The misogynistic dislike for Pallavi - Page 2

That's not something exclusive to this forum. I have seen this trend in many forums before. ML usually get a free pass in the name of having a troubled past, some tragic loss etc and everyone around him especially the FL is expected to put up with this irrational, unnecessarily aggressive behaviour keeping that in mind (telepathically). Raghav thankfully is redeeming himself with much sincerity, rare on ITV but people have to understand that it wont white wash everything overnight.. trust is not something that can be handed over.. he has to earn it and he will but right now he is not there.. so expecting Pallavi to trust him over her "blind" trust on her family is not right..Yes she is wrong in trusting them just like Raghav was before MUs got cleared. Im sure she will come to know about the loan papers and repent her actions. Even if she doesn't she will repent because she would never intentionally want to harm Raghav.

Originally posted by: Ahlaam5

I'm actually surprised at how everyone is crying for Raghav here and the extreme dislike I'm seeing for Pallavi from some people.

After everything Raghav pulled, everyone seems to have amnesia or selective memory loss. He literally made her homeless, yes the fault/blame lies with her father in law but don't tell me Raghav didn't know what the outcome of his performance would be in such society, blackmailed her into a marriage amongst a hundred other things and yet he's easily forgiven because he's hot💁🏽‍♀️

From what I can tell, a lot of the fanbase seem to be females and are willing to look the other way to all Raghav's faults.

But as soon as Pallavi unknowingly makes a mistake, the hatred/dislike for her is out of the stratosphere.

I keep seeing strong dislike for her after the chilli incident and people saying Amma should put her in her place.

After the stuff Raghav has pulled with her, why should she give him the benefit of the doubt, Raghav literally has given her no reason to trust him and has fallen to such low levels before.

Also any child would get revenge for their parents after what Raghav pulled with her in laws, now I'm no fan of physical abuse, neither of those two men (or the mother in law) are mature and seem to bring out the worst in each other.

I'm pretty sure Pallavi only heard half of the story and honestly it's in character for Raghav to pull such a stunt so why shouldn't she get revenge. If someone hit or tried to hit my parents, I would have hit them back or sent them to jail.

Ofcourse her in-laws don't deserve being called parents, that's a different matter and hopefully a part of Pallavi's growth as a character (if we're lucky), but at the end of the days Pallavi has always seen them as her own parents and because of her not having any other parental figures until Amma, she's unfortunately willing to overlook their conditional love for her because she's starved for a parents love.

Just because we all know Raghav is slowly trying to redeem himself doesn't mean he won't make countless of mistakes on the way and that doesn't mean Pallavi should have to overlook them instead of pointing it out just because he's trying.

Raghav initially was wrong in this whole debacle with the loan, he has no right to interfere in someone else's life. Let them make their mistake in their bullheadedness, he tried to stop them and when they refused to listen, he should have walked away instead of escalating it.

I love to see the slow development of these two flawed characters into becoming more understanding and less foolhardy but it's funny how much people rip into Pallavi for her flaws and for not seeing the good side of Raghav and how much people turn a blind eye to or easily forgive Raghav reckless and often rotten if not full on disgusting behaviour, and all this because he's very very hot.

Peak misogyny!

Ofcourse the more rational thing for Pallavi to do was ask for Raghav's side of the story and then talk it out instead of such petty revenge but he's lucky all he got was mirchi tbh.

I love both characters to be honest but I'm just tired of the blind worship for male leads.

I'm glad you're saying this. And honestly putting mirchi in food, was much more harmless than what Raghav did everytime he got mad. For a normal person, they would stop eating and their tongue would burn for a while or if they ate it, they would have stomach issues for a couple of days at max. Nothing compared to suffering for your whole life after that humiliation or the trauma after the truck incident.

In general, I feel like the good-looking bad boy is such a common trait in media, that people tend to forgive MLs super easily if they're hot. Especially, if it's because of a painful past. And women's flaws are just because they're terrible.

They both are flawed characters, and hopefully we will get to see growth from both of them. But in my opinion the scales still tip towards Pallavi.

I also feel that audience does tend to forget things a character does. Everyone is very quick to say, we'll never like this character and then once the creatives make a small change, they switch to hating the other charater.

In this forum we don't blindly support one character. We call out both. We all wanted a redemption track for Raghav and that is what were getting. He had to make things up to Pallavi as he is the one who said all that stuff to her family. He was wrong and needs to redeem and regret. Everyone here mainly agrees with that. Pallavi blaming Raghav is not wrong because he started this. I just do not like the double standard of hers. If Raghav was wrong so was her family for kicking her out and not believing her. Also, she knows what BWA did to Keerti and still is fine with it? If your going to get mad at one person for something then do it to the others as well. As well, I did not like that she easily trusted Amruta when she knows how the latter is. I guess for us its hard to understand why she is so attached to this family when she has a brother. We only get to see Raghav's side not hers. So we cannot connect with her a lot. Everyone was literally laughing at her antics yesterday. I am all for this type of revenge of Pallavi is giving as its harmless pranks she does not have a mean bone in her body. We are all enjoying and liking this redemption track of Raghav 😊

Originally posted by: Ahlaam5

ML lead has been traumatised? What about the FL that has been beyond traumatised when he came to her house and accused her of having a sexual relationship with him and got her thrown out of the house and then had the audacity to bully and blackmail her into a forced wedding for his own selfish needs.

