Guy problem...plz help!

Ok so there's this guy that's my friend. We're really good friends. We work together and hang out outside of work too (but not alone..usually with a group of friends) But people are getting the wrong idea abt us. They keep thinking there's something going on between us when there's not. I become defensive when people tease me abt him and when they tease him abt it...he laughs it off.

But the thing is...i like him...but i'm not sure if i want to take things to the next step. This rumor has got me thinking wht things would be like if we were to get together. But how do i find out where he stands on all this without asking him point-blank. I don't want anyone else to know either cause then I'll never hear the end of it. He always jokes with me, calls me nicknames, gives me a ride home all the time and sometimes says comments that are nice and sweet to me. But wht to I take this as? I don't wanna start to belive he likes me to cause I'm not sure myself if i want to start anything with him. But because of this rumor abt us....we don't even talk openly when our other friends are around.

Help plz....anyone whose been through this or in a relationship....please help...i need advice.😕

Am no expert on this issue but I'll say laugh it off as he does when someone says something to you. Usually people are on the defensive when they actually like someone but afraid to confess, otherwise they just laughs off the whole idea as ridiculous.

And as for asking him how he feels about you, why'd you want to know that and how does that matter?? What matters is whether you love him or not. And if you don't love him then where's the point in knowing where he stands, it'll just complicate matters and might even send the wrong signal. If and when you feel sure that you love him (or anyone else for that matter) the sensible thing to do will be to say that you love him, not ask whether he loves you or not.

Just go tell him! I knw how it feels & all. But you have to face life. Face the truth! U like him & it might be that he likes you too. People will say lots of things but you need to knw what you should take seriously & you shoudnt. I think thats about it. 😊

Originally posted by: khyati_sui

Just go tell him! I knw how it feels & all. But you have to face life. Face the truth! U like him & it might be that he likes you too. People will say lots of things but you need to knw what you should take seriously & you shoudnt. I think thats about it. 😊

totally...agree wid u cause i had many friends with these kind of problems so ya...the same advice goes from me😛

Thanks for all the advice. But wht if I tell him i like him but he doesn't like me back and wants to stay good friends? Not only will i feel embarassed but it will make our friendship more akward. I think i'll just let fate takes its place and sees wht happens. I'll just let God give me sign and figure it out. If still then nothing happens....i think i'll just tell him how i feel and face reality. I'm not scared of rejection....i'm scared i'll loose his friendship in terms of we won't be able to play around and joke like we do now. 😕

Originally posted by: TiN24

Thanks for all the advice. But wht if I tell him i like him but he doesn't like me back and wants to stay good friends? Not only will i feel embarassed but it will make our friendship more akward. I think i'll just let fate takes its place and sees wht happens. I'll just let God give me sign and figure it out. If still then nothing happens....i think i'll just tell him how i feel and face reality. I'm not scared of rejection....i'm scared i'll loose his friendship in terms of we won't be able to play around and joke like we do now. 😕

That's a risk you have to take dear, there's no shortcut to it.😳 Just think whether you'll be comfortable in having him only as a friend or do you want more out of this relationship. If you want something more than friendship, then say it now cos afterwards it might become too late, who knows, kal ho na ho. Just tell him how you feel. And for God's sake please stop making yourself nervous by all those guesses in your mind as to what he might say or do. Primary importance should be on what you feel. Cos he might even say yes, how do you know.

In any case, if you're just to remain as friends, chances are after 2-3 yrs you won't ever see this guy for the rest of your life. If you say that you love him and the guy says no and breaks any contact with you right now, will it make much of a difference. The difference will be just that you'll save 2-3 yrs of your life from going after a meaningless relation. But if he says yes, just imagine how happy you'll be.

Btw, once you propose let us know what he said. We'll be eagerly waiting. Best of luck.

Ya agree with Souro! 😆
Kya advice deta hai! 👏 👏
All the best! Go for it! Or else wait for signs of him being attracted towards you I thik tht will be a better way out. Coz gurls propoing guy is not tht happening. 😳
Just follow ur heart, do watever you think is right. 😊

Ok....firstly thank so much for the great advice. I really appreciate it. Its time I take some initiative. I'm going out with him tomorrow (and 4-5 other friends) but he always drops me home so once we're alone...i'm gonna break it to him once and for all. I can't go on in life with "what if's" over my head. Tomorrow is do or die. I'll let you guys know how it turns out. Please pray for the best. 😃

Originally posted by: TiN24

Ok....firstly thank so much for the great advice. I really appreciate it. Its time I take some initiative. I'm going out with him tomorrow (and 4-5 other friends) but he always drops me home so once we're alone...i'm gonna break it to him once and for all. I can't go on in life with "what if's" over my head. Tomorrow is do or die. I'll let you guys know how it turns out. Please pray for the best. 😃

We will pray for you.😃

Originally posted by: khyati_sui

Ya agree with Souro! 😆
Kya advice deta hai! 👏 👏
All the best! Go for it! Or else wait for signs of him being attracted towards you I thik tht will be a better way out. Coz gurls propoing guy is not tht happening. 😳
Just follow ur heart, do watever you think is right. 😊

Oye chup.😆 You're making me embarassed. I'm not that good as counsellor.😳