IN defense of ovi- from an arvian :) - Page 2

@varsha di thank you for the comment and flowers
i agree the old confident arjun was much better then the mechanic arjun ... but its the cv's who make and then ruin the character

Fantastic post dear...You stated such unbiased valid points..I really loved the way you co-related Ovi's pain to a pain any girl can have in reality once betrayed.Your post was precise,exact and conveyed what Ovi might be going through right now. Wonderful post my dear..Kudos to you for writing such a lovely post..I enjoyed readhing each and very line..I agree with everything you have mentioned..I also hope that CV's do some justice to Ovi's character here..Well done my dear..👏👍🏼😊

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Originally posted by: mjht_ArVi4ever

OK guys I am ready for your chappals and tomatoes to be thrown at me so i am already ready with my protective shield

Now coming to the main point, there are many topics regarding ovi being mean, cruel, inhumane blah blah blah. Even i agree that yes her behavior is inexcusable. But then there are many factors that has led her to such a point that she is only filled with emptiness, bitterness and hatred.

First of all even i believe that ovi's love is obsession but are we so sure of it. Her feelings are one sided but maybe she truly loved Arjun. At the age of 14 she claims to have started loving Arjun; the age where one does not even know what love means but then as she grew up her feelings emerged strong and she was firm in her decision of having Arjun as her life partner. Even Juliet fell in love with romeo at the age of 14 (claimed by some), if her love is true then i think we can give Ovi the benefit of doubt as well. By comparing juliet's love with ovi's I am not saying that ovi should get Arjun but all i am saying is that her feelings should be respected.

Now the factors that led her to become what she is now.

SAVITA - she filled the girls with so much hatred for their mother that it is just impossible to replace it with love.Tej being the strong one was able to digest the fact that their abandoned them and so her hatred towards her mother is not very strong. But ovi the childish, barbie doll, sensitive and protective baby was not so strong. For her the feeling of being abandoned meant being rejected. The feeling of hatred for her mother was much much much strong then her love for anyone.

ARJUN- Our hero as we all see him. I want arvi but then if I look from the point of view of a girl even i will feel betrayed. He promised marriage to Ovi out of compulsion or as we say due to ovi's trick, but the bottom line is he agreed. Now after coming to India he fell in love with Purvi which is not at all his fault, love can happen anytime anywhere and with anyone; its not in our hand. But after accepting his feelings he should have directly told ovi about him not marrying her. Agree he tried but that was not enough, if not Ovi then he could have told it to manav or tej atleast. Now after the engagement fiasco the lame excuse he gave of not telling ovi added fuel to the fire. His concern was termed as love by Ovi. After clearing the doubts and earning few thappads from Manav he redeemed himself but that redemption was at the cost of rejecting ovi. And here we once again see that ovi is being rejected by her childhood friend - cum - one sided love. So how on Earth can we expect Ovi to accept the bitter reality of being rejected.

ARCHANA- Whatever the reason be but somewhere the twins do hate her for leaving them alone. And it would be best or better if she tries to help ovi come out of this state just like indirectly she once helped savita out of her illness. And to top it all the Arjun challenge thing has once again proven to ovi that her aai preferred purvi over her.

Manav- what he did in last epi was the final stroke to shake ovi out of her wits. Her baba considers purvi equal to the twins. As a good human being what manav did was very nice, but that same act of his has made ovi think that due to Purvi her baba rejected her or ignored her plea.

A girl who was pampered and treated like princess now after few months lost everything to "us aurat's" adopted daughter. For the world Purvi is not wrong because she never forced archana to adopt her, she did not coax arjun to fall in love with her, she did not ask manav to treat her like the twins; so Purvi is not at fault. But for ovi she is at fault, her aai gave the motherly to Purvi which she was deprived off , her childhood friend whom she loves promised marriage but then fell in love with Purvi, her baba for whom tej-ovi meant everything said that purvi is similar to them. So overall the bitterness that ovi has in heart for Purvi is understood, and characters like that of ovi are to be found in real life as well.

We love positive characters like purvi and archana coz of their achchai but then we must not forget that people like ovi are in majority. I and you would also have reacted the same way if we were in ovi's place, even we would have despised Purvi. All of us have a violent streak in us,which will be visible one day or the other.

We say that ovi was clearly told that arjun does not love her, but is it really possible to come out of the trauma so easily. Is it really easy to believe that your beautiful dream that was so priceless to you has been written in someone else's destiny. Is it so easy? the answer is NO. In reality it takes month and sometimes years and if you are really in love with that person then it even takes a lifetime. Some people accept the bitter truth and move on coz they have already faced the hardships of life and know the world, but ovi never faced the real world she never worked hard for anything and so its very very hard for her to believe that her love is not hers anymore.

