Tej - a positive force - Page 3

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Dear rash, I am not saying Archana did not tell Purvi about Manav at all, of course, she did, that is why that foolish girl developed such an attachment to her baba.

Archana told Purvi her dearest wish was to reunite with her family, not once but constantly, it did not matter if she told Purvi once that her family did not want her, that makes it clear that even though that is her dearest wish to reunite, there is something impeding that reunion. Archana told Purvi that her family was not happy with the Arjun/Purvi marriage and that it had made her position more difficult, she did not disclose to Purvi that even if the marriage did not happen, she could not go back on the divorce because of her promise to Sachin.

I am not saying Purvi was not stupid, she was grossly stupid. I am not saying Archana did not want Purvi to get married to Arjun, she did. I am not saying Archana does not love Purvi or prefers her over Ovi. I have written several posts that Archana loves Purvi perhaps more than her own kids. All I am saying is as a mother, she needed to have been a bit more careful in fostering a bond between Purvi and a non-existent dad, it is also unnatural for a mother to fill a young child's head with her own dreams of reuniting with her family, that becomes a burden on the child, especially to an adopted child. Archana is not perfect and that is my opinion. She is not a bad person she has great good intentions but it is not possible for me to view her as above reproach in every circumstance. She did keep secrets from Purvi, that is a fact. She did for a moment in time forget Purvi in her new found happiness at meeting Ovi (archana herself acknowledged this to Sulo), natural for any mother to do that, no blame on Archana for that. She did go decked up to Ovi's reception, leaving Purvi alone at home. She did not ask Sulo to stay back. At least Manav thought he left Ovi with his family when he came to do Purvi's kanyadan.

I am sorry if my opinion does not agree with yours, it is not meant to hurt or offend but that is my point of view. Where Savita and Manav are concerned, I am happy that Archana is finally going to get her share of justice especially so because that has been brought about by the efforts of her own daughter Tej.

Originally posted by: Jaishankar

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Rashi you nailed it..The blind love of Purvi for her Baba I believe is one of the main reasons..Guess reasoning giving by first Archu and then by Manav (he even got angry on her for her repeated requests to accept her Aai and come to her kanyadaan) did not sink into Purvi.

I think Purvi developed a gratitude that she needs to return favor to her Aai.If I am correct Purvi was the one who repeatedly kept saying to Archu that Aai you gave given me so much love even though I am not your own blood. Yes, Purvi did create this in her own mind, why was it not discouraged? Not by mere words but by not talking of the lost family repeatedly to an impressionable child. This repeated statements became a solid order that Purvi created in her mind to follow that overpowered her love for Arjun.

I think its a combination of a delusional dream/blind love to be with her Baba and get his blessings and have her Aai united with her family which formed the root cause. Jai, I believe the seeds of that delusional love were planted by Archu, with every good intention but nevertheless by Archu. Otherwise Purvi would never get dreams of Archu re-uniting with her family in her own marriage party thrown by DK.

Her guilt/gratitude ot weighted her thought process unfortunately .Purvi forget that in mother daughter relation there is no give and take policy and all Archu expected in return ws Purvi to be happy with her marriage.I agree with this 100%, Archu did not expect or want her to sacrifice her happiness, that was Purvi's own senseless doing. Her yearning for her Baba and wanting to get her Aai happiness (For Archu it was Purvi's marriage,for Purvi it was the D's) caught up with her badly.

The fact that Archu stood what was right ,Purvi took in a whole different angle that her Aai is sacrificing her happiness for her which was so not true.Archu had another important reason for the divorce apart from the senseless sacrifice that her daughters hated her and no body wanted her there in that family. and Archu's own promise to Sachin by which she was bound, she needed to have told Purvi this to allay her guilt and her unhappiness, a mother is perceptive to her child, Archana knew Purvi would do something silly, her conversation with Sulo alerts us that she was aware to some degree of Purvi's obsession in returning her Aai's happiness to her and the extent she might go to do that. Purvi's delusional love oversaw this important fact that the D's were not ready to accept her Aai and will only hate her if she went there,Purvi made her own decision on her Aai's happiness. I agree Purvi made her own decision but perhaps if she was in full possession of all facts, her mother's promise to Sachin, she might not have made this senseless sacrifice.

I think Purvi would be happy if Manav accepts her as his daughter officially and ask her to be with him.For her ,her Baba is the first man in her life.

Purvi's delusional blind love for something she has no control over i.e trying to find a non-existent Aai's happiness is the crux of this senseless sacrifice. I agree 100%

Archu tried her best I am not too sure she did but guess she could nether convince Ovi or Purvi both were caught in their own delusional blind love for respective causes.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Jai, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that Archana's love for Purvi is unsullied and true but Archana is just as foolish as Purvi or is it the other way around like mother, like daughter? While Archana never in her wildest dreams wished or wanted Purvi to make such a sacrifice for her, she did have a hand in shaping Purvi's thinking right from a young age. It is unhealthy to fill a child's head with promises and dreams of a father that is not in the picture and to keep talking about her lost family to this same child. Archana might have done this because as I wrote in one of my older posts she loves Purvi as her soul child and poured everything dear to her into the child's formative ears. She also did keep secrets from Purvi, no denying that and Purvi unfortunately paid her back with the biggest secret of all, tricking her mother on her own wedding day. A crime I would never forgive my daughter for if she ever did that. To me Archana is not God and only God can be perfect so Archana is not perfect, she is a lovely, loveable human being with great principles but not beyond making mistakes even if they are unintentional.

