What are your views on adultery ?

This isnt abt Raghav or Pallavi in particular.

I was going through forum posts on recent episodes . Dt and the trend of 3rd angles and emotional /physical cheating in shows these days made me think abt this.

What is your stand on cheating, be it emotional or physical. What would you do if your spouse or partner cheated on you ? Would you be able to forgive , forget and move on ?

I hv known people of opposing views in real life . So no judgements. Just want to read views.

It depends on his bank balance. Kinda like t series Bhushan Kumar and Divya Khosla Kumar. Dude has been painting town red for a while but madamji is happy with her own toy boys☺️. I may choose that path or will live on my own and never marry again but will have flings. But then again human beings are supposed to be polygamous by nature. Our ancestors lived like that.I will forgive but won't be able to forget I guess. Idk never been in that situation but one thing I know for sure I will never go back to my parents.

I would have to think how to go about this and be certain that he is having an affair eyc. Have proof. Also depends on whether u have kids or not because they would lose their dad. Then i would have to ask him whether he wants to be with that person because i wont be in a situation where i have to share him. Whoever it is can have him, im fine on my own. And then depending on that i will reevaluate my feelings because if he can cheat me and go with someone, what are the chances he wont do that again so i wont forgive for sure. Maybe in due time but would definitely ask for a separation for a short period of time to think if its worth the heartache to get back together and if i can get past the betrayal and cheating. Then i would have a chat and discuss etc.

Depending on the nature of adultery if you ask me .Normally I wouldn’t mind my man doing some healthy flirting for a change but if I see any emotional attachment to anyone I’ll be furious. Even slightest bit of it won’t gel well with me . As for Physical cheating well in general I’m very possessive in nature with my loved ones and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle physical cheating . No way . Consensual physical cheating I won’t tolerate for a moment but yes if some kind of violation is there I think I’ll be understanding and ok eventually but yes I won’t ever forget . Let’s say what Ragahv did with Easha prior to the fiasco won’t be ok with me ever . My hubby cannot do it but still if it happens I don’t think I’ll be able to forgive and forget .

I don't have room for cheating or adultery in my life. I have my own dignity and will never lower my standards and self worth by investing my time in a cheater or someone who commits adultery. I see myself as an educated independent woman and will just move on without asking questions.

Yes it will pinch and hurt me but the reality is life is short and who has got time to deal with people who break your trust. Karma will do its own work

Nice post…

Well I value my honor & dignity and at no point I will be able to continue in a relationship if I find the person emotionally and or physically attached to another person..

Love is a transient feeling however deep it is…it depends on how an individual is feeling for another individual at a given situation…reasons why a person can feel love for many at the same time..people in love can fall out of love too…because of this very unreliable nature, being in love alone cannot sustain a relationship…

A relationship stands on the foundation of commitment of mutual respect, trust, absolute honesty, unwavering integrity and loyalty…breaking of this is like breaking the foundation of the relationship…if there is no truthfulness in a relationship it cannot last, it will not last and i feel it should not last because it is like living a life of duplicity…dokhe ki zindagi…a sad and compromised life which no one deserves…

I cannot be in a relationship with a man who is emotionally/physically attached to another woman, even at a subconscious level…for however short period of time..I consider that as cheating because, he sought/gave comfort to another person which he had promised to share only with me…he sought/gave because he was not satisfied with me, which is also like hitting my self confidence make me feel less worthy, eventually hurting my self respect..which is the most cruel thing that a person can do to self/another…and no human deserves that…

Breaking a promise hiding a truth telling lies in a relationship is emotional infidelity because it raises questions on the integrity of a person…it is disrespectful to the other person and taking them for granted, it shows that the person doesn’t have the strength to be true to the commitments…and once it happens it can continue to happen again & again..in different forms..once trust is broken, it cannot be built back again…people can continue to compromise but it won’t be absolute, room for suspicion will always be there leading to insecurities, fear & discontent creeping in..it’s like that small crack in the ship which cannot be fixed and thus the water keeps seeping in and with just a matter of time will sink the ship…eventually the relationship will sink..so why even stay in a ship and live a life of anxiety & discontent..a relationship is full filling only when it can give a hope of happiness & peace…when a person cannot ensure that why live such a sad life with them.

Raghav broke Pallavi’s trust & promise by willingly getting sloshed with his Ex, whom he knew was still pining for him, and ended sleeping with her..just because he imagined Pallavi in her doesn’t take away the gravity or the consequences of his actions and the damage and hurt it can cause to Pallavi..he continues to cheat her by hiding the truth, still meeting his Ex who slept with him knowing well that he was a married man who loved his wife..so he is absolutely ok with her getting intimate with him, just like he was okay with her love confession and hug…a right which belonged only to his wife. Raghav has consciously given the right over him to Esha ..which belonged only to Pallavi..and going by the precap he brings Ex home while his wife still doesn’t know that he slept with her…what a honorable Man…

If I was in Pallavi’s place I will call him out for breaking my trust and walk away never to return because, my self respect, honor and dignity is more worth than living a compromised life with such a honorable & honest person…

I hope I am allowed to write about Raghav & Pallavi here, if not I can edit out the last part..

Pls excuse me for the long post.

I value trust and loyalty a lot . Husband and wife relationship is unique . Competent partner will never make his/her partner feel insecure about themselves or relationship by their actions , or will keep lying and breaking promises made to their partner .

Everyone is flawed but I draw a line here. Infidelity, emotional or physical is deal breaker for me .

Originally posted by: Anu1975

Nice post…

Well I value my honor & dignity and at no point I will be able to continue in a relationship if I find the person emotionally and or physically attached to another person..

