship at that time it was nt nautanki but she was true fighter who was fighting for pyaar. When she was forcing her father to live with archana (who was worst woman for her at that time) just becoz of her deal it was nt nautanki infact at that time she was satyavadi who accepted that she made deal as if its matter to feel proud. Ovi can make many public tamasha thats nt nautanki thats real side bt purvi just tried it once that also becoz of her daughter so thats nautanki.

Ovi tried to kill her child but that was nt her fault. lol. She was victim of hormones. But when purvi gave her child to real father that was disgusting, nautanki and many more. Ovi refuse to take treatment frm onir just becoz of her personal conflict with purvi that was normal. Kill ur child bt dnt leave ur personal grudges thats nt nautanki bt if u take care of child when u r pregnant than give up without harming ur kid thats nautanki.

Any mother would react the way purvi reacted. Infact ovi was doing nautanki. She always made public tamasha whenever she was in pain so why nt today? Becoz she dnt care.

Purvi is wort mother bt much better than ovi. Atleast purvi never tried to harm her child. She never tried to kill her own blood.

If after giving up her child purvi has no right to cry for pari than even ovi has no right to do drama of maurning when she herself tried to kill her child nor she has right to do any show off for pari after she refused to accept her. Rules should b same for every1.

But here i find ovi is VIP who has every right to commit crime while purvi is nt allowed to make mistake.

Well all I can say is the irony of the forum , Ovi has always known what she wanted yet she is the bad one for coming in between Mahaan premis. Ovi just proposed a deal , but the other two people encouraged her in every way possible. You know if the premis loved each other so much , they could come up with something smarter than actually going through the deal.
Ovi tried harming her baby, but you didn't watch the episode where she wanted to have an abortion but aai stopped her !?
She thought the baby would bring them closer but Arjun was too busy in Purvi's dreams
Yeah Purvi doesn't become bad for giving the baby to her biological father , she becomes bad for misleading Ovi. She becomes bad for doing unnecessary bhalai.
Why wouldn't Ovi survive the truth of her baby then if she is surviving now ?
She could take consent from Ovi and Arjun before giving the baby
That's why she becomes bad
Lets suppose purvi's reaction was normal , but she can't say I gave you my child because I thought you would take care of her , that's a joke
As you said Ovi was irresponsible with her baby
What was the guarantee she wouldn't be irresponsible with Pari ?
Ovi is the "bad" one , yet why does Purvi keep sacrificing for her
Punni is no better than Ovi , in fact Purvi doesn't even know Ovi as much as she knows punni
Why doesn't she sacrifice for her instead ? Lol
She says , she is not Paris's ai one moment
And the next she storms into the D house and yells at Arjun
What if no one found out the truth ? Would she still say main uski ai
If she would say it then I would understand its not nautanki
But now it is
Because she has to show her mahaanta

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

#54

Interesting discussion

Agree with all of hilly's posts

my views

The Romil sarcasm [ and please , i am NOT referring to any particular post in this thread but talking of the general forum view ] always was to paint Ovi as characterless ...the one thing she was NOT . Infact PR showed Romil only fleetingly , for one episode , i think . It was the forum who simply pounced on this as if it was waiting for something . They had called her love 'obsession' [ note that when Arjun ran after a married woman and refused to control his emotions it was sighed over fondly .]

The constant references to being with 'boys' in Canada , her usage of men and branding her as conniving were same .

I found her being in a group as harmless as Purvi being in an office all day with male colleagues.

I found the Romil sarcasm baseless always .

I found her one time usage of boys to make Arjun jealous the harmless gesture of an unmarried girl who want's her man's attention . Recently , i saw Purvi rushing in Onir's arms to send some message to Arjun on Holi day . Now true ,the man was her husband , but he was keeping a careful distance with her , sleeping on the floor etc . To top it she knew his feelings for him ,she had heard his confession of love in the nasha of bhaang . Yet she used him . I guess that usage is ok for he is so called prop of a husband . Anyways i am ok with that as it can be called harmless .

