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Posted: 6 years ago
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I just saw Sanam Saeed's interview where she discussed her divorce, and what I found remarkable was the fact that she confessed that she did not want to be married with kids in the first place. She had almost forced herself to get married and leave her professional life because that is what she had seen her contemporaries do. Her mother's illness made her realize she had been deluding herself, and that she did not crave a marriage, children etc. I love how a woman from a relatively conservative culture comes to realize that about herself and goes back to her older life, with a renewed focus. While I am all for some women marrying and settling down into a conventional life, I also feel that it isn't the destiny all women want for themselves, and that needs to be acknowledged. I am tired of how many times I am told to settle down and have kids because that is the best thing for me and the most responsible thing to do. Having a celebrity come forward and acknowledge that fact is refreshing. Utterly refreshing. Its official now: I am in love with Ms. Saeed :-)

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Wow...I didn't know about this! Thank you for this topic...My full respect for Ms.Saeed...Both women and men need choices and marriage is not always the right choice...We have to realize that marriage is just one part of life and NOT the entire life...Human life is precious and we all need to use it wisely to reach our full potential- marriage or no marriage!
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Posted: 6 years ago
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I have not seen the interview but hats off to her if she made such revelations on this public platform coming from such judgemental society. I have a friend of mine and she is literally been forced to get married which she doesnt want to. Marriage is not the only thing in life and we should normalize this fact apart from straight, bi, gay people we have a considerable amount of people who just don't want to get married and raise kids and it is pretty normal.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Its extremely frustrating how in our conservative societies children get blackmailed by their parents into doing the things that they probably didn't want to do in the first place...This definitely has to change and I am so glad Sanam S has done her part in setting the right example in that direction!
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Posted: 6 years ago
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I just watched her interview . I can't decide what she did was wrong or right , have to admit I will be very concern about karma .

scary , being with someone who one day wakes up n realize this is not what he / she wants , n thinking W*F am I doing here , n then leave you like nothing .
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Sanam has been very gracious and took the entire blame for the divorce. Also she was living in Dubai and her mother fell ill and other than her wanting to continue pursuing her career and being independent, wanting to be there for her mother too, she ended her marraige. I'm sure there must be more, and Sanam hinted as much, when she said that it was difficult for a person fron non-entertainment background to have a wife still active in that field. Guess she felt it wasn't fair for both of them.
Anyways loved her chat in 'Speak your heart with Samina'. She's very grounded, mature, intense, secure and self contained.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: GrrrG

I just watched her interview . I can't decide what she did was wrong or right , have to admit I will be very concern about karma .


scary , being with someone who one day wakes up n realize this is not what he / she wants , n thinking W*F am I doing here , n then leave you like nothing .


Well, if she forcefully stays and deceives herself and the people around her, that's when she will have to be concerned about the Karma...
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: cricketfan1


Well, if she forcefully stays and deceives herself and the people around her, that's when she will have to be concerned about the Karma...


Yeah agree. Also how is one to judge such things as karma? She said she didnt want to be unfair to him and be someone she wasn't.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: cricketfan1


Well, if she forcefully stays and deceives herself and the people around her, that's when she will have to be concerned about the Karma...


Karma is what you do to others . She made a stupid choice , she should deal with the consequence , thus we say life is a test , with hardship there is ease , but when you cause pain to others , make no mistake it will come back to you .

I would love to see how would she feel if one day the guy she loved n married did the same to her . My wife is just not important to me 👏

For someone who lived in Pakistan yet doesn't know what being a housewife is , have to give it to her observation skill , it is really damn good . Plus she doesnt want to be a teacher but chose acting (Im sure for the fame , money , travelling the whole world ) well only if she realized money n fame doesn't buy happiness .
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Sanam Saeed In A Class of Her Own

Once again, Samina Peerzada has managed to make someone as private as Sanam Saeed, open up on intimate details about her life. Her talk show, Speak Your Heart with Samina Peerzada, sets the ambience where you'd want to spill the beans pleasantly.

Bagging a massive hit like Cake couldn't have been easy, but Saeed does it so effortlessly that she has become a bankable household name in the Pakistani entertainment industry. Born in London and raised by a teacher as a mother and an interior designer father, the starlet was always close to her family. "My home, my family space is my security blanket, she says. So, at times when it feels like everything's blowing up in the face, how does she cope? We'll find out.

Saeed feels like the credit for her poised and collected demeanour goes to her upbringing. Having quite an adventurous childhood, and living in a household with a balance between religion and liberalism, it surely shapes up your personality for the better. "I think our parents made sure that we were very secure as human beings. Since there's no insecurity, there's no competition. Therefore, I am very content with what I have and who I am as a person, she said.

Moving forward, she talked about how despite never being the popular, good-looking kid, she always felt like she was destined to perform. "I always wanted to perform, I knew I was always going to act, she gushed.

When pressed upon what went down in her personal and emotional life recently, Saeed revealed how much the death of her mother affected her, and her personal relationships last year. Her marriage with her childhood friend Farhan Hasan didn't last long because she couldn't manage all aspects of her life in a balance, and didn't want the person in question to be affected because of it.

"I think I couldn't balance my marriage and my mother's deteriorating health, she lamented. "I realised it was unfair to my husband to have my divided attention. I understood he deserved better and should go for that. He deserved the attention of a partner, not another headache and I didn't want to share my time with anyone else but my mother. So, when I finally gave up, I had a sense of relief.

Furthermore, she also emphasised how hard it is for someone to be married to an actor, for men and women both. Being the eldest sibling, Saeed feels like it comes easy for her to always have a sense of responsibility and be emotionally sound. Nevertheless, she is nothing less than an inspirational figure for everyone who dreams of following their heart and standing strong, without paying heed to social stigmas. And we wholeheartedly believe this step will only morph into a blooming future for Saeed.

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