Love is a transient feeling however deep it is…it depends on how an individual is feeling for another individual at a given situation…reasons why a person can feel love for many at the same time..people in love can fall out of love too…because of this very unreliable nature, being in love alone cannot sustain a relationship…

A relationship stands on the foundation of commitment of mutual respect, trust, absolute honesty, unwavering integrity and loyalty…breaking of this is like breaking the foundation of the relationship…if there is no truthfulness in a relationship it cannot last, it will not last and i feel it should not last because it is like living a life of duplicity…dokhe ki zindagi…a sad and compromised life which no one deserves…

I cannot be in a relationship with a man who is emotionally/physically attached to another woman, even at a subconscious level…for however short period of time..I consider that as cheating because, he sought/gave comfort to another person which he had promised to share only with me…he sought/gave because he was not satisfied with me, which is also like hitting my self confidence make me feel less worthy, eventually hurting my self respect..which is the most cruel thing that a person can do to self/another…and no human deserves that…

Breaking a promise hiding a truth telling lies in a relationship is emotional infidelity because it raises questions on the integrity of a person…it is disrespectful to the other person and taking them for granted, it shows that the person doesn’t have the strength to be true to the commitments…and once it happens it can continue to happen again & again..in different forms..once trust is broken, it cannot be built back again…people can continue to compromise but it won’t be absolute, room for suspicion will always be there leading to insecurities, fear & discontent creeping in..it’s like that small crack in the ship which cannot be fixed and thus the water keeps seeping in and with just a matter of time will sink the ship…eventually the relationship will sink..so why even stay in a ship and live a life of anxiety & discontent..a relationship is full filling only when it can give a hope of happiness & peace…when a person cannot ensure that why live such a sad life with them.

Raghav broke Pallavi’s trust & promise by willingly getting sloshed with his Ex, whom he knew was still pining for him, and ended sleeping with her..just because he imagined Pallavi in her doesn’t take away the gravity or the consequences of his actions and the damage and hurt it can cause to Pallavi..he continues to cheat her by hiding the truth, still meeting his Ex who slept with him knowing well that he was a married man who loved his wife..so he is absolutely ok with her getting intimate with him, the right which belonged only to his wife, just like he was okay with her love confession and hug…Raghav has consciously given the right over him to Esha which belonged only to Pallavi..and going by the precap he brings Ex home while his wife still doesn’t know that he slept with her…what a honorable Man…

If I was in Pallavi’s place I will call him out for breaking my trust and walk away never to return because, my self respect, honor and dignity is more worth than living a compromised life with such a honorable & honest person…

I hope I am allowed to write about Raghav & Pallavi here, if not I can edit out the last part..

Pls excuse me for the long post.

This question, which was well-phrased, reminds me of an interview in which the interviewer's question was not so well-phrased: "Raghav and Pallavi are now facing a challenge from Mandar who even tried to kill his mother for a woman - I mean, I thought, what kind of man does that? What is your personal view?" My impression is that she was asking, Mandar is so unscrupulous; how will Raghav and Pallavi fight back? But Sai Ketan Rao answered as if she was asking, what do you personally think about matricide? "It's only a fictional show, but I think it is very bad."

Likewise, my opinion is: of course, adultery is bad when it's a betrayal. Monogamy isn't for everyone, and I don't want to shame anyone's sexual expression, but if you promise to be faithful to someone, you should mean it and treat your partner with respect. Some couples renegotiate their marriages (e.g. you can openly visit your paramour, but we'll raise the kids together), and other couples say that cuckolding brings them closer. I feel sorry for anyone who feels pressure to compromise on fidelity to keep a relationship going, but I can also respect someone who doesn't cheat in secret but says, "I want more out of life, so let me out of my promise," and deals with the consequences.

I have no single or simple answer for what I would do personally; it would depend on my quality of life with or without the cheater. I can too often tell when someone is being dishonest with me (e.g. falsified scientific evidence, plagiarism, flattery, overcharging), and sometimes I have to confront on principle, but if I can manage not to make the cheater cry, I have a better day.

As for a fictional show, my motivation is escapism. I enjoy pretending that there are characters who are too good for infidelity. For example, on Sundara Manamadhe Bharali (a Marathi daily drama), when Kamini stole the maṅgalasūtra that Abhimanyu was going to give to Latika, and told Latika that he gave it to her, Latika just scoffed, "Śakyaca nāhī (just not possible)," and kept walking. Latika had no idea that her husband had fallen in love with her, and she thought Kamini might be his type, but she felt confident that he would never behave shamelessly. That depth of trust in someone is magical. Another dialogue that I found magical: Nandini said to Abhimanyu, "Just to give Latika a jolt, I told her, if you actually divorce Abhimanyu, there will be girls lined up for him, and don't be surprised if I'm at the end of the line!" and Abhimanyu's reaction was, "There isn't any girl going after me." He knew very well that Kamini is making a fool of herself for him, but in his world, only Latika desiring him is significant.

While I find thoughtless betrayal distasteful, I won't pretend that I'm opposed to a married character looking outside for a strong reason. I'm writing a fan fiction in which Pallavi leaves Raghav and says yes to Mandar, who is secretly gay and desires Farhad mutually, but wants to protect Pallavi from Raghav. I'm curious - does anyone find my story obscene?

It can depends dear

If you know you partner is cheating on you continues then good bye and move on with own life.

If you partner did it by mistake and you believe he/ she is loyal from then on i say give it a chance .

In todays world relationship has become a name only to show but ones who believe and take it seriously always shined in life ..

No one is perfect all of us do mistakes in life so accept each other with mistakes and stand strong together (magic which i saw in my parents who still fight like LKG kids 😆 )