I don't want to bash Ovi for going out or shopping or attempting to forget Arjun Pari and the horrendous experience she had of her baby not bcoz i love her character or bcoz i dislike Purvi's character . She has NOTHING to clutch on to . No person to share her feelings , a family that wants her to take care of her husband's love child and go back , a husband who is SO hung up on the ex that he tries to save the doc who disposed off her baby ...infact the husband doesn't even acknowledge it was HIS baby too , he calls it HER baby . The maternal grandmother doesn't even bother about her but constantly suggests to her father to help the daughter who wrecked her life . The paternal grandmother is in favour of her going back to nanny her hubby's love child . The alcoholic grandpa wants the same , he never cared about her anyways , only about his drinks and spare time chamchagiri of bou to rankle his old wife . Real nasty piece of work . The twin sister doesn't care enough at all , never did . The mother is in coma but even if she was there she would have sided with the home wrecker daughter . Most partial woman where kids were concerned . Useless for her bio kids .

The way she survives is in keeping with her character . She drinks when she is depressed , chooses NOT to go to her sasural when lies that wrecked her life r exposed , and tells her family in a curt 'all is fine' voice that she hopes the real parents will find Pari soon but goes in and privately wrestles with mixed feelings .She had acted as if all was dandy for two whole days when she came to know of her dead child before bursting out .

Her Canadian upbringing is brought up to comment sarcastically on her naivete on pre marital sex , her spoilt attitude , various things . But i am amused to see that it is not brought up with her ways to deal with grief or try to be normal .

Why she should go back to her husband or sit whole day with a non supportive family beats me .

This is not a case for her bcoz i am her fan , but this is how her character is . Neglected , judged , unloved , alienated and not perfect . Growing with experience , dealing with grief as she deems fit . She once told Archana

I go to hi fi parties coz they accept me for what i am , there i don't have to pretend .

Of course it was too deep for Archana to understand . She is just not sensitive enough . She lives in la la land and understands everything at face value .

I don't have a problem with public tamashas when pushed . The serials NEED them . I had a problem with Purvi's tamasha as a mother coz she has done NOTHING for the baby . Ever since Ovi washed her hands off with disgust , Arjun has . He is inept and clumsy but he has genuine feelings for THAT baby , i would never categorize that as nautanki . His silly high handedness with the inspector is in keeping with his character . He loves the baby much more than Purvi claims in all her maternal dramas just as he loved Purvi truly in the ARVI equation . Purvi never loved him , she is incapable of love for ANY man . But Arjun is capable of love . If Pari has a bio parent that truly loves her its Arjun . Not her mother Purvi . And after never ever taking the slightest responsibility of her Purvi catches Arjun's collar and makes him answerable to HER . What a sorry laugh . Yesterday was the perfect day to redeem Arjun's character , he should have given her a hard public slap . The public tamashas r fine , but they need some base . Ovi's had one . She had found out some shattering lies . Purvi's public tamasha will be acceptable when she has a justification . When its not so baseless and hypocritical .

I also don't have a problem with Purvi romancing her husband . In fact i say she should romance properly . Sleep with him , have his kids . I only want her to take responsibility of her baby too . She has come across as someone who has forgotten her responsibility and is freaking out like a hippy who embraces and enjoys glorious poverty and hippydom . But i admit , i am indifferent even if she goes back to Arjun .

Its Onir in the Kaand Trio that interests me slightly but so long as he keeps saying 'We did NOTHING wrong' he gets NO sympathy from me . Yes he DID do something VERY wrong and guilt would develop his character .

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Tejaswini Wenham

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Posted: 12 years ago

#55

Originally posted by: archis_2013

Now, you are taking the discussion out of context to what my original response was about.

Statement 1: Purvi is shown romancing with her husband and intentionally not taking care of Pari - tejaswiniwenham and many times over in the forum.

This was either a fact or perception.

My comment to tejaswiniwenham: This was definitely a perception as she is shown struggling in her life and from her phone call with Arjun, she explain why she still wants to give a chance for Arjun-Ovi.

Statement 2: On the same note, Ovi was shown leading a normal life and shown getting a call from Romil out of the blue and in the next few scenes, she announces to her dad that she is taking up modelling.

My comment to tejaswiniwenham: By interpreting Statement 1 the way you want, I interpret Statement 2 as Ovi romancing with Romil. If 1 is acceptable, why is not 2?

Some more facts for your benefit, so pls do not get emotional and jump into conclusions

-> I have never till this day have claimed Ovi's child as anyone else apart from Arjun's. It did sound illogical that they reconciled so quickly but so is the rest of the show

-> I have said that Ovi should have a life of her own and she should move on.

