I can understand Raji!

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Many of you might be frustrated with the current track but here are some of my thoughts and takes on Raji's behaviour with in regards to Karthik.

It is sad to see Raji sitting on the fence rather than taking a side ( either her dad's or karthik's) The thing is, she cannot take a side, for the following reasons: If she was to take her dad's side - she will have to marry the groom of her dad's choice and she cannot because she is in love with Karthik. Furthermore, she will be breaking his heart. If she takes Karthik's side then she might have to separate from her family or she could possibly lose her dad, considering that he has already got a minor attack. Therefore, she is stuck in the mud.

However, there is a major reason behind Raji's confusion...Raji is not just a girl but a traditional girl. She has been taught culture and tradition that which, she cannot break or ignore. For e.g. It is like your name, you cannot forget it unless you get a memory loss. The same way, I consider culture. You are born with it, you have been taught it, you cannot lose it. Not to forget that, Karthik does have some culture but not as much as Raji. He is quite westernised. Furthermore, she is a 'woman'. As I am a woman I can understand her feelings because in every decisions I make, my family comes before my preferences. I always consider my family before doing something. For e.g. How my actions will affect them? I would not do anything that would result in my family facing embarrassment. Similarly, Raji does not want to betray her heart but, at the same time, she does not want to harm her family. For her, both Karthik and her family are important. She cannot lose any of them. I totally respect her. The best solution for this is that Karthik should understand Raji's vulnerability and approach her family. He does not need to hear from Raji, whether she likes him or not. He knows that she likes him, she does not need to say it.

I want to thank the director for portraying Raji as such, because she is a good example for many youths. Hopefully, her character would allow the young society to respect cultural values and beliefs. Furthermore, hopefully, this would also change many youths' perspective towards family.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Raji is confused now thats fine bcoz she loves her father and karthik too much,but she cant escape by tagging "am a traditional girl".bcoz she already crosed those traditional mindset.Raji wants to go with karthik in bike,she wants to holds his hands ,she wants share choclates,she allowed karthik to select her dress,.in every situation she over comed her culture,so its not the reason.its just a reason for her to escape.

No one will be frustrated on Raji ,if she gets confused and feels for her dad and confused to take a decision,Here she is saying she cant love karthik ,she is confused but want to spend the time with him like before,will a girl who was sad bcoz of her dad's ill health wants to go with her boy friend for outing?? big no.Raji confuse agrrathu thappu illa,ana ava karthik ah vitu vilagi yosikanum atha vitutu ,karthik kita nerungi varathu apuram nan una vitu poiduven,nan yena love soliten ah nu soulrathum than all are scolding her . its not about westernised or traditional mindset.if she is traditional she should never have gone to karthik's house,she should never feed him food and so on.ava traditional mindset ah yeppovo kadanthu vanthuta,she must stay away from karthik and think and take a decision atha vitutu decide pana mata but want karthik to love her nu solurathu than,people hating her character. this is my POV sorry if am wrong
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I totally agree with anu...

She was a traditional girl who always dependent on her father for everything..A girl feel secure only when she feels same warmth and comfort from other relationship in terms of lover/husband after a father..When the moment raji felt it for karthik...she was totally changine to karthik's raji...But her promises to her dad that she wont do anything that her dad hates...stoping her...

What karthik is hurt and irritated is...he want the assurance whether she is strong to be committed with him throughout the life or not..Unless she gives him...how can he struggle on either his side or his parents side...He knows raji loves him like anything..Karthi's point of not standing like a sesaw of unable to decide of whether to choose him or leave him for his father...make him so hurt...He is giving not only space for her but also by avoding her...he is making her how much karthik means to raji..

Raji like vishnu said...she will herself comeback as she is in second stage of her life...She will choose karthik and confess her love..nomatter what...no love marriage will end in good result..They need to struggle...