Personally I would never ever forgive that had someone done that to me...it would take years and years before I even thought of acknowledging them.

So why should Pallavi acknowledge it within two days, the things he did to her were not light things, he ruined her izzat in society and more.

We all know Pallavi will forgive him because it's ITV but no-one should ever have forgive or acknowledge someone like that.

ML brought the pitai on himself from his own actions since day one, sooner or later someone was going to raise hands.

What is a tablespoon of Mirchi infront of izzat?(even the mirchi was supposed to a light punishment, unfortunately Pallavi didn't know he was allergic and that it would be so deadly or she would have never done it)

Again what is some loss of money infront of Izzat and blackmail? He brought that on himself and he is choosing to sacrifice those crores, the FL didn't steal it from him.

He's going about the wrong way to save that house to be honest, forcing someone not sign it and then ripping the paper infront of them and then nearly escalating it to a physical fight and the threatening them to bring them on the streets.

Why not go to the uncle or the mom who are more willing to listen than straight up forcing the one person who will never listen to sign it. (Yes it's part of his flaw and something that he'll be working on but this is to show he went about it the wrong way)

Yes he's on redemption but he will make many mistakes along the way and he needs to be aware of it.

Compared to the trauma Pallavi went through his hands, Raghav is really not that traumatised.

I'm not a fan of the physical abuse but Raghav has without a doubt brought it on himself, especially the ones from Pallavi. The ones from her in-laws, not so much though.

Hey chill dear.

U cant justify.. 6-7 slaps raghav got..from.deshmukhs plus pallu plus amma...

And what pallu is getting in tht deshmuks house...

Muft ka.kaam.kerne wala gadha banaya hua tha...

Here raos are giving what she deserve..

Her whole life has been changed..she has.no self respect before..and now she has been asked by her husband what she wants..

I.m.not defending RR. I AGREE.. WITH U..but chara bhi to nhi hao.koi un k passs.

Siwaia yaha rukne.k

I think most people here are annoyed with her for taking revenge for Deshmukhs and not for herself . I agree with you though , whatever she has done to him pales in comparison with what he has done to her .

Originally posted by: Kavita99

Actually we criticised raghav 's wrongdoing and pals wrongdoing both yar. Our fandom is not what you think we are. I think you don't know how everyone bashed at raghav when he did wrong to pallavi. We r not side of raghav or pallavi we are toh side with raghvi. We know both characters have flaws as well as virtues too. Our fandom is the only fandom which accepts k leads bhi galat hote hai or hum unko criticise bhi karte h otherwise i saw a lots of shows where leads r wrong and if we comment something their fans even abused us.

Best ever comment❤️

I thought of giving a detailed reply but I am running short of time right now

Point no. One

1. This FD has no hatred for any character....we have fans for even BWA and Rambo....Pallavi to lead hai.

2. Both Pallavi and Raghav come to conclusion way too easily but there is one big difference between them....Raghav if trusts someone he would try investigating even though at the end he ended up talking to a bhoot and did that nonsense kaand

But Pallavi never tries investigating. She jumps to conclusion. However is a character, one should always try getting to the bottom of the problem. Which she doesn't do ... And this she will learn from Raghav only.

3. Kindly go through all the threads in this forum right from the beginning of the show before accusing the fanbase here to be biased.

4. Which fanbase doesn't have majority in girls? But here we have boys too but I won't expose the names here because privacy is everyone's right.

5. I am glad that we could discuss on this point as well.

6. For me I am a sadist for both. Both have committed equal number of mistakes and both need to go through redemption.

7. Saying so...chilli powder stunt is not that a serious issue but if it is life threatening then yes it is a big issue. But considération she was unaware of it.

8. Violence .... Oh please don't even get me started on it....Raghav is the Topper of Thappar exam (with/without fault).

PS: I won't come back to this thread. This will be my first and last post in this topic.

Abhi jaate hai meeting chal raha...was feeling sleepy to aa gaye😆

Oh BTW nice to have you here.

Originally posted by: Neha054

I think most people here are annoyed with her for taking revenge for Deshmukhs and not for herself . I agree with you though , whatever she has done to him pales in comparison with what he has done to her .

