What are your views on adultery ? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Trina2021

Depending on the nature of adultery if you ask me .Normally I wouldn’t mind my man doing some healthy flirting for a change but if I see any emotional attachment to anyone I’ll be furious. Even slightest bit of it won’t gel well with me . As for Physical cheating well in general I’m very possessive in nature with my loved ones and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle physical cheating . No way . Consensual physical cheating I won’t tolerate for a moment but yes if some kind of violation is there I think I’ll be understanding and ok eventually but yes I won’t ever forget . Let’s say what Ragahv did with Easha prior to the fiasco won’t be ok with me ever . My hubby cannot do it but still if it happens I don’t think I’ll be able to forgive and forget .

I guess most of us will be okay wid healthy flirting .

Here toh its a show and finding out dt there has been some violation or not would be easy to find out. But in real life I think it would be very difficult to judge who is wrong and who is ryt .

Originally posted by: AvantikaP

I don't have room for cheating or adultery in my life. I have my own dignity and will never lower my standards and self worth by investing my time in a cheater or someone who commits adultery. I see myself as an educated independent woman and will just move on without asking questions.

Yes it will pinch and hurt me but the reality is life is short and who has got time to deal with people who break your trust. Karma will do its own work

Same here

Its difficult for me personally to invest my time and energy in such a relationship. I would rather move on wid my life and let other person deal with what his reality is .

I would be ok.. can forgive and forget if the situation was like Raghav's. Stuck in a situation and drunk, I can understand. But not the rest of the stuff - hiding and if the precap is true getting her to your home 🤮. That is almost as bad as pallavi moving to D house to take care of Mandar.

Originally posted by: Ruhi.007

I would be ok.. can forgive and forget if the situation was like Raghav's. Stuck in a situation and drunk, I can understand. But not the rest of the stuff - hiding and if the precap is true getting her to your home 🤮. That is almost as bad as pallavi moving to D house to take care of Mandar.

You can forgive if your partner decides to get drunk alone in a room wid an ex ???

Okkk

Yeah who gets an ex to their house. Ghar hai care centre nai

Also if this is how people in real would behave.....a lot of people would be forced to marry such people who blackmail by harming themselves.

Originally posted by: BrhannadaArmour

This question, which was well-phrased, reminds me of an interview in which the interviewer's question was not so well-phrased: "Raghav and Pallavi are now facing a challenge from Mandar who even tried to kill his mother for a woman - I mean, I thought, what kind of man does that? What is your personal view?" My impression is that she was asking, Mandar is so unscrupulous; how will Raghav and Pallavi fight back? But Sai Ketan Rao answered as if she was asking, what do you personally think about matricide? "It's only a fictional show, but I think it is very bad."

Likewise, my opinion is: of course, adultery is bad when it's a betrayal. Monogamy isn't for everyone, and I don't want to shame anyone's sexual expression, but if you promise to be faithful to someone, you should mean it and treat your partner with respect. Some couples renegotiate their marriages (e.g. you can openly visit your paramour, but we'll raise the kids together), and other couples say that cuckolding brings them closer. I feel sorry for anyone who feels pressure to compromise on fidelity to keep a relationship going, but I can also respect someone who doesn't cheat in secret but says, "I want more out of life, so let me out of my promise," and deals with the consequences.

I have no single or simple answer for what I would do personally; it would depend on my quality of life with or without the cheater. I can too often tell when someone is being dishonest with me (e.g. falsified scientific evidence, plagiarism, flattery, overcharging), and sometimes I have to confront on principle, but if I can manage not to make the cheater cry, I have a better day.

As for a fictional show, my motivation is escapism. I enjoy pretending that there are characters who are too good for infidelity. For example, on Sundara Manamadhe Bharali (a Marathi daily drama), when Kamini stole the maṅgalasūtra that Abhimanyu was going to give to Latika, and told Latika that he gave it to her, Latika just scoffed, "Śakyaca nāhī (just not possible)," and kept walking. Latika had no idea that her husband had fallen in love with her, and she thought Kamini might be his type, but she felt confident that he would never behave shamelessly. That depth of trust in someone is magical. Another dialogue that I found magical: Nandini said to Abhimanyu, "Just to give Latika a jolt, I told her, if you actually divorce Abhimanyu, there will be girls lined up for him, and don't be surprised if I'm at the end of the line!" and Abhimanyu's reaction was, "There isn't any girl going after me." He knew very well that Kamini is making a fool of herself for him, but in his world, only Latika desiring him is significant.

While I find thoughtless betrayal distasteful, I won't pretend that I'm opposed to a married character looking outside for a strong reason. I'm writing a fan fiction in which Pallavi leaves Raghav and says yes to Mandar, who is secretly gay and desires Farhad mutually, but wants to protect Pallavi from Raghav. I'm curious - does anyone find my story obscene?

Omg thank you for the sundara maana madhe bharali reference.

Abhya is a darling ever his love for Latika is damn beautiful. He is so clear with his emotions and loved the growth and potrayal of his character falling in love with Latika.

He went all out to convince her without once forcing himself or getting egoistic .

