Who is the best? UPDATED page 4

Originally posted by: arjun-forever

wow!!...

i am just left in awe with the content of this post...

am in complete agreement with u dii...

Originally posted by: TheWandmaker

Hey Sabah 🤗 Zeejay, It means so much that you read my musings, let alone replied to them. Dil se thanks. 🤗I Love your post, you have been Brave to put forward your opinion, and i think this whole topic couldn't have been said any better! I think it takes more courage to stand near me, by pressing like or even posting. 😳😆

Competition was there But After MJHT I didn't really witness much of it, there was more of the attitude of being aloof or ignorance which i questioned myself about but didn't ask anyone Because as your friend said, everyone has their own opinion and their choice to Like/Dislike. She is one of those four, that I mentioned to you before, that group of people in my life that I depend upon. She never becomes intoxicated by the fragrance of my flowery words and always seeks to question the substance at their stems.

After reading her views, I realized that people do have rights, that I can not ignore. For instance though I would beg people towards forgiveness there is a need for justice too. I can not annex rights of people without oppression and causing a type of suffocation.

@green, True.

I guess at India-Forums hatred should have no place. If a person hates someone it's their own personal thought and judgement, the emotion should be kept to oneself and not be spread around. For It is always better to speak Good or remain quiet something i try to practice in my life.This is my point, why do people seek affirmation of their convictions. If I think that Mohit is a good actor, deserves opportunities why should my conviction falter if I find no other to support it? I should have faith in my own feelings, and strive towards doing something about them NOT seek to prove their validity to others, others who even if convinced could do little to help the situation anyway.

It is this need to prove that others are weak or nothing when compared to their own beloved that irks me a little. I mean I don't want to sound like a whiny baby [too late] but sometimes I just need to say things once, just once, whether people heed at least I tried AND then again, I say these things because maybe I am missing something that debate may enlighten me, like with my friend, like with you. 😳

The Spirit of MJHT in the forum according to me has been Lacking eversince season 2. Even I am ashamed of my actions or rather lack of actions during that time, for which I am truly trying to make amends. 😳

And i guess even you would agree, the state of heart and mind, or any possible hatred/Dislike once formed is Hard to change. Not Impossible but hard.

It requires a willingness to embrace and support, which i myself admit I Lack. I haven't been involved in the spirit of competing but i haven't been supportive of others either. yes, there is this air of scorn BUT in the words of Adam Ant, Ridicule is nothing to be afraid of.

I do understand that there are worthier causes. I mean if a millionaire's daughter needs a shoulder to cry on, I would hesitate in running over NOT because her hurt isn't valid BUT that I pass many homeless people on the way to her house that demand my attention before I am able to give it to her. However I recently made a decision, right or wrong I don't know as of yet, that out of those causes that I give my time to, 90 % of my time I give to those truly needy and 10% to those whom I love, or rather love to love.

Sometimes I do feel silly, commenting on Mohit's wall, telling him that I miss his smile BUT even if other's scoff at my silliness, INCLUDING Mohit, I did it with good intention, with all my heart. I just love to root for the underdog, it has always been my way. Maybe it is because I am an underdog myself, so that by helping others I think my own path will change. It is all very selfish. It reminds me of that friends episode where Phoebe tries to do one selfless act, for when we do good for others we feel that happiness, that contentment in our soul and hence the act no longer remains selfless. 😆

I think i wouldn't be either, the spirit of competition has spread a roughness around. I am hoping that you would understand what i am trying to say here. Lemme put it in a better manner

Please do not misunderstand me, I am not asking for you to change your hearts' inclinations and love those whom you never have

My point is If there was a lil inclination it has dimnished and nearly extinguished. I can forgive but not really forget, For there was a strong reason that it all happened at the first place.

At the End, we are at our places, and i agree with you that we should be happy to see such enthusiasm and not regard it as competition for it is not about who is best BUT it is about your beloved's happiness and success.

