Taboo topic 3: Should moms hide stuff frm Dads?

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anyafan

@anyafan

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Posted: 14 years ago

I disagree - poor Deepu - he lives in complete ignorance...

Meeta treats him like a 10 year old yaar... shouldn't husbands and wives face problems together - in life as do lovers? Is that what not marriage is about?

She says he shouldn't know about Navya - theek hai - she has not decided re Anant

Why should not he know about Renu????

I dont get this!!!

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@unknown2341

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Posted: 14 years ago

Defintely meeta want to share everything with deepak,not immediately, after she knows everything detail about renuka's problem,defintely she want to explain it to deepak,always she is hiding everything to deepak,this is not good thing

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Noaddict

@Noaddict

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Posted: 14 years ago

@Dee..Nice topic.I like the title taboo topic😆

Well I am of the view that husband and wife should be equally involved in situations at home.

Then what is the need for the institution of marriage😕

I am a firm believer of the fact the two heads are better than one.😉If two people look at a situation, results would definitely be better.

And in Meeta's case, this holds true to no bounds.I really doubt her IQ, EQ and whatever Q is there in this world.😡

She has no sense to handle problems in the house.Is she trying to portray herself as the ideal lady who manages the house in such a way that there are no problems😡

Why is trying to solve everything single handedly , when she knows she won't be able to sail through them.😡😲

Now, I know, from where has Navya got this devi maata ka avatar.😆

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Mridula

@imnowhere

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Posted: 14 years ago

Dee, u opened a nice topic.
But I think men's way of handling things is somewhat different than that of women. Meeta is not hiding things from a father but from the male of the family. She herself is somewhat clueless on what's wrong with Renu and Gautam. She is trying to normalize things herself. But if things still go out of hand she'll definitely tell Deepak and seek his help.

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spdp

@spdp

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Posted: 14 years ago

Moms do that, from very early on! I do that! At times, it is necessary & works out in everyone's favor!

I strongly believe Moms have more patience to deal with situations, so it does many times iron out little problems easily.

(well, today in leadership of our santAnant sexist remarks are allowed)

What Meeta is doing as of now to hide Renu & NAvya's situation - will work better for these girls. If Deepak knew about Anant early on, he might have forced Navya to get in finding suitable match & done with it! MAy be not, but possibly would have!

Renu's case too, Meeta needs to calm down Renu & figure out things first - and then surely needs to involve Deepak. Right away if he knows abt it it can create huge problemwith Gautam. No dad can tolerate daughter's sufferings after all!

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barbie2011

@barbie2011

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Posted: 14 years ago

Nice topic Dee.one more thought provoking post..i love your Taboo topics...

It is a difficult one to answer? but i does not havea single answer also..i dont think we can chose betwee nyes or no..this matter is al ittle more trickier than that...

i agree abt hiding Navya's talk..it is probably not the right time and she is not usre abt teh extent of navyasinvolvement so she is trying to handleit herself rather than making it more difficult on everybody..

abt renu's point i think she should definately discuss it with Deepu..but i guess she herself does not know abtr it, so she first need to know exactly waht Renu is gng thru and the ndepending upon the severity , she should discuss it with Deepak..

i agree couples should face everything together..but to be true.this happens a lot..we many times try t ohandle stuff by ourselves first before involving our husband, just because we think it is better if we dont bother him woth teh small small house tiffs and turns..but if the problem is serious..we do get together..even huby's dothe same thing..they dont come and discuss evrysmall problem they are facing at work or in business rgt? they will try to handle ti by themselves to the point when they feel, now this should be disclosed..i agree you'll say work and family is different..but is not how our household priorities are divided though..at least till our parents time..things are different ion our generation.now we all do things together..because both of us manage the house and go t owork too..

but for meeta and deepu..deepu takes care of the finanacila standing and meeta is supoose to do take care of the emotional standing...

So i identify with meeta..will say she needs to undertand the severity and the ndisclose..Renu's matter is fefinately very serious..so i think she will discuss it ith deepu sooon...

I am sorry it got long..but I hope i make sense..

or I guess Tamatars are welcome...

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TheRoopsy

@TheRoopsy

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Posted: 14 years ago

no not at all...he has an equal right to know what is going on in his kids life...I understand that its not the right time to talk about anant but renu why is navya's dad kept away even from that story❓only meeta ma can answer this...she thinks herself to me the super strong mom to be able to face all the difficulties by herself...duh-ah you are wrong...

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Bun Maska

@bunmaska

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Posted: 14 years ago

a very good and valid point indeed...we often get to see such cases...but Dipu has every right to know what is happening rather than being in the dark...together maybe they can solve the situation and find a better solution rather than just acting on the spur of the moment and do something that she would regret later... and moreover he is not a strict adamant character too...a very loving and friendly person

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anyafan

@anyafan

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Posted: 14 years ago

Thanks all - very thoughtful comments: this is one part of Navya I just cannot relate to. I grew up in a household where if you told one parent - automatically - the other knew!!! Period.

Usually it was not an issue... but when you grow up - either BOTH parents are your friends OR neither are... Thats not always easy. Nevertheless, for me - I loved that part. It taught me - why they are 1 unit - 2 people - 1 unit - so 1 decision - no mommy support, daddy not or vice-versa. So this whole Meeta Ma ka character - and very traditional - main ghar sambhaloongi and kids are mine - vs kaam and money yours...???

I mean - even Deepu says why did you send Navya to Kanpur for 6 weeks? IF this is a decision about kids - I dont see either of my parents making such a decision on their own - and other just saying K - you bought tickets aise hi1!!

For me - I feel - I didn't miss much - but all this stuff that people talk about like "mom (alone) is my best friend" ... I therefore find strange to swallow... how can mom be closer than dad? Or dad closer than mom?

And maybe now I am wondering: ts NOT good in some ways: whatever - at least 1 parent knows - when things are not "EASY" in the kids life? :) Feel free to tamatar me... NO Issues. I would rather hear honest views... as long as I am not invading your privacy :)... and if I did - my apologies...

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Bun Maska

@bunmaska

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: anyafan
Thanks all - very thoughtful comments: this is one part of Navya I just cannot relate to. I grew up in a household where if you told one parent - automatically - the other knew!!! Period.

Usually it was not an issue... but when you grow up - either BOTH parents are your friends OR neither are... Thats not always easy. Nevertheless, for me - I loved that part. It taught me - why they are 1 unit - 2 people - 1 unit - so 1 decision - no mommy support, daddy not or vice-versa. So this whole Meeta Ma ka character - and very traditional - main ghar sambhaloongi and kids are mine - vs kaam and money yours...???

I mean - even Deepu says why did you send Navya to Kanpur for 6 weeks? IF this is a decision about kids - I dont see either of my parents making such a decision on their own - and other just saying K - you bought tickets aise hi1!!

For me - I feel - I didn't miss much - but all this stuff that people talk about like "mom (alone) is my best friend" ... I therefore find strange to swallow... how can mom be closer than dad? Or dad closer than mom?

And maybe now I am wondering: ts NOT good in some ways: whatever - at least 1 parent knows - when things are not "EASY" in the kids life? :) Feel free to tamatar me... NO Issues. I would rather hear honest views... as long as I am not invading your privacy :)... and if I did - my apologies...

absolutely...I agree totally...

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