I love alot of marathi serials for the way relationships are potrayed and the sanctity in them.

I mean not that we don't have our share of crap but we have some beautiful masterpieces.

Like julun Yeti reshamgathi, pimpalpaan etc sorry for getting carried away but I really love abhyas character in the show.❤️❤️

Originally posted by: Anu1975

Nice post…

Well I value my honor & dignity and at no point I will be able to continue in a relationship if I find the person emotionally and or physically attached to another person..

Love is a transient feeling however deep it is…it depends on how an individual is feeling for another individual at a given situation…reasons why a person can feel love for many at the same time..people in love can fall out of love too…because of this very unreliable nature, being in love alone cannot sustain a relationship…

A relationship stands on the foundation of commitment of mutual respect, trust, absolute honesty, unwavering integrity and loyalty…breaking of this is like breaking the foundation of the relationship…if there is no truthfulness in a relationship it cannot last, it will not last and i feel it should not last because it is like living a life of duplicity…dokhe ki zindagi…a sad and compromised life which no one deserves…

I cannot be in a relationship with a man who is emotionally/physically attached to another woman, even at a subconscious level…for however short period of time..I consider that as cheating because, he sought/gave comfort to another person which he had promised to share only with me…he sought/gave because he was not satisfied with me, which is also like hitting my self confidence make me feel less worthy, eventually hurting my self respect..which is the most cruel thing that a person can do to self/another…and no human deserves that…

Breaking a promise hiding a truth telling lies in a relationship is emotional infidelity because it raises questions on the integrity of a person…it is disrespectful to the other person and taking them for granted, it shows that the person doesn’t have the strength to be true to the commitments…and once it happens it can continue to happen again & again..in different forms..once trust is broken, it cannot be built back again…people can continue to compromise but it won’t be absolute, room for suspicion will always be there leading to insecurities, fear & discontent creeping in..it’s like that small crack in the ship which cannot be fixed and thus the water keeps seeping in and with just a matter of time will sink the ship…eventually the relationship will sink..so why even stay in a ship and live a life of anxiety & discontent..a relationship is full filling only when it can give a hope of happiness & peace…when a person cannot ensure that why live such a sad life with them.

Raghav broke Pallavi’s trust & promise by willingly getting sloshed with his Ex, whom he knew was still pining for him, and ended sleeping with her..just because he imagined Pallavi in her doesn’t take away the gravity or the consequences of his actions and the damage and hurt it can cause to Pallavi..he continues to cheat her by hiding the truth, still meeting his Ex who slept with him knowing well that he was a married man who loved his wife..so he is absolutely ok with her getting intimate with him, just like he was okay with her love confession and hug…a right which belonged only to his wife. Raghav has consciously given the right over him to Esha ..which belonged only to Pallavi..and going by the precap he brings Ex home while his wife still doesn’t know that he slept with her…what a honorable Man…

If I was in Pallavi’s place I will call him out for breaking my trust and walk away never to return because, my self respect, honor and dignity is more worth than living a compromised life with such a honorable & honest person…

I hope I am allowed to write about Raghav & Pallavi here, if not I can edit out the last part..

Pls excuse me for the long post.

Ok first.....yeah you are allowed to write anything you like here. No need to edit out anything. I am absolutely okay wid dt.

Coming to the post..... love it . You hv explained your pov so beautifully. I can relate to dt too.

For me too my self respect is important in any relationship. So I understand how valuable it is. And trust is defintely one of the strongest pillars of a relationship and once broken ......its difficult to ever repair it.

In the show , I wish they had gone wid the most tried and tested drugging scenario. Bcz wid the willful drinking.....it does make Raghav at fault too. These days most shows hv a third angle but how it is handled is important. Though audience backlash on third angles in always constant😆. Anywys the point I was making it KRPKAB on sony has a third angle thing too ( Not an Ex though ) and is hated by loyal fans . But what I like abt the whole thing is the honesty they hv tried to maintain between the leads. I guess its bcz internally I do value honesty above all.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Ok first.....yeah you are allowed to write anything you like here. No need to edit out anything. I am absolutely okay wid dt.

Coming to the post..... love it . You hv explained your pov so beautifully. I can relate to dt too.

For me too my self respect is important in any relationship. So I understand how valuable it is. And trust is defintely one of the strongest pillars of a relationship and once broken ......its difficult to ever repair it.

In the show , I wish they had gone wid the most tried and tested drugging scenario. Bcz wid the willful drinking.....it does make Raghav at fault too. That’s my point, he crossed the marital boundaries even before he hit the bed..he got carried away by the residual feelings for his Ex..These days most shows hv a third angle but how it is handled is important. Unfortunately the not so efficient writers took to character assassination of leads for plot progression..done and dusted trick used for a zillion times in EK shows..in Mandar track they played around Pallavi and this track they ruined Raghav..both the times for the tadakas they burnt the whole dal.. even with so much experience they don’t understand the deference between flawed characters and character assassination…I don’t know whether it’s arrogance or confidence he knew it didn’t work in Mandar track yet he went for the same for second time in a much more worse way..Though audience backlash on third angles in always constant😆. Anywys the point I was making it KRPKAB on sony has a third angle thing too ( Not an Ex though ) and is hated by loyal fans . But what I like abt the whole thing is the honesty they hv tried to maintain between the leads. I guess its bcz internally I do value honesty above all. 👍 it’s not easy to handle dishonesty in a relationship in fact it becomes the deal breaker…going by the precap Raghav ko suli pe chadake hi yeh log maaneghe..they are dismantling his core values bit by bit…well if this is what they want to show what can we do..I feel bad for the actors, especially Sai..though Raghav is a author backed role still he gave life to it and made it larger than life character…it must be hurting him that it’s going to dumps..