Originally posted by: Jaishankar

Rashi you nailed it..The blind love of Purvi for her Baba I believe is one of the main reasons..Guess reasoning giving by first Archu and then by Manav (he even got angry on her for her repeated requests to accept her Aai and come to her kanyadaan) did not sink into Purvi.

I think Purvi developed a gratitude that she needs to return favor to her Aai.If I am correct Purvi was the one who repeatedly kept saying to Archu that Aai you gave given me so much love even though I am not your own blood.This repeated statements became a solid order that Purvi created in her mind to follow that overpowered her love for Arjun.

I think its a combination of a delusional dream/blind love to be with her Baba and get his blessings and have her Aai united with her family which formed the root cause.Otherwise Purvi would never get dreams of Archu re-uniting with her family in her own marriage party thrown by DK.

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Originally posted by: Jaishankar

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Janhvi dear ARchu kept saying in the reception that all are happy coz her Purvi sacrificed. IT was Sulo who was making her quiet. She even stated the same to Ovi and in fact also called Purvi in between.It was on insistence of Purvi that both went. Just because that stupid girl insisted does not mean they had to give in, they should have slapped her and told her to shut up (kidding on that last part) OF course one could have stayed back but well Purvi gets her way with her Aai and her Aaji so she insisted them and they agreed as usual.

ITs other way around on the prompt of Purvi saying/reminding indirectly Manav came to her Kanyadhan (thanks to the emotional stuff from both Archu n Purvi) ,it was time for Archu to support him.Archu had a small guilt there and then she decided to go.So no way did she not think about Purvi infact all the time she was thinking about Purvi and going around saying it was all coz of Purvi's sacrifice.So I cant agree that she did not care about Purvi there ..My POV .. Jai, of course she cares about Purvi, she even tried calling her on the phone, I am not faulting her love or her concern for Purvi just that she needed to have stayed back or have Sulo stay back. Moms make mistakes too, you know, doesn't imply they are wicked.😉 Though I have to admit, Sulo irritated me yesterday, she changes like the wind.

And regarding Archu decked up it was Anki more than Archu there 😆 and Anki clearly mentioned in SBS that whilte saree was her very own and she was fed up crying in the show and wanted to look good .That was more the honest to the face Anki and not Archu 😆. I have no problem with Anki dressing up, 😉 you know that, she is gorgeous, no doubt. Remember when she came to Ovi's b'day party in that ordinary sari ? she looked stunning in that. Not that she should have dressed that simply but the dressing up yesterday did not suit the sombre occasion and to her the reception was sombre as she was not happy with the situation.

Everyone were impressed by that dress of Anki as she was looking dead gorgeous but Anki has that choice to choose her wardrobe..Of course it does not match well the situation but when has PR made sense so we can overlook so many senseless craps and go ahead this deck up is nothing compared to that 😊..PR is not giving her anything ,its her own choice and her fans are quite happy about it that she looks stunning 😉

Originally posted by: Tanyaz

I agree with Jai and Rashi here .If you see this show from 6 months back , you will see that Purvi is almost obsessed with the idea of having her Baba in her life . Somewhere I always knew that she will do whatever it takes to have Manav as her father .

He too looked shattered in the party because of what has happened to Purvi .I hope that he will play a big role in making Ovi understand to give up Arjun and end this zabardasti ki marriage .

As for Teju , she was fantastic .My favourite character she is now .I was disappointed the way her role was looking all last month but good job that she is back with a bang .👏

Originally posted by: Jaishankar

Janhvi Archu can never be God or even close..She has made her share of mistakes and she is paying for it big time.The main props with Archu is she is too selfless to be true to even herself.Her principles and beliefs of trying to keep all happy does not have practical results unfortunately.She is like that unfortunately.She is a wonderful soul but her props lies when she tries to find happiness for others by sacrificing her very own which has destructed her life time and again. I hope that her miseries are at an end and if she does take wrong decisions in the future, she will have her practical Tej to take care of her and gently guide her.

Purvi is a mere shadow of Archu's upbringing.Purvi's mistake is that she failed to understand that mother-daughter have no give and take policy.Archu adopting her and bringing up does not mean Archu is expecting something in return. You hit the nail on its head, there is no give or take in a mother-daughter relationship and as Archana herself tells Ovi parents also readily forgive children their mistakes, unfortunately or fortunately.

Both are wrong for doing senseless sacrifice but even though Archu might have unintentionally vested thoughts of how she is missing her family in trying to make Purvi understand that yes I miss my family but you cannot do anything about it,its done and dusted now.This message was wrongly taken up by Purvi. Yes, one fool to another.

In short communication gap but in the end the decision came from Purvi which cannot be neglected and on that particular day Purvi took the decision which Archu had no control over and ruined many lives which is hard real fact. Purvi had no business taking that decision, I have called her an adhikaprasangi elsewhere not sure if you saw it.

So Archu can be blamed but at the end of the day Purvi took the decision on her own and she has to face the consequence of it seeing everyone suffer. Sadly the mother suffers too along with the child.