Expecting Too Much - Aa Jao Saarey - Full Update Page 1 - Page 29

Originally posted by: _Reka_

Or just that she took everything upon herself and no one else actually kept track of all that stuff 😁😁

Of course, because they were all busy fighting, crying and dancing. 😂😂

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

They used to talk about money a lot pre marriage. In fact, it used to be the source of quite a lot of arguments between HS & Babita.

As for financial priorities, Babita put all the responsibility of bringing in an income onto HS. Dunno what his stance is on the matter.

Agree, but there is the problem - they used to _talk_ at all pre-marriage... Now they are busy doing other stuff instead I guess. Just hope they can balance it out sometime soon

Originally posted by: _Reka_

Now, I'm more or less Babita’s age and have heard this phrase or sthg very similar a few times in my life. To tell the truth, everytime it happened I felt like "well, I won't hinder you but also won't actually support you, just do whatever." so if a guy would tell me this on a daily basis, I would be rather worried that he just doesn't care. I wonder how come babita doesn't want his honest opinion on stuff... Like she did before, see those night conversations in their previous aka pre shaadi life...

Yes! I'm still in my early twenties and an ex best friend of mine used to tell me the same thing. This "do whatever you want" crap pissed me off like there was no tomorrow because I just shared you my problem and all you have to say is do whatever you want?? What if I don't know what I want? What if I end up making the wrong choice?? Then what? Again, do whatever you want??

Before, HS told her "your life, your wish", but he also gave his own opinions on the matter. Then, after hearing his perspective, Babita did what she felt was right. It's the whole reason why they had the whole chamach scene. They were flirting with their boundaries but still wanted to express their opinions so that the other didn't feel bad.

Idk if I made sense, but HS' philosophy right now can end up doing a lot of damage. He needs to have equal say in matters. It should be, "our life, our choice".

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Of course, because they were all busy fighting, crying and dancing. 😂😂

In hindsight I even got why the writers included all that mehndi lehenga drama. Just to give a thought what _not_ to fuss about 😳😅 like really when they showed that I was wondering about thd catastrophe that was to come as a contrast to all that petty fuss

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I'm already getting annoyed by it. I mean, there has to be a limit to it at some point. When it comes to inflicting harm onto others or oneself, then where will his "your life, your wish" go?

Yes, there should be freedom to do what one wants, but absolute freedom isn't good either. There's a reason why we have laws and regulations put in place.

Exactly. Aisa kahi nahi hota where you agree to everything your partner says.

Both are going to extremes here.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

This discussion is either implied or didn't happen at all. There is no in between when it comes to Hanita. 😆

Take it as implied. 😆

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Yes! I'm still in my early twenties and an ex best friend of mine used to tell me the same thing. This "do whatever you want" crap pissed me off like there was no tomorrow because I just shared you my problem and all you have to say is do whatever you want?? What if I don't know what I want? What if I end up making the wrong choice?? Then what? Again, do whatever you want??

Before, HS told her "your life, your wish", but he also gave his own opinions on the matter. Then, after hearing his perspective, Babita did what she felt was right. It's the whole reason why they had the whole chamach scene. They were flirting with their boundaries but still wanted to express their opinions so that the other didn't feel bad.

Idk if I made sense, but HS' philosophy right now can end up doing a lot of damage. He needs to have equal say in matters. It should be, "our life, our choice".

Absolutely! Now I am old and confident enough to tell my husband to speak up or I'll smack him 😁😁😁😁 also I have realised that a lot of males are conditioned by their moms not to talk back and so they do with their wives but then they still do whatever they want... It's an evasive technique and it can get really annoying. Basically guy does everything to avoid direct confrontation and then a fine day he blows up right into your face over some petty matter cause there was too much building up inside.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Even I have been wondering about this. Did he not pay a single thing at all?

They never showed them discussing finances.

Entire wedding in a way questions intelligence all characters. How come all wise people- be it Hanuman, NB, Minnie or babita herself never gave a thought that they will run out of all savings that too when there is a loan to pay? They could have waited a little or toned down the lavishness, maybe skip one or two unnecessary ceremonies? But nope, a month (a week long in PB land) wedding, and now they're frustrated over empty savings account.

I personally wanted them to show a simple wedding to give message that instead of grandeur one should concentrate on emotions. Writers chose exactly opposite and that made a prefect recipe for butchering babita's character into the mess it's right now.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Sach mein.. Babita should hang out with Poonam more instead of Saroj. At least she will learn something from Poonam and Poonam would also have made her realize to not loose her identity and focus on her business as well.

Poonam is the other extreme, I still cant imagine Babes and her were friends. Poonam would be like forget everything go on a honeymoon- Personal time is more important than kids and business. Dont be egoistic and try to show HS you can be independent, be a trophy wife like me. 🤔

I haven't seen any balanced character in PB yet. Babes should take tips from Kammo how to manage house and business. That lady gives it back to her husband real good and never crosses the fine line either.

Originally posted by: inlieu

She has to stop putting him on a pedestal. Minnie learned that already and now it's Babita's turn.

She's exactly doing that... Putting HS on a pedestal. Her dialogues hint towards that "HS Ji jaise aadmi maine kabhi nahi dekha", "HS Ji ki toh baat hi alag hai", "Ek divorcee hone ne bawajut unhone mujhe apnaya", "HS Ji ki khushi mein hi meri khushi hai", "Maine tere Hanuman uncle ka dil dukha diya".

She will learn the hard way when she realizes HS is not some great mahaan guy with no flaws. I think once HS starts to falter more, she will realize it. Also, that doesn't mean he doesn't love her. He is not perfect but he still loves her. This is what she needs to understand.