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Originally posted by: Couch.Potato

I value trust and loyalty a lot . Husband and wife relationship is unique . Competent partner will never make his/her partner feel insecure about themselves or relationship by their actions , or will keep lying and breaking promises made to their partner .

Everyone is flawed but I draw a line here. Infidelity, emotional or physical is deal breaker for me .

@ bold : I do believe in this.

Its the responsibilty of your partner to make you feel secure in your relationship and vice versa.

Originally posted by: Anu1975

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Dts something dt I dont understand either.......when Mandar track was not well received by the audience , then why introduce another track just like dt ,dt too back to back. There isnt even much of a difference between the two tracks. Mandar wanted Pallavi back and here Esha wants Raghav back. This isnt arrogance or confidence......this is lack of creativity. Story telling is an art and Sikcand surely lacks the skills.

I feel bad for Sai too. So much effort has gone into making of RR. A character comes to life when an actor dedicates that much into potraying it. Now all dt effort has been ruined in one go.

Sikcand says he doesnt care abt audience. Has given them the choice to use the remote. I would like to know for whom does he make the show den ? I mean this doesnt look like the story of a writer who just wanted to tell his story whatever be the consequences. On one hand they want trps and modify story accordingly and on the other hand they say they dont care abt audience opinion.

Originally posted by: Anu1975

Nice post…

Well I value my honor & dignity and at no point I will be able to continue in a relationship if I find the person emotionally and or physically attached to another person..

Love is a transient feeling however deep it is…it depends on how an individual is feeling for another individual at a given situation…reasons why a person can feel love for many at the same time..people in love can fall out of love too…because of this very unreliable nature, being in love alone cannot sustain a relationship…

A relationship stands on the foundation of commitment of mutual respect, trust, absolute honesty, unwavering integrity and loyalty…breaking of this is like breaking the foundation of the relationship…if there is no truthfulness in a relationship it cannot last, it will not last and i feel it should not last because it is like living a life of duplicity…dokhe ki zindagi…a sad and compromised life which no one deserves…

I cannot be in a relationship with a man who is emotionally/physically attached to another woman, even at a subconscious level…for however short period of time..I consider that as cheating because, he sought/gave comfort to another person which he had promised to share only with me…he sought/gave because he was not satisfied with me, which is also like hitting my self confidence make me feel less worthy, eventually hurting my self respect..which is the most cruel thing that a person can do to self/another…and no human deserves that…

Breaking a promise hiding a truth telling lies in a relationship is emotional infidelity because it raises questions on the integrity of a person…it is disrespectful to the other person and taking them for granted, it shows that the person doesn’t have the strength to be true to the commitments…and once it happens it can continue to happen again & again..in different forms..once trust is broken, it cannot be built back again…people can continue to compromise but it won’t be absolute, room for suspicion will always be there leading to insecurities, fear & discontent creeping in..it’s like that small crack in the ship which cannot be fixed and thus the water keeps seeping in and with just a matter of time will sink the ship…eventually the relationship will sink..so why even stay in a ship and live a life of anxiety & discontent..a relationship is full filling only when it can give a hope of happiness & peace…when a person cannot ensure that why live such a sad life with them.

Raghav broke Pallavi’s trust & promise by willingly getting sloshed with his Ex, whom he knew was still pining for him, and ended sleeping with her..just because he imagined Pallavi in her doesn’t take away the gravity or the consequences of his actions and the damage and hurt it can cause to Pallavi..he continues to cheat her by hiding the truth, still meeting his Ex who slept with him knowing well that he was a married man who loved his wife..so he is absolutely ok with her getting intimate with him, just like he was okay with her love confession and hug…a right which belonged only to his wife. Raghav has consciously given the right over him to Esha ..which belonged only to Pallavi..and going by the precap he brings Ex home while his wife still doesn’t know that he slept with her…what a honorable Man…

If I was in Pallavi’s place I will call him out for breaking my trust and walk away never to return because, my self respect, honor and dignity is more worth than living a compromised life with such a honorable & honest person…

I hope I am allowed to write about Raghav & Pallavi here, if not I can edit out the last part..

Pls excuse me for the long post.

Worth reading view.I totally agree with u👍what Raghav did is never going to acceptable for me. Any kind of justification can't deny the fact that he cheated his wife who love him, trust him unconditionally. I know some ppl are thinking what he did is unintentional but it's definitely intentional cheating. I'm not going to argue with anyone but from now on I hate Raghav rao whom I love and admire once a time. All bcz I hate cheaters in my real life too.