Purvi did the right thing today - Page 7

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Now, if I may...will Purvevi take Pari and go back to her kholi???

Or Pari stays back with Arjun, and Purevi parks herself at the Kirloskar mansion, with I guess Onir...

Or should Purvi divorce Onir and marry Arjun...what is the option now???

Originally posted by: rayadallie

I guess we should wait on the WRITERS to shed some light rather than argue over nothing.

Originally posted by: sashashyam

My dear,

What a truly admirable model of decisive brevity!👏

I am greatly impressed, and I do wish I could follow your example. But alas, I am too old to change my prolix ways!!😉

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Originally posted by: sashashyam

My dear Soumya (and my dear Vasu too),

Soumya, brava! A completely coherent and lucidly argued post. I have done an acid take on yesterday's episode on Janhvi's and Kools' threads, for I had to get it off, sore eyes or not.

But this is from a different angle. You are absolutely correct re: the highlighted part, and also about the whole chain of fact and fiction, and the unwarranted deduction re: Ovi's baby and Romil.

I have always, even is the days when Ovi was getting on my nerves big time with her tantrums, felt that these self-serving ideas being floated for self-evident reasons were disgusting, and I have said so time and again.

This time, though it has nothing to do with the baby angle, how on earth can Ovi's taking a call from her erstwhile friend and business agent - and I am sure she took the call, and why not? - be construed as her 'romancing' him? And what is it about the miraculous timing? He might have been trying to persuade her to return off and on, for she was a profitable client, or he might have been in India and called her as an old friend.

While I am on the topic, I do not see why Purvi should not 'romance' her legally wedded husband either. In fact, I wish she would make up her mind, stop behaving like a yo yo, and go off with Onir. If not to Kolkatta for fear of being stoned, why then she can come to my civilised city, Pune, and I will undertake to find them something better than a kholi!

As things are, Onir must be alarmed at the prospect of having to provide for not just his Mishti but the baby as well, with all the attendant demands on his near empty purse,and without any means of livelihood. He is slender in build, and I do not see him lifting boris and unloading trucks as Manav used to do. Moreover, for all her airy pronouncements about people living without houses, when push comes to shove, Purvi is no Archana, who slept on the pavement without complaint. Purvi starts asking for a thikana, and if they had the baby as well, Onir would never know a moment's peace.

If she does go off to the Kirloskar mansion with Pari, all the practical problems would be solved, except that it would paid to the last shred of self respect left for Onir and make him look like a pucca cuckold.

Yes, it is a harsh term, but that is exactly what he will look like then. Yesterday, he had already begun to look very strange, hovering in the background while his wife was kissing her beti and the beti's father was trying hard to muscle into the frame. It was pathetic. No one, at least not in India, would respect a husband who allows his wife to carry on in this fashion. He would be promptly branded a namard. Even I, with my liberated outlook, have had as much as I can stand of this sort of broadmindedness. Onir might have accepted her with all her baggage, but I wonder if he had signed on for this roadside tamasha.

Shyamala Aunty





Aunty,

That automatic assumption, no fervent wishing that there's something going on between ovi and romil has always disgusted me, especially since she's accused of being obsessed by arjun in the same vein. When everything shown is testimony to the fact that she had foolishly and blindly loved the loser arjun and placed him above everyone else, including herself. Her blinders are slowly but surely coming off, and she's becoming a much better person for it.

Did you see today's episode btw? I happened to catch the update, and OMG! does it look awkward or what? Your posts about a menage a trois seem to be coming true, and in a very uncomfortable, awkward, disgusting way. I feel pity for Onir. Ovi has let go now, and even when she was holding on tight she had the guts to speak out when the amar premis were doing their amar prem thing. So they didn't have the guts to do it in front of her. They met behind her back, in secret. Onir on the other hand has been so understanding that he's been taken for granted, like a chaperon, a front while the amar premis do their thing. I can't believe how it must be for him to be watching that scene play out in front of him, without anyone bothering about him at all. He has become a cuckold, a man who has nothing and has lost everything he did have. This is such a complete ruin of a man, or a woman--that it's astounding.

Oh btw, I loved your update on the episode. Hilarious and bang on! 😃

Edited by sowmya_jairam - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Sowmya, I have seen children who seem pretty well-balanced despite being shuttled between two if not three different sets of parents. Objectively speaking, I don't think it hurts a child to have two mothers that truly loves him/her or two dads that love him/her. I have seen amongst close friends the issues they have with the spouse's ex or their ex's current is usually a battle between the adults and their egos, the children seem pretty resilient.

