Dear Ashfaque,
I agree, but are you sure you are ok with the biting satire in Sanjana's post?
She is not exculpating Arjun and Purvi, you know. What she is saying, in this excellent example of black humour, is that there has been a whole host of equally reprehensible happenings in PR ,that she has carefully listed, and which the forum swallowed without protest, so why the hungama now? The last sentence
@ red sums up what she is saying, and it is refreshingly cynical enough to please me. But I am surprised that you are pleased with it as well.
As for me, my main problem is
not with the morals angle, but with the stupidity of it all, and the totally irresponsible things that Purvi did AFTERWARDS.
If she had not been incredibly lucky, she might have, besides demolishing Arjun's life, also ended up putting both her life and that of her (and Arjun's ) baby at grave (and totally avoidable) risk.
She does not have sole rights to the baby and she has unilaterally deprived Arjun of his rights.
More important, nothing gave her the right to put the baby's life or future at risk,
when she could have, at least after the anniversary party when she found out the truth about the Arjun-Ovi marriage, told Arjun to get a divorce, then endured the scandal she deserved, and finally married him. What followed, which is a worse mess than ever, is thus
solely her doing. Not Arjun's, except in the sense that he was fool enough to obey her every command, like a puppet.
Next, there is her passing off her running away to save herself from the scandal as another
mahaan tyaag by her to save Ovi's marriage. Ok, you might argue that she had to tell this lie to let Archana agree to her going away. But she could as well have told her the truth, and Archana would have agreed just the same. It would have at least been honest.
Not just this, but
Purvi repeats this lie ad nauseum to Archana in Kolkatta, lamenting that what she did then (aka her latest tyaag) had not borne the hoped for fruit of a normal Arjun-Purvi marriage. And all the while she knows that her real motivation was totally different, and anything but laudable.Is this hypocrisy or not?
All this apart,
for me, what is unacceptable is for such folly and irresponsibleness on her part to be rewarded, as they are undoubtedly going to be, here and in PR, with hosannas and a halo (for Purvi, that is). So I am fully with Sanjana, but perhaps (and pardon me if I am mistaken here) is a sense different from yours.
Aquanymph might object that I have drifted off topic, but I had to say this somewhere, before I quit this forum for keeps, and if might as well be here as anywhere else. From now on, I shall be spared all these dysfunctional goings in PR, which will undoubtedly be very good for me.
Shyamala B.Cowsik
Originally posted by: ashfaque2012
SUPERB POST. After this post read then I think any new comment need. No more bashing ARVI.
Originally posted by: SanjanaBw
Isn't this exactly what the creators/Ekta wanted? Long threads, vehement arguments, polarized opinions, party divide, increase page hits and all result in TRPSš. Amazing how we fall into the trap every time.
Just my point of view, us as audience have always been forgiving. Manav and Archana mistrusted each other, not for 18 hours, or 18 days... for 18 years. We were OK with that in the end because it is just a show. In real life no two people who love each other just walk away like that.
Archana didn't see her kids for 18 years for no fault of the kids. I never watched the show that diligently so I am not sure what happened. But certainly doesn't hold any resemblance to real life. We moved on because it is just a show. I am surprised that her kids don't hold that against her. If it was my mother, I can't imagine living under the same roof no matter who is at fault because a lot happens in a girls life in 18 years. Her kids forgive, forget and move on. I guess it is just a show.
Savita abused her daughter-in-law mentally, psychologically. Lied, cheated, accused and what not. Any person with any level of self respect will not put up with that crap . I am not sure if us audience ever stood up against that and said enough is enough. We watched and ignored or came to terms.
Sachin and Shravani had a kid before wedlock. We were OK with that. Shravani left her kid for god knows what. I can't imagine how all these mothers walk away from their kids like that. But then she was just a side character in the show. Varsha had an affair with a married man, walked aways from her wonderful husband who I think was really cute (:-). Kidnapped a kid, lived with a goon without marriage. Not sure if we opposed that on moral grounds this strongly.
Vandu's husband Ajit abused her, harassed her and threatened her before and after marriage. Not sure how much of that was opposed. Vinod and Manju manipulated elders. God knows where Manohar is. May his soul rest in peace. We moved on.
For those who have watched the show more diligently I am sure they could find a lot more and may be this is the tip of the iceberg.
We seem to be OK with everything that is morally wrong. Why such a commotion now or may be this will pass too? Given all the history and forgiveness, in the end if Arjun marries/lives with Punni, Purvi, Ovi, Soham does it really matter? Nothing else seemed to matter in our cultured society.
Just my POV.
Cheers.
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