I love ArVi to death and I hate ovi for what she is, but for my blind love for arvi i cannot forget the fact that ovi has been wronged. No matter how much I love Arjun but the fact remains that his silence caused ovi a major heart break. I am not against arvi because I am die hard fan of theirs but then i dont want to say ovi is wrong.

In future Ovi will definitely be the villian coz in ekta's show ex girlfriend/wife are always shown to be pshyco, but for once i will not blame ovi but the situation for turning her evil.

OK now i am ready with my shield, you guys can throw chappal and ande. By this post i dont want to start a fight but want a healthy discussion on what you guys think about OVI. If you think I am wrong then please do tell me coz even i would love to know your views. 😊

😲 GOD i wrote such a big essay... did not intended to write so long but well what i can do 😆 ... sorry for the long post and i know you will be bored after reading such lengthy and nonsense post😆

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i can sense ovi's hurt and stuff and that is relatable but the part which makes ovi cruel and obsessive is the fact that she still thinks that arjun will be hers...hating purvi is understandable but thinking that arjun will leave purvi after getting shot for her and still wanting her by his side is bordering psychotic so yeah that is when the "hating ovi" syndrome starts. BTW great writing

wonderful post!!!!!!!!!!!! I too love ARVI and I do feel for Ovi but yesterday the way she was crying and carrying on was so unnecessary I loved the flashbacks, which should of been enough to let us know how much she still loves arjun, but the crying and acting like she is the ONLY one is so devastated by arjun condition was too much. Even purvi or DK who have ever right to feel as if their world had ended did not act like that. After everything Arjun has done to show everyone including Ovi how much he loves purvi. Ovi still has blinders on. Someone like Manav or Tej needs to sit that girl down and give her a reality check.

Kesha, beautifully written with so much understanding and maturity of thought. Yes, Ovi has every right to feel bitter and feel betrayed, we all agree. As for the violent streak in all of us, I prefer to call it the animal instinct of survival that is present in all of us.

Unfortunately, for Purvi, Ovi's angst has turned into hatred for the girl who was not consciously responsible for whatever has gone wrong with Ovi's life. While we all have the animal instinct, how we respond or control that instinct is still within our power. Ovi needs help in suppressing her well justified but misplaced hatred towards Purvi.

Let us not forget in our eagerness to empathize with the wronged one that just a few weeks earlier, Purvi was in a similar situation. The love of her life (even if she had not loved Arjun since she was 14, for a girl of her upbringing to step out of her comfort zone and confess her love had been Herculean) who had promised to declare his love and commit to her in front of all ended up getting engaged to someone she did not even know existed in his life until that evening. She had no one to go to, no shoulder to cry on when she saw Ovi indulge in PDA in front of her very eyes. It is to her credit that she did not react violently or meanly, she advised Arjun to return to Ovi, did everything to stay out of their way. Granted she knew he loved her or maybe she had doubts that she had been double crossed but she conducted herself in a way that was beyond reproach.

Yes, Ovi knows Arjun does not love her, unlike Purvi as even while being engaged to Ovi, he kept insisting he felt nothing for anyone other than Purvi, and this knowledge of unrequited love may add to Ovi's grief. Ovi has her family, her aaji, her sister, her dada and above all her baba in her hour of need. The lack of a mother is a not a new thing for her, she has lived without her for 18 years. Yes, it is a void that cannot be filled but time is the biggest healer and while her bitterness is understandable, her haranguing against her Aai is not.

The girl is not 5 to be mollycoddled which is what Manav is doing. They need to sit her down and put sense into her. Not expect it of Arjun anymore, he is out of her life and best friend or not, at fault or not, matters not at this point. It is the responsibility of her immediate famiy to rally around her and not encourage her in this madness, to nip it in the bud so to speak for her own good. You are right, Archana would be the best person to do this, a mother's love tempered with a strong dose of common sense ought to do the trick but in the absence of that hopefully her aaji, sister and baba can work in tandem to get her back on her feet. It would be manna if Savita did put her granddaughter above her hatred for her daughter in law and told the girl the truth about her mother. That would enable the healing of hearts all around.