-> I have said that Ovi cannot be forced to take up Pari and act as her mother. From how I have understood Ovi to be, this will not do justice to both Ovi and Pari. But I am not the CV of the show

-> I have said that Ovi would feel for Pari's kidnapping as she is the one who has taken care of Pari. It does not matter who the biological mother is.

So, I did not bring any other context about Ovi or Purvi in the equation but you did in your response.

If all this hue and cry about my one statement on Ovi, pls do go around the forum and respond on similar lines to what filth is being thrown on Purvi's character. To every response on the thread that every conversation between Jeeju-Saali was in bad taste and had "gandhee" motives, pls put forward similar comments on being broad-minded that you cared to let me know.

And ask similar questions to people who act as moral police and others who support them with their like button. I will accept with remorse that my assumption on Ovi-Romil romance was wrong.

But if you are also one of the rest who believes Ovi is above reproach but Purvi is not, I have nothing more to say. I will not waste any time further and I will move on.

ok i had to reply at this stage. i was by no means even suggesting that purvi gave up pari to romance with onir. my statement simply meant that she claims that she would die without pari but she has been without her for ages and seems to be functioning fine- thus the reference to the romance. romance has many definitions-not just hot passionate rain scenes but sitting at a pav bhaji stand and just talking to your partner is a form of romance. and romance with her husband is something thats completely acceptable. onir and purvi romance dearest is a fact shown on screen. yes they are struggling- what onir did for her was illegal and this is what happens when people do illegal things-its a fact. purvi romancing onir ( the throwing water in his face, the eye-locks, hugs, purvi's sharmana at his confession- all romance) is by no means comparable to the assumption that ovi was doing the dirty with romil who had received screen space a totality of 4 times maybe. that too as ovi's colleague and friend. idk whether he was interested but ovi for one has never unfortunately been interested in anyone but arjun. and she is an adult why would she need to consult with her dad about how to start her life over when clearly she is lucid enough to have a clear idea of what she wants to do. her dad is a fool who saw purvi arjun hugging and then went back home and asked his daughter to take up the role of a free glorified nanny for purvi's child.

ovi is absolutely not above reproach but niether is purvi. now if you say ovi deserves more reproach for the deal than purvi then yes i agree. if you say ovi deserves reproach because she drank during her pregnancy then absolutely. but if that is compared to purvi's giving pari up, then ovi's mistake was corrected by her as soon as it dawned on her that she was playing with a life. purvi still doesnt think she made a mistake but rather it was good intention. purvi's good intention cost ovi and arjun grieving time with their dead child, cost ovi and arjun their marriage, cost onir his license, cost pari her mothers, cost purvi her child. so even if it was initially good intention it now simply a bad decision that needs to be rectified. she has taken no steps towards that as of yet. all i see is a shouting girl reproaching arjun like a crazy harpy for loosing pari when she herself handed pari to someone she thought was insane about 10 seconds after her birth. she said she gave her up because she thought arjun would care for pari- wasnt it for ovi's bhalai before? she had many chances to take pari but she chose not to. suppose ovi had accepted arjun and pari by now, pari would be their child. purvi would have no right to reprimand them on parenting or call pari her child because it may be her egg but she hasn't parented for even a single hour. its easy to judge and cry and make dava's of great mamta, but its a totally different ball game to raise children- changing their diapers, staying up all night, feeding every 4 hours its hard. and unless you've done that, you can't really just give up your child and come back everytime something goes wrong, cry a bucket, exercise your rights over the child, alienate any of the parents who do the actual work and then hand the child back and leave. yes she is upset as she should be, she's a mother. but either pari is hers and arjun's or she is ovi's and arjun's. onir may b ok with arjun being a constant in their grihasti but ovi is absolutely not. if she accepts pari then purvi can have nothing to do with her and purvi is aware of that. so either she takes pari or she leaves pari. thats it.

as far as arjun and purvi's meeting in public places being comparable to ovi meeting up with romil then really not. arjun and purvi are both adults who need to understand that they cannot meet each other like this as they shared a romantic past that one of their respective spouses is very uncomfortable with. im still to date not totally comfortable with my stepsons mother and shiv (my husband) interacting too frequently. i know they are just friends now and i dont express it but i also know that they were incapable of staying just friends when we were engaged and also before our marriage. shiv understands that and doesnt really meet her unless im there. he most certainly does not lie to me after having met her or after having gotten a phone call from her. thats what encourages bad blood. arjun and purvi are not stupid... they should know better than to interact so frequently in parties or in restaurants. as far as talking about pari is concerned then it can be done on the phone or in arjun's office- somewhere more professional than a hotel or a coffee shop or sneakily at parties.