People forget that she is not going to view Deshmukhs for what they are or what they have done( talking about Vijay Deshmukh here) because for her they are her family. She doesnt have the wholistic,neutral and unbiased view of the audience who know both sides of the story. For her, Deshmukhs are the only family she got, Ayi Baba are the only parents she can ever have and no matter what they have done now the fact that they gave her a family when she had none, especially after Mandhar's death, uts not uncommon in our society to blame the bahu and abandon her..Deshmukhs (mainly Ayi,Nikhil and even Baba for whatever reason) did not outcaste her.. I know it seems like no big deal but for Pallavi it is a huge deal because before that except for her brother, she never had an idea of what family can be like so she latched on to that happiness like some lifeline..People need to understand where her bias is coming from..

Originally posted by: MistyDawn

People forget that she is not going to view Deshmukhs for what they are or what they have done( talking about Vijay Deshmukh here) because for her they are her family. She doesnt have the wholistic,neutral and unbiased view of the audience who know both sides of the story. For her, Deshmukhs are the only family she got, Ayi Baba are the only parents she can ever have and no matter what they have done now the fact that they gave her a family when she had none, especially after Mandhar's death, uts not uncommon in our society to blame the bahu and abandon her..Deshmukhs (mainly Ayi,Nikhil and even Baba for whatever reason) did not outcaste her.. I know it seems like no big deal but for Pallavi it is a huge deal because before that except for her brother, she never had an idea of what family can be like so she latched on to that happiness like some lifeline..People need to understand where her bias is coming from..

I agree, I can understand her love for Ayyi and Baba . What irks me the most is her total indifference to her brother and Sister in Law .

Originally posted by: Ahlaam5

I'm surprised at how everyone is crying for Raghav here and the extreme dislike I'm seeing for Pallavi from some people.

After everything Raghav pulled, everyone seems to have amnesia or selective memory loss. He made her homeless, yes the fault/blame lies with her father in law but don't tell me Raghav didn't know what the outcome of his performance would be in such society, blackmailed her into a marriage amongst a hundred other things and yet he's easily forgiven because he's hot💁🏽‍♀️

From what I can tell, a lot of the fanbase seems to be females and are willing to look the other way to all Raghav's faults.

But as soon as Pallavi unknowingly makes a mistake, the hatred/dislike for her is out of the stratosphere.

I keep seeing strong dislike for her after the chilli incident and people saying Amma should put her in her place.

After the stuff Raghav has pulled with her, why should she give him the benefit of the doubt, Raghav has given her no reason to trust him and has fallen to such low levels before.

Also, any child would get revenge for their parents after what Raghav pulled with her laws, now I'm no fan of physical abuse, neither of those two men (or the mother in law) is mature and seem to bring out the worst in each other.

I'm pretty sure Pallavi only heard half of the story and honestly, it's in character for Raghav to pull such a stunt so why shouldn't she get revenge. If someone hit or tried to hit my parents, I would have hit them back or sent them to jail.

Of course, her in-laws don't deserve being called parents, that's a different matter and hopefully a part of Pallavi's growth as a character (if we're lucky), but at the end of the days Pallavi has always seen them as her parents and because of her not having any other parental figures until Amma, she's unfortunately willing to overlook their conditional love for her because she's starved for parents love.

Just because we all know Raghav is slowly trying to redeem himself doesn't mean he won't make countless mistakes on the way and that doesn't mean Pallavi should have to overlook them instead of pointing them out just because he's trying.

Raghav initially was wrong in this whole debacle with the loan, he has no right to interfere in someone else's life. Let them make their mistake in their bullheadedness, he tried to stop them and when they refused to listen, he should have walked away instead of escalating it.

I love to see the slow development of these two flawed characters into becoming more understanding and less foolhardy but it's funny how much people rip into Pallavi for her flaws and for not seeing the good side of Raghav and how much people turn a blind eye to or easily forgive Raghav reckless and often rotten if of full-on disgusting behaviour, and all this because he's very very hot.

Peak misogyny!

Of course, the more rational thing for Pallavi to do was ask for Raghav's side of the story and then talk it out instead of such petty revenge but he's lucky all he got was Mirchi tbh.

I love both characters, to be honest, but I'm just tired of the blind worship for male leads.

Finally, someone said it 👏👏. After today's episode, I was kinda disappointed to see hate towards Pallavi. After all that Raghav had put her through because of a MU, how can people blame her for such a small prank? All she intended was to pull his leg, she would have never done it if she knew that he was allergic to chilli.

They both have their flaws and Pallavi's biggest problem is her blind love towards D fam. So when she heard that he pulled a stunt at her, she would be disappointed, that's human nature. Instead of slapping him (I am fed up with this unlimited slap game) or hurting him mentally or physically, she chose to play a small prank on him. I consider it as a improvement in her character considering how she reacted to past issues.

P.S. This forum isn't toxic till now. Most of the people here point out every character's negatives and most importantly differentiate actors from characters (I have seen fandom who constantly interfere with lead's personal life up to a point they bully their friends of opposite gender just because they post a picture together). But today I personally felt that Pallavi was bashed unnecessary. I hope we follow this positivity till the end.

Loved your analysis ❤️