Originally posted by: princessjojo

To further fuel the fire, I think Arjun-Ovi would've made a relatively peaceful/long-lasting couple had they married. Ovi seemed to be okay with Arjun's workaholic nature as long as there was no other girl in his life. They were both comfortable in their conversations with eachother. Arjun also teased her at times- telling her Purvi was good looking over the phone etc. So they'd have been just fine as a couple- Arjun being the arrogant workaholic that he was and Ovi making any adjustments that she was more than ready to make to accommodate him. Any disagreements in their marriage wouldn't have been anything that Manav+DK wouldn't have been able to sort out and set right. Arjun would've never missed what he has never experienced or given himself a chance to experience (aka Purvi). As for Ovi, she would've never been the princess in Arjun's life (that Purvi now is) but he would've done what was needed to keep her happy.

A peaceful couple, yes, with great affection and tolerance for each other but lacking the fireworks, the chemistry, the fluttering of butterflies, and the thundering of hearts that accompany true love :)

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Kesha, beautifully written with so much understanding and maturity of thought. Yes, Ovi has every right to feel bitter and feel betrayed, we all agree. As for the violent streak in all of us, I prefer to call it the animal instinct of survival that is present in all of us.

Unfortunately, for Purvi, Ovi's angst has turned into hatred for the girl who was not consciously responsible for whatever has gone wrong with Ovi's life. While we all have the animal instinct, how we respond or control that instinct is still within our power. Ovi needs help in suppressing her well justified but misplaced hatred towards Purvi.

Let us not forget in our eagerness to empathize with the wronged one that just a few weeks earlier, Purvi was in a similar situation. The love of her life (even if she had not loved Arjun since she was 14, for a girl of her upbringing to step out of her comfort zone and confess her love had been Herculean) who had promised to declare his love and commit to her in front of all ended up getting engaged to someone she did not even know existed in his life until that evening. She had no one to go to, no shoulder to cry on when she saw Ovi indulge in PDA in front of her very eyes. It is to her credit that she did not react violently or meanly, she advised Arjun to return to Ovi, did everything to stay out of their way. Granted she knew he loved her or maybe she had doubts that she had been double crossed but she conducted herself in a way that was beyond reproach.

Yes, Ovi knows Arjun does not love her, unlike Purvi as even while being engaged to Ovi, he kept insisting he felt nothing for anyone other than Purvi, and this knowledge of unrequited love may add to Ovi's grief. Ovi has her family, her aaji, her sister, her dada and above all her baba in her hour of need. The lack of a mother is a not a new thing for her, she has lived without her for 18 years. Yes, it is a void that cannot be filled but time is the biggest healer and while her bitterness is understandable, her haranguing against her Aai is not.

The girl is not 5 to be mollycoddled which is what Manav is doing. They need to sit her down and put sense into her. Not expect it of Arjun anymore, he is out of her life and best friend or not, at fault or not, matters not at this point. It is the responsibility of her immediate famiy to rally around her and not encourage her in this madness, to nip it in the bud so to speak for her own good. You are right, Archana would be the best person to do this, a mother's love tempered with a strong dose of common sense ought to do the trick but in the absence of that hopefully her aaji, sister and baba can work in tandem to get her back on her feet. It would be manna if Savita did put her granddaughter above her hatred for her daughter in law and told the girl the truth about her mother. That would enable the healing of hearts all around.

Agree with every thing you have written. It is time to stop treating Ovi like a fragile barbie doll and get her to face reality. and it is not Arjun's job, it is her father's responsibility.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

A peaceful couple, yes, with great affection and tolerance for each other but lacking the fireworks, the chemistry, the fluttering of butterflies, and the thundering of hearts that accompany true love :)

Absolutely! No fireworks and no chemistry. Like I said, Ovi would never have been his princess. Neither would Arjun get the kind of life partner who would be his rock professionally and personally that he thinks Purvi is. What I also like about Arjun's feeling for Purvi is he wants her as a man wants a woman in addition to all the warm, fuzzy, pillar of support stuff.

if anyone stayed ovis place then she should be away from arjun when one boy told that i dont love you and i love other girl ,,so no way to with this stupidity how much love she that doesnt matter,,,,,,,,,girl love anyone but he dont love her so what can she do ,,,,,,,,,,,and most important think arjun never admitted his love for ovi,,,,,he always admit as a best friend so why this stupidity ,,any self respected girl cant stay with this stupidity like ovi ,,,life is too short ,, if she has any self respect ,,,self respected girl should tell that move on with your life and i also move on in my way ,,,,,,,so plz stop ovi defense ,,,ovi is not worth of it,,,,,,,,,,,,,she is just spoil,,,,,