ovi on the other hand has never really ever given anyone a reason to doubt her and romil. they have a professional relationship and nothing more than that. her going and meeting romil in a coffee place has a completely different context.

im not a purvi hater. i actually quite liked her till she decided to stick to arjun even though ovi was her aai baba's daughter. you dont pick a guy over family. i even appreciated her telling arjun to maintain distance the other day but that about it. the rest of her screen time consisted of bad decisions.

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rayadallie

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Posted: 12 years ago

#56

Originally posted by: celina30
I agree with you but I think purvi over reacted but Its justified as pari is her child no matter what angle you look at it. I probably would have reacted the same if I were in her place. It all happened in the spur of the moment.

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Priya Desai

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: bonibright
But,My Friend,did Purvi do that??She just created a scene,accused Arjun n cried buckets..When Arjun asked her to take back PARI,because Ovi will not take care of her,Purvi refused to take PARI back..I am sure even now Purvi WILL NOT take PARI back..But she'll create such dramas from time to time..If Purvi now decides to take PARI back from Arjun n take care of PARI herself,Then I dont have any problem..But I doubr whether she'll do that even now...

I know right?! She had no right accusing Arjun of being an irresponsible parent when she herself gave up Pari in two seconds. I swear, Purvi is bipolar or something. When Ovi didn't know the truth about Pari, she literally ran to that child every second and even breastfed it. I feel she did this to prove she's a better mother than Ovi. Now when she knows the truth she says Pari isn't hers and acts like she doesn't care for it all. She doesn't really care for Pari and all she ever did was use he and she's still doing just that. Pari should def not go to Purvi. Next thing you know, Purvi would just sell her off or something so she can peacefully romance with Onir without a baby crying in the middle. Pari should just be with Arjun and if Ovi doesn't accept the child that's too bad. He'll have to raise her single-handedly, which many parents do now these days. It would be hard, but I think she's better off staying with Arjun only.

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rayadallie

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: archis_2013

Lol..I am a little tired of these die-hard romantics who see romance in everything 😆

If what was shown so far looked like Purvi romancing, then Ovi is no better isn't it? She is supposed to be grieving over her dead child and boiling over how she was she so naive about her childhood sweetheart's not-so-secret life before their marriage but she is busy going on shopping trips and romancing with her, er.. other friend Romil. I am still puzzled about the timing of Romil's call. This guy has a third eye and knows when to strike the deal... Really, a modern day miracle.

Oh, I forgot, there are different moral scales for Purvi and Ovi ...

Let the grand debate now begin ... Whose romance is now more pavitra ... 😊

I like your post very much 👏

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rayadallie

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

So agree with the @ bold. Ovi wants what Purvi has or what Purvi wants. Purvi now wants Pari and Ovi is seen angry and curling her lip. It will not be long before Ovi lays claim to Pari. Stupid Purvi, all she had to do when she learned that Ovi did not want Pari was to say, Pari is hers and she is taking her back. Ovi would have come unglued like a toppling Berlin wall and would have swooped the baby out of Purvi's arms.

As for Purvi not caring for Pari, she did the same "nautanki" in the hospital when the baby was sick, the same "nautanki" when she asked Arjun to take care of Pari as she was leaving the hospital, the same "nautanki" when she told Onir she could not leave to Kolkata leaving Pari behind, the same "nautanki" when she asked Onir to call Arjun in the middle of the night, the same "nautanki" when Ovi left the baby on the bed (the very same action for which Ovi yelled at Ramu kaka), the same "nautanki" which led her to nurse the crying Pari in the car, the same "nautanki" when she pacified the crying Pari before handing her over to Arjun at the temple and telling him Ovi will come around and so she could not take Pari back. Yes, these actions are all pretense but Ovi declaring that the parents will soon find Pari is hidden pain. Poor girl, Ovi. She can rant and scream and let her emotions be known to the world when it pleases her but this grief over Pari going missing she has to keep close to the bosom of her heart.

I am loving your post so much. I hold back writing all this on another post as I dont like to make my post too lengthy. 👏