What are your views on adultery ? - Page 2

To each its own.

But it's absolutely couple dynamics in their situations and circumstances. Honesty and truth are very important in any relationship n not just between partners. People fall in and out of love at the drop of the hat today. Play behind backs and make a mockery of their partners and relationships. Which is absolutely not worth. So I would still respect two people who are honest enough to accept their shenanigans and mutually decide to share a roof than over someone who chooses to live a dual life.

For me trust is important in any relationship. Initial love will always fly out of the window when the rainbow subsides and challenges of life befalls. It is mutual understanding and the faith in your partner that will help one to go a long way. Therefore I hate lying and fake promises. These factors r termites and no matter how deep the love be, they are going to chew on the foundations causing the structures to fall. This is my problem with Raghav too here. His actions are the time bomb waiting to blow away the foundations of everything he has built with Pallavi.

Personally I am a kind of a person who will not be okay with infidelity no matter physical or emotional. It IS a deal breaker and I am NOT okay with it.

However, emotional infidelity is more dangerous than physical one I believe coz emotional gaps acc to me always get filled with toxicity which suffocates either one or both the partners.

But then again, it's easier to see and comment being an outsider. Being into a situation is probably a completely different thing and no one knows how s/he will actually react when in a spot. Feelings, emotions, level of involvement and at times societal pressure make people act completely out of their basic nature and one can never understand the underlying motivations. That's why I would not want to judge anyone's choices and actions.

It's important to remember that we built an idealistic world in our heads, however, we don't stay in one!

Nice post…

Well I value my honor & dignity and at no point I will be able to continue in a relationship if I find the person emotionally and or physically attached to another person..

Love is a transient feeling however deep it is…it depends on how an individual is feeling for another individual at a given situation…reasons why a person can feel love for many at the same time..people in love can fall out of love too…because of this very unreliable nature, being in love alone cannot sustain a relationship…

A relationship stands on the foundation of commitment of mutual respect, trust, absolute honesty, unwavering integrity and loyalty…breaking of this is like breaking the foundation of the relationship…if there is no truthfulness in a relationship it cannot last, it will not last and i feel it should not last because it is like living a life of duplicity…dokhe ki zindagi…a sad and compromised life which no one deserves…

I cannot be in a relationship with a man who is emotionally/physically attached to another woman, even at a subconscious level…for however short period of time..I consider that as cheating because, he sought/gave comfort to another person which he had promised to share only with me…he sought/gave because he was not satisfied with me, which is also like hitting my self confidence make me feel less worthy, eventually hurting my self respect..which is the most cruel thing that a person can do to self/another…and no human deserves that…

Breaking a promise hiding a truth telling lies in a relationship is emotional infidelity because it raises questions on the integrity of a person…it is disrespectful to the other person and taking them for granted, it shows that the person doesn’t have the strength to be true to the commitments…and once it happens it can continue to happen again & again..in different forms..once trust is broken, it cannot be built back again…people can continue to compromise but it won’t be absolute, room for suspicion will always be there leading to insecurities, fear & discontent creeping in..it’s like that small crack in the ship which cannot be fixed and thus the water keeps seeping in and with just a matter of time will sink the ship…eventually the relationship will sink..so why even stay in a ship and live a life of anxiety & discontent..a relationship is full filling only when it can give a hope of happiness & peace…when a person cannot ensure that why live such a sad life with them.

Raghav broke Pallavi’s trust & promise by willingly getting sloshed with his Ex, whom he knew was still pining for him, and ended sleeping with her..just because he imagined Pallavi in her doesn’t take away the gravity or the consequences of his actions and the damage and hurt it can cause to Pallavi..he continues to cheat her by hiding the truth, still meeting his Ex who slept with him knowing well that he was a married man who loved his wife..so he is absolutely ok with her getting intimate with him, the right which belonged only to his wife, just like he was okay with her love confession and hug…Raghav has consciously given the right over him to Esha which belonged only to Pallavi..and going by the precap he brings Ex home while his wife still doesn’t know that he slept with her…what a honorable Man…

If I was in Pallavi’s place I will call him out for breaking my trust and walk away never to return because, my self respect, honor and dignity is more worth than living a compromised life with such a honorable & honest person…

I hope I am allowed to write about Raghav & Pallavi here, if not I can edit out the last part..

Pls excuse me for the long post.

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So true .👍🏼

Originally posted by: chokri

It depends on his bank balance. Kinda like t series Bhushan Kumar and Divya Khosla Kumar. Dude has been painting town red for a while but madamji is happy with her own toy boys☺️. I may choose that path or will live on my own and never marry again but will have flings. But then again human beings are supposed to be polygamous by nature. Our ancestors lived like that.I will forgive but won't be able to forget I guess. Idk never been in that situation but one thing I know for sure I will never go back to my parents.

I was going to say I'll end it and never be able to look at him the same way but after reading this I realised if I'm married for money I won't care.

Originally posted by: BrhannadaArmour

As for a fictional show, my motivation is escapism. I enjoy pretending that there are characters who are too good for infidelity. For example, on Sundara Manamadhe Bharali (a Marathi daily drama), when Kamini stole the maṅgalasūtra that Abhimanyu was going to give to Latika, and told Latika that he gave it to her, Latika just scoffed, "Śakyaca nāhī (just not possible)," and kept walking. Latika had no idea that her husband had fallen in love with her, and she thought Kamini might be his type, but she felt confident that he would never behave shamelessly. That depth of trust in someone is magical. Another dialogue that I found magical: Nandini said to Abhimanyu, "Just to give Latika a jolt, I told her, if you actually divorce Abhimanyu, there will be girls lined up for him, and don't be surprised if I'm at the end of the line!" and Abhimanyu's reaction was, "There isn't any girl going after me." He knew very well that Kamini is making a fool of herself for him, but in his world, only Latika desiring him is significant.

This show sounds amazing. ❤️ Regional shows are making better content that Hindi.

While I find thoughtless betrayal distasteful, I won't pretend that I'm opposed to a married character looking outside for a strong reason. I'm writing a fan fiction in which Pallavi leaves Raghav and says yes to Mandar, who is secretly gay and desires Farhad mutually, but wants to protect Pallavi from Raghav. I'm curious - does anyone find my story obscene?

Well when you put it that way....

Originally posted by: hapc

I was going to say I'll end it and never be able to look at him the same way but after reading this I realised if I'm married for money I won't care.

lol I will marry only for money. Who wants to watch one big man child and 2 spoiled booger brats for free...😆

Originally posted by: chokri

It depends on his bank balance. Kinda like t series Bhushan Kumar and Divya Khosla Kumar. Dude has been painting town red for a while but madamji is happy with her own toy boys☺️. I may choose that path or will live on my own and never marry again but will have flings. But then again human beings are supposed to be polygamous by nature. Our ancestors lived like that.I will forgive but won't be able to forget I guess. Idk never been in that situation but one thing I know for sure I will never go back to my parents.

Makes sense 😆

Priorities matter 😆

Why would one need to go back to parents ?? But just in case....why not ?

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Makes sense 😆

Priorities matter 😆

Why would one need to go back to parents ?? But just in case....why not ?

Girls usually run to parents for emotional support when some kaand happens....😆

But in my case......... they will find me a taklu with 4 kids and make me marry again and also will lecture like Pallu and force me to do things which I dont want to. Then I will be living THEIR life not my life.

Originally posted by: farheenbachani

I would have to think how to go about this and be certain that he is having an affair eyc. Have proof. Also depends on whether u have kids or not because they would lose their dad. Then i would have to ask him whether he wants to be with that person because i wont be in a situation where i have to share him. Whoever it is can have him, im fine on my own. And then depending on that i will reevaluate my feelings because if he can cheat me and go with someone, what are the chances he wont do that again so i wont forgive for sure. Maybe in due time but would definitely ask for a separation for a short period of time to think if its worth the heartache to get back together and if i can get past the betrayal and cheating. Then i would have a chat and discuss etc.

Well in real life....most of the times its consensual only.

@ bold : can relate to this. Guess dts the most relevant question one needs to ask oneself.

Originally posted by: chokri

Girls usually run to parents for emotional support when some kaand happens....😆

But in my case......... they will find me a taklu with 4 kids and make me marry again and also will lecture like Pallu and force me to do things which I dont want to. Then I will be living THEIR life not my life.

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Why would they do dt ??

I am pretty sure mine would finally stop preaching abt marriage if this happens😆

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

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Why would they do dt ??

I am pretty sure mine would finally stop preaching abt marriage if this happens😆

fear of exclusion from society and relatives. Their reputation and all that crap