Raji not only giving pain to herself...she by calling him each and every time his name..hurt him more...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I accept with daffodilee Raji has crossed that traditional line. I just want her to think wisely. Its not that she has to marry Karthi immdtly. She can speak her heart out to karthi and both can plan as to how they should handle her family. Karthi is ready to wait for her for years so she too can wait for her father to understand and accept her love. She is not alone in it and karthi is ready to help her. She is enjoying her time well with karthi but when the time comes for commitment she is not ready to open her mouth. Plus she expects karthi to be the same and behave the same with her which to me is selfishness. He too is a human being and u can see the hurt in his eyes. A line said by karthi touched me - " Love panravalukaga evlo naal venalum kaathirkalam but love panralanu theriyamalaye kathirka mudiyadhu". Hope Raji takes a decision soon. Plus im happy with the way Karthi is treating Raji now.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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@ anu i agree with u. All r not against of Raji. The only thing we hate her was that she says she doesn't give any promise to karthik so that she is not responsible for anything nu.
Raji ava appakum unmaiya nadanthukala, karthikum unmaiya nadanthukala.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: biancaraj


The same way, I consider culture. You are born with it, you have been taught it, you cannot lose it. Not to forget that, Karthik does have some culture but not as much as Raji. He is quite westernised. Furthermore, she is a 'woman'. As I am a woman I can understand her feelings because in every decisions I make, my family comes before my preferences. I always consider my family before doing something.

well if we consider our family everything ,then we should not kindle or agree the feelings of another person am i right friend 😊. If she considered her family,she must have stayed away from karthik at earlier stage itself.but after falling in love ,saying such things is just escapism .what if karthik consider his family and leaves raji ,what will we say "he cheated raji". but if raji does the same we will give the traditonal tag,family bond girl like that. .its not about boy or girl,before falling in love ,or before accepting the special friendship(what raji did in these 100 episodes) she must have considered her family and should have stayed away .but doing all things and now considering her family is just escapisam.Taking a decision at this time is tuff.karthik gave her time.she should say "i need time to decide".and stay away from him.here she wants him to remain the same . even as a woman i cant stand for raji.i feal she is selfish .she is not true to her dad and karthik.she takes their love as granted .
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Anu I accept your views...

Raji is confused in this issue and the mistake is she is trying to compromise with karthik for this she could try all the tricks with her dad..no dad will do things against there daughters wish...

That to mr virumandi was shown as a affectionate father...in these case he proved it too...
1)he sent Raji to work
2)he sent her outing to mahabalipuram .
3)he came to office,when Raji cried over phone...

There are sooo many examples...these were the things were he being a man from village crossed all the boundaries for his daughter...

Ival pasam vachuruka appa kita Raji ,naan karthika love panren sonna,first kovap pattalam he will surely accept the fact that his daughter is the one who is going to live her life ,so he will accept...

So pakkalam yenna director solla vararunu...!!!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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yes...absolutely I agree with anu..
when raji promised to her father,the situation was that she somehow wanted to get permission from her father to continue her job.So she accepted all the things her father told.and voluntarily promised her father.At that time itself she was in love with karthik.So she was ready to cheat her father.Or if that promise was true,she was ready to cheat karthik and she has been cheating karthik all these days.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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As suha said,her father was shown as an understanding person with lots of love for his daughter.He is ready to compromise things [sending her for job,allowing her to stay overnight in mahabs[against raji's athai's wish ],permitting her to wear modern dress in mahabs,accepts raji refusing sunder etc..]]

Raji without trying to get her fathers permission she is refusing karthik.Had she atleat tried we can accept.
Even if she feels that she needs time to talk to her father,she should have told karthik.Karthik was ready for anything,just he wanted her to stand by his side.She is not even giving that assurance .

If at all she decides to leave him,she should tell that and stay away from him.But she wants karthik to behave as a lover [ not as a friend] console her when she was crying,take her for lunch,drop her in his bike[knowing that karthik won't take any one except his mom and future wife]].

She is still saying she has not told that 3 words.so not commited.
Thanikudithanam poga keka maten,maamiyar kooda dhinam sanda poduven nra varaikum pesitu...na innum love you nu sollalaye nu raji pesaradhu thaan too too irritating.
Edited by sathya87 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I agree wid u dear but she hav to consider Karthik feelins too ! If her dad's health in danger and when she decided that she wll choose her family over karthik then she hav to let go off karthik thinkin about his future … im a traditional girl too but i would never go outin wid a guy if i know im gonna break his heart in future

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