If your partner cheated...

If your partner cheated on you once, only once, how would you react? As in, would you let go of the person, would you give them another chance?

What if you were married? Would that change things?

How about having kids?

Just some questions I kind of thought about after watching this show. A few years ago, I would have definitely said, I would break up with the person/divorce them. It wouldn't matter if we had kids, or not, but letting the person go is the only option. Trust is something that's hard to get and if someone cheated on me, even once, then all my trust and faith in that person would vanish.

However, today, I can't be so confident in that answer. I really think based on the differing circumstances, I would act differently, regardless of the fact that all my faith in that person would be shot to hell.

How would you react? Any thoughts/opinions?

Cheers!
Naina

Cheating on me is not an easy feat. I doubt he would survive the event. Actually someone did try to do that with me. I simply let the girl he was wooing know about my place in his life, as also her mother and his parents with enough proofs to substantiate my claims. I then dumped him and haven't been in touch with either of them ever since.

once a cheater always a cheater...

Originally posted by: gangubai1

Cheating on me is not an easy feat. I doubt he would survive the event. Actually someone did try to do that with me. I simply let the girl he was wooing know about my place in his life, as also her mother and his parents with enough proofs to substantiate my claims. I then dumped him and haven't been in touch with either of them ever since.

Wow good for you! 👏

Letting the other girl know was definitely the right thing to do, in my opinion. More likely than not, the other girl is usually not aware of the guy's other life, and ends up getting hurt in the process. Uff, some men😡

Someone I know was actually in that situation, where she found out the guy was cheating on his girlfriend with her. When the girlfriend found out the truth, she broke up with him, but the person I knew ended up getting together with him. Her reasoning was that he had learned his lesson about cheