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Originally posted by: ShruAtIF

HEy Muski...here are my views...sorry to differ...but wanted to share them aloud...

Mayank Sharma - formerly defined as topper of the college, the guy who dated the library, the guy who swam in books, the guy whose stocks in the market of exams were all time high - is confused. He begins to think that his desicion of falling in love with Nupur and marrying her at a stage where his dream is developing into reality. His hardwork, efforts, focus and concentration were paying off when Nupur came. And in just a few days of her company changed him into a person who only wanted to become a lover and now, a good husband. But as we ponder on this topic, a thing that comes in our mind is that....was it because of Nupur?
As we see in the show, Mayank goes through his past two years. Studying hard, engrossed in his books, not even having ample time to talk to his mother, Mayank completed all his work punctually and perfectly. Then came along Nupur. And as time flew, his heart drew towards the bubbly, attractive nature of Nupur. He began to Woo her, to make her realise her feelings, and after the confession, to give her most of his time and love. Like every other boyfriend would do. Under unfortunate circumstances, he had to marry her. And with that marriage he was transformed into a struggler, a married man who was burdened with so many responsibilties that he could no longer dream of pursuing his ambitions. But then what did Nupur have to do with this?
Love doesn't mean forgetting dreams, does it? It means giving priority to the person you are in love with , as well as work toward your goal. Mayank might not have been shown studying right now, but nowadays you do see him sitting in solace studying or coming out of the library. Has Nupur changed him so much, or has he changed himself? He told Nupur that love is a lot, but not everything. Doesn't Mayank love his dream? IF not, why would he pursue it? Does he really think Nupur is responsible for the degradation of his dreams? Will it help being away from Nupur? Even if the scene meant that Mayank wanted to pursue his dream and make his life better for himself, his mother and Nupur, it wasnt pictured rightly. Mayank has been always given opportunities to pursue his dream, even this job is a stepping stone towards his dream. It's just that Mayank hasn't realised it. Wanting to achieve your goal does not mean sitting in the library always, away from the gang. iT DOES NOT MEAN IGNORING YOUR LOVE. It means working hard and choosing right opportunities as they come along your way.
As for Nupur, I rightly share your views. A girl with ambitions to become an actress has just face the truth that she wasn't even given a chance because of fate. It is even more hard for her to see all her dreams without her as a part of it. Even though she is happy for her sister, she can't help feeling the sadness because of her loss.
Wonderful post Muski...it perfectly suits the situation. It Was wonderful reading other's points of view.

Thankyou for replying. Though I will have to say I don't agree with most of the things you mentioned but I loved reading a different POV on this. Even though the purpose of my post was not to really compare Nupur and Mayank rather it was to empasize on the effects of dreams being forgotten and dreams not coming true. Yet, I wanna share my POV with you on what you said. I agree with you that Mayank was all that you mentioned and i agree with you again that Nupur is not to be blamed for the changes that we saw in him. He chose to fall in love with her, he chose to change in love for her......yes it was all his choice but forgetting his dreams was not his choice. It happened in the process. It was not a conscious decision. Though I feel that being a wife, not a girlfriend because as GF you are equally lost in love to think things through.... but being a wife she should have helped him realise his dreams by talking about their future or how they intend to work it through as she knew about all his dreams, goals and aspirations like he knew hers. She also knew that he was forced into marriage due to circumstances. He was not ready for it. But, I still give that to her as she has always been fun loving and easy going.

Marriage is not living your separate dreams.....it is about living dreams together, living a life together, helping each other in achieving each other's goals/dreams like he did when she was preparing for the audition. He agreed to give audition with her, prepared with her. At that moment he was living her dream and was even there supporting her, consoling her when it didn't work out.....coffee scene, 2 times in college. But around the same time, Neil's dedication and focus gave him a realisation of his own. It was a very hard moment for him and at that point he was not blaming her....he was simply blaming himself for loosing his dedication towards his goals. Watch his conversation with Nupur on the stairs carefully. He tells her how he was feeling, and then suggests her that they should make their life better and beautiful. He did not say "main" he said "hum". He did not leave her out. He just wanted her to realise that they need to now focus on their dreams/goals and not get caught up in day to day struggles. She gave 2 replies to him and both of them were disheartening. One, "haan ab bhaagein to kiske peeche bhaangein".......and other " par pyar se khubsurat aur kya hai......". Yes maybe she lost an opportunity to fulfill her dream but he still has a chance. Her first sentence is highly discouraging. He turn towards her and asks her to work towards making their life better and she says "pyaar hai....".....ok agar pyaar hai to fir uske liye bhi hai.....why is she so sad about her dream not fulfilling then. I understand she was going through her own heartbreak at that moment but if she can understand Gunjan, her fears, her struggles, and forget all about herself to support her sister.....then how tough was it to understand Mayank at that moment after he opened up to her and told her what he was feeling and also suggested a way out. He walked away because he did not get what he was expecting from her. Problem is she is not thinking about him at the moment which I hope to see her doing in coming days as his dreams are her dreams too. As she is supporting Gunjan and still thinking about finding her own ground she can do the same with him. Help him, be there with him but at the same time work towards her own goals too.
About the gang and party thing you mentioned.....I agree it is not one or other.....you can have both if only you can balance it well. But for now since Mayank has been totally into fun side for a while, he will have a relapse. He will hate the idea of being part of all this till he takes back control of his life.

I know lot of people are blaming Mayank for walking away and leaving her alone but if you look at it she did not take the opportunity to be with him when he needed her which she will soon realise or I certainly hope she does.

Hey Muskyyyyyyyyyyyyy,

I had no idea that you had made a post and that also on your favourite the one and only Mayank Sharma hehe. Its great to see you here even if its for limited action but still it feels great, do keep popping in.

Coming to the topic, firstly the title, I agree while making a choice, we shouldn't leave our dreams behind but is it always pragmatic to do so? At times we do have to give up on certain dreams because of the circumstances.

Like one of my friend who died in a terrible car accident last year, she always dreamt of being a lawyer and she was even planning to join my law school but then she had to choose between her love and career, her boyfriend didn't want her to do law and thus while choosing him, she lost her dream.

Or indeed i would say that she let go of it, i guess along the lines with M. But M then has a little different situation here, he knew what his targets were, even if he had no specific targets, he had set for himself some basic targets of excelling in his studies and building a strong career, this he wanted to do esp for his mum and not for himself per say, but this is what defined him.

When he fell in love with N, he unfortunately couldn't keep the balance which he feared he won't be able to do so. Possibly he feared and doubted himself and this led to him losing his confidence and he stopped trusting himself for fulfilling his dreams. Or as you said he didn't give them priority.

As M said he got so busy with the day to day struggles,there i guess he found contentment in being with his love,N thus he didn't give much heed to his earlier dreams. That place in his life which was his passion for his goals got subsided and he certainly needed a wake up call which he got.

About N, she surely is at a very different stage as you rightly pointed out, she has lost her dream actually only an opportunity but still she feels like she has lost her dream, it is very heart wrenching and frustrating as she doesn't even know what to do ahead. At least M has some idea as to his goals but N has none, this feeling of emptiness and feeling useless is killing her from inside.

But I am sure M and N the two determined souls will gradually make their out and turn out triumphant as always.

God bless you Musky, do keep coming.

Originally posted by: muskan19

Thankyou for replying. Though I will have to say I don't agree with most of the things you mentioned but I loved reading a different POV on this. Even though the purpose of my post was not to really compare Nupur and Mayank rather it was to empasize on the effects of dreams being forgotten and dreams not coming true. Yet, I wanna share my POV with you on what you said. I agree with you that Mayank was all that you mentioned and i agree with you again that Nupur is not to be blamed for the changes that we saw in him. He chose to fall in love with her, he chose to change in love for her......yes it was all his choice but forgetting his dreams was not his choice. It happened in the process. It was not a conscious decision. Though I feel that being a wife, not a girlfriend because as GF you are equally lost in love to think things through.... but being a wife she should have helped him realise his dreams by talking about their future or how they intend to work it through as she knew about all his dreams, goals and aspirations like he knew hers. She also knew that he was forced into marriage due to circumstances. He was not ready for it. But, I still give that to her as she has always been fun loving and easy going.

Marriage is not living your separate dreams.....it is about living dreams together, living a life together, helping each other in achieving each other's goals/dreams like he did when she was preparing for the audition. He agreed to give audition with her, prepared with her. At that moment he was living her dream and was even there supporting her, consoling her when it didn't work out.....coffee scene, 2 times in college. But around the same time, Neil's dedication and focus gave him a realisation of his own. It was a very hard moment for him and at that point he was not blaming her....he was simply blaming himself for loosing his dedication towards his goals. Watch his conversation with Nupur on the stairs carefully. He tells her how he was feeling, and then suggests her that they should make their life better and beautiful. He did not say "main" he said "hum". He did not leave her out. He just wanted her to realise that they need to now focus on their dreams/goals and not get caught up in day to day struggles. She gave 2 replies to him and both of them were disheartening. One, "haan ab bhaagein to kiske peeche bhaangein".......and other " par pyar se khubsurat aur kya hai......". Yes maybe she lost an opportunity to fulfill her dream but he still has a chance. Her first sentence is highly discouraging. He turn towards her and asks her to work towards making their life better and she says "pyaar hai....".....ok agar pyaar hai to fir uske liye bhi hai.....why is she so sad about her dream not fulfilling then. I understand she was going through her own heartbreak at that moment but if she can understand Gunjan, her fears, her struggles, and forget all about herself to support her sister.....then how tough was it to understand Mayank at that moment after he opened up to her and told her what he was feeling and also suggested a way out. He walked away because he did not get what he was expecting from her. Problem is she is not thinking about him at the moment which I hope to see her doing in coming days as his dreams are her dreams too. As she is supporting Gunjan and still thinking about finding her own ground she can do the same with him. Help him, be there with him but at the same time work towards her own goals too.
About the gang and party thing you mentioned.....I agree it is not one or other.....you can have both if only you can balance it well. But for now since Mayank has been totally into fun side for a while, he will have a relapse. He will hate the idea of being part of all this till he takes back control of his life.

I know lot of people are blaming Mayank for walking away and leaving her alone but if you look at it she did not take the opportunity to be with him when he needed her which she will soon realise or I certainly hope she does.

Hey Musky that was really well said there, this reminded me of the old times and the discussion between you and anu, i was soo into your discussions, i never wanted you guys to stop.

Well Musky I do agree with you but about the stairs scene, the reason why he walked away was not really N not understanding him but it was the hunt for the right answers which he didn't have and neither did she, it was the frustration which was coming out there.

N well Musky this is what we are hopefully getting, N did question herself honestly, it was mainly a tag question i guess, in a way she accepted Musky that she has done nothing to help M achieve his dreams.

But it takes two to tango, even M didn't really bother discussing with N, like where do we go from here now. Nupur did offer to do a job right after when they were married, M himself said no.

I really appreciate M for what he has always done for N but N is also trying now and intially as well she has, her little efforts shouldn't be disregarded na.

After today's episode, you would get to see the changes you have been looking for Musky.

I loved the fact that we usually disagreed hehe,😆