I work with this girl whose husband left her 2 months after their baby as he did not want the responsibility of being a dad. They had the most romantic of weddings, he proposed sky diving, they seemed to have been made for each other. She threw a reverse marriage/divorce party honoring "new beginnings" when they broke up and she had a rough time initially leaving the child with the guy and his steady stream of girl friends. The child recently turned 5 and the dad is now married to a very sweet girl whom my friend truly likes, the boy splits his time bet/ both parents and has two equally caring, fun loving moms. I know of another whose husband's ex is a total nutcase not in regards to the child but in respect to the guy himself, the woman is needy, and expects to be waited on hand and foot because she gave birth to his first child. My friend has 2 little kids and raises her husband's first son as well but again the boy has two mothers, they in fact bought houses in the same neighborhood so it is easy for pick up and drop off of the child.

That said, I would never be able to share my child with any other mother but that might be only because such thinking is anathema to the way I was raised. But I do agree that Purvi should stop thinking of Arjun's and Ovi's marriage and take the baby back. If Ovi has issues with Arjun visiting the baby, etc, Ovi and Arjun should deal with it, with divorce or understanding. If Purvi gives Pari to Ovi, Purvi should lay down some rules that the baby is hers and she has rights over her too, visitation, etc. This has gotten to be such a stupid story it does not even make sense anymore, I am so glad PV is ending because the producer did not want to mess up the story. Wish Ekta had the same sense.

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Sowmya Purvi told Onir errr Ramukaka today that there is something which can be done abt his medical license...Wonder what she will do? She did not open her freaking mouth in the court..

Ramukaka Onir will understand now how Ovi has felt and dealt with these 2 amar premis charades in front and behind her back for the past 1 yr...lets see if he can deal with it for a yr...I think he might get dumped like a hot potato in no time as his work-use is done...MMLA is itching to be with the ex soon...If Onir gets out soon than he can save humilliation otherwise he will be watching 2nd baby by product of these 2 amar premis...Pari will have bro or sis 😆

Great posts Homie, Kools and Sowmya...👏

Janhavi I love how you holding on to your love for laadli Purvi 👏 wish she deserved your love and loyalty😳

Originally posted by: archis_2013

Now, you are taking the discussion out of context to what my original response was about.

Statement 1: Purvi is shown romancing with her husband and intentionally not taking care of Pari - tejaswiniwenham and many times over in the forum.

This was either a fact or perception.

My comment to tejaswiniwenham: This was definitely a perception as she is shown struggling in her life and from her phone call with Arjun, she explain why she still wants to give a chance for Arjun-Ovi.

Statement 2: On the same note, Ovi was shown leading a normal life and shown getting a call from Romil out of the blue and in the next few scenes, she announces to her dad that she is taking up modelling.

My comment to tejaswiniwenham: By interpreting Statement 1 the way you want, I interpret Statement 2 as Ovi romancing with Romil. If 1 is acceptable, why is not 2?

Some more facts for your benefit, so pls do not get emotional and jump into conclusions

-> I have never till this day have claimed Ovi's child as anyone else apart from Arjun's. It did sound illogical that they reconciled so quickly but so is the rest of the show

-> I have said that Ovi should have a life of her own and she should move on.

-> I have said that Ovi cannot be forced to take up Pari and act as her mother. From how I have understood Ovi to be, this will not do justice to both Ovi and Pari. But I am not the CV of the show

-> I have said that Ovi would feel for Pari's kidnapping as she is the one who has taken care of Pari. It does not matter who the biological mother is.

So, I did not bring any other context about Ovi or Purvi in the equation but you did in your response.

If all this hue and cry about my one statement on Ovi, pls do go around the forum and respond on similar lines to what filth is being thrown on Purvi's character. To every response on the thread that every conversation between Jeeju-Saali was in bad taste and had "gandhee" motives, pls put forward similar comments on being broad-minded that you cared to let me know.

And ask similar questions to people who act as moral police and others who support them with their like button. I will accept with remorse that my assumption on Ovi-Romil romance was wrong.

But if you are also one of the rest who believes Ovi is above reproach but Purvi is not, I have nothing more to say. I will not waste any time further and I will move on.