Again Priya is exposing herself

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Posted: 13 years ago
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By not going to her father's place, Priya is exposing herself to bad men.

IIs this wise?

Everytime she wont be that lucky that someone will rescue her in time.

Biologically she belongs to the weaker sex and she should take precautions instead of becoming a Kati Patang.

And Priya had been a little selfish leaving Devyani like that. Devyani who gave her mother's love. She could have stayed in the same house but she could have opted for a guest room.

She who always worried about her Adi, now suddenly dumped him and ran away in a huff and that too into the arms of disaster.

Atleast she could have gone back to her father.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Wow! What sexist attitude you have! Many women live alone and are perfectly capable of defending themselves, they don't need men to protect them. There are other means for protection that do not involve men (self-defense weapons for example).

On AVERAGE women have less physical strength than men, but don't forget there is a lot of variability within gender, some women are much stronger than others, same applies to men also. A great example Uttara, she killed her husband in self-defense.

By the way, I think Priya can easily take on this creepy guest house manager should he advance.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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'Biologically she belongs to the weaker sex' How so? From what aspect of biology do you see her as weaker? I am genuinely curious.

Also, I don't understand how Priya is being selfish. If Devyani gave her a mother's love, then Priya gave her the support her own son could never give. They both contributed equally to their relationship, neither supported one more than the other, which is what makes it so genuine.
Everyone has the right to think about themselves. One's life does not always have to be about supporting another person, or standing by someone else's side. Priya, as an individual, has to grow and for that to happen, she has to leave. If she stays in the house, she will get weak and she knows that. She will never be able to find her true self, the Priya that used to be, if she stays in the house.
What difference would it have made if she stayed in the guest room instead? Changing rooms won't do anything. She'll still see the same people around her everyday. She will still see Aditya's face everyday and be reminded of everything he did.

Priya still worries about Adi. The fact that she is leaving doesn't change anything, she will always care for him. But she has to move on. He broke her trust, she lost her faith in him..how would you expect her to look at him everyday and not be reminded of all that happened between them? She didn't dump him. There's a different between dumping and leaving. Dumping would mean that she is at fault, which is clearly not the case here. Adi deserves what he's getting from her. As her partner, he was supposed to support her, have his faith in her, which he clearly failed to do. It takes two to make a relationship work, it's a team effort. Adi put problems in their relationship, she broke off. simple as that.

I would say more, but I'm very tired at the moment, so I will have to end this here.

p.s. btw, Priya made a wise decision by not going to her father's place. Just because you became a victim once, does not mean you have to cower in a corner for the rest of your life. Priya is trying to become stronger, she is trying to live by herself. And I think instead of trying to blame Priya for taking the 'unwise' decision of living by herself, we should worry about the opposing gender and their want to take advantage of women. If men weren't like that, we wouldn't have to worry about Priya living by herself.

p.p.s. I don't think Priya would purposely try and run into 'the arms of disaster'. No one would. How the hell is it her fault if doesn't have the ability to predict the future and see that there will be other men who will try and use her again?


Edited by stillunwritten - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Nothing to do with sexist attitude. Reality check. When Brahma got her kidnapped and tried to rape her almost, she was saved by others and not by herself.

It is easy to talk big and brave but the world we live in is too bad. A single woman in a guest house will not get respect easily atleast in our country. She will be looked as easy prey.

Prevention is best. Her father is not an outsider. She need not stand on false bravado and refuse to go to her father or brother.

If you remember, this brave girl was about to commit suicide and was prevented by Adi in the nick of the time.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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^In that case, all of the women in the world should be under house arrest all the time, because god forbid they leave the house, they might get raped. Instead of trying to prevent such things from happening by staying under the protection of others all the time, why not try to stop those things from happening in the first place?

You're forgetting that Priya, the coward who tried to commit suicide, is the same person who put Brahma in prison.

The fact that you are saying she needs to go to her father or brother, specifically, is what makes your attitude sexist. She doesn't need any men to save her. Life indiaforums1234 said, other safety measures could be taken. There are such things called weapons.


Edited by stillunwritten - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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The world is bad and both genders are affected by it. A single man will be as vulnerable as a single woman, although he may have to deal with a different set of issues than a woman. For example, someone might see a single man from a rich family living in a guest house and may try to steal his money and in the process hurt him.

Brahma's incident with Priya is an isolated one. Brahma was a person who could hurt anyone, either gender (Karan for example!).

If she has to go to someone's place, it could be a female friend also, why does it have to be her male relatives!? What makes you think her father and brother are capable of protecting her?
Edited by indiaforums1234 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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You are taking the argument to the extremes. II did not advocate to sit at home and do nothing. And carrying weapons. If 4 goondas surround, carrying weapons or karate wont help.

You are forgetting or pretending to forget that Brahma got her kidnapped and almost tried to rape her.
It is one thing to give evidence in court supported by a lawyer and getting the support in the last minute by a selfish politician and it is another thing to stay alone in a guest house.

In that case why separate bogies and seats are reserved for women in trains and buses?

Can a young woman just go for a walk in the middle of the night all alone the way a man takes a casual walk?

If you read newspapers online, everyday we find women being victimised whether in urban or rural areas.



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Posted: 13 years ago
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It is not a question of her father or brother able to protect her. They are her blood relatives and thus the question of gender does not arise. If she has a living mother or sister, she could have gone there instead of a questionable guest house.

Man getting attacked is comparatively less than a woman. For the obvious reasons.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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^ But that does not mean you stay indoors forever! Let's take all women and prevent them from going outside. They can live inside, protected..and we won't have to worry about rape cases and stuff like that. You cannot let the fear of something bad happening to you stop you from doing what you want.

I'm sorry, it seems like you're trying to victim-blame. To me, it feels like you're blaming Priya for getting into trouble (in today's episode), rather than blaming the sorry excuse of a human for trying to take advantage of her.




Edited by stillunwritten - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Did I advocate anywhere that woman should stay indoors and not go outside?

I said that staying alone in a guest house is not advisable. It is like inviting trouble.

Women go to work and even do night shifts.Women go to moviies alone and eat at restuarants alone sometimes. All these things are common and usually dont land them in trouble.

Call centres provide secure taxis for women workers doing night shifts and men also get this facility.
Why?

Why do we close our doors? Why do we have security at our homes and offices? Why is there police force if we can protect ourselves?

Read the newspapers on a regular basis, see those real spine chilling crime stories.

Is not caution a better thing?


Edited by rightnow - 13 years ago

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