Zeejay, I understand you. Sorry for going off on tangents above. 😳 Any excuse to bring up Mohit.😆

As I said, I understand you, and so I understand why people can not be supportive. It is like that fence where others have hammered nails into. Even if they say sorry and pull the nail out OR you forgive regardless and pull it out yourself, there remains a hole.

Once again Lovely post Sabah :) Thank you for reading and replying and as always thinking the best of me. With much love, Sabah

Originally posted by: Savage

Kankshita, I am so honoured that you replied to my random outpouring. I don't even mind the silliness of it all now.

Everybody is as democratic as you, Philosopher and that includes people who just love one and hate all. I don't know if my feedback would make enough sense, but I call this obsession, because we cannot even faintly be truthful to say that we love all. Thing is, we do not love even those we claim to, I have acted besotted watching Arjun and Rati as Mayank and Nupur romancing on TV every night for six months. I have also wished to break my TV into as many pieces as possible when I wanted to see them go on yet further, but Sanaya would pop up just because Gunjan wanted to cry. I do understand, or rather have understood as much as my heart has perceived. Their are objects so grand that affect our hearts, like the sun and moon that cause a thing so tremendous as the ocean to move back and forth. So how can I be so arrogant to think I can sway movements of mightier objects, the hearts and souls of people?

But after two years from my those beautifully obsessive six months, I know I have an absolutely stupendous regard for Gunjan Bhushan, the character or Samrat Shergil who had an insufferable English and I cherish Mayank and Nupur, without any deviation in my sentiment or even a scarce development in my regard. My Mayank and Nupur lie peaceful and untouched in my memory, and they ended the day they confessed their love to each other. My love for them ruled my love for the rest, so intrinsically Gunjan could never get her share of the happy ending in my head. But I have loved Samrat and Gunjan greatly in my head, even though much later than I normally would have. My thoughts about them have been changing, but an empathetic demeanor regarding Gunjan, the friend and lover about me never tapers. Matter of fact is, I expect to read and watch good fiction, be a good critique and also, learn to live with the fact that a lot of my major traits are with me because I have been into or am into reading and watching things and people who don't exist.

I do understand myself too, that I take things too seriously. So many times I have had to suspend my feelings and remind myself that these people are acting out a part, that they are not hurting like Gunjan or Mayank, and right this moment are quite comfortably sitting somewhere with their feet up, laughing themselves silly.

I believe everything a wastage of time beyond praising an actor for their acting ability. I have never been interested in Sanaya and Mohit's blog nor have I shown slightest of inclination in just assuming that the actors who played Mayank and Nupur are a thing. I don't care and it is not my job to care. Hence, I am not questionable when hating and loving them arises. However, as my two cents wind, my point remains the same, hatred marks obsession and there might be many forms of disguised love and affection, but the truest of all is not warm, not obsessive, not unreasonable and certainly not delusional (yes, I dun think there is any ArTi) but powerful. And that is why, I can always be close to Gunjan but never to Sanaya.

As you say obsession. They did their jobs as we do ours. Though your way is undoubtedly safe, saner and of more substance, I can not help be enamoured a little by the actors that brought such wonderful characterizations to life, that fusion of flesh and ink. I wish them well because they brought me much merriment and what is the worth of one moment of happiness? I am not trying to persuade you to my way, for it is tumultuous indeed, I laugh at myself every time I write on their blogs. Rather I would defend myself to you BECAUSE specifically with you, I would like to have some footing, even if crumbling.

For me it is about the underdog. In this industry it is about contacts and connections, talent comes somewhere down the line. Even in America it is the same, I see so much talent wasted whereas mediocrity runs rampant. That is why when people of worth are given a chance it makes me feel just stupendous! For instance recently with Ranveer in BBB. Despite not being a fan of YRF productions, just for the fact that they gave him a chance, based upon his excellent acting skills, I hold them in the highest esteem.

I wish so much success for Ranveer BUT then I fear for him too having that lack of connections. Then after a while I laugh at myself, shake my head and continue to fix my own life as well as helping the truly needy. However just one portion of my week, just one moment or one prayer, I still wish Ranveer well.

Even though you won't agree, I hope you understand me a little better. 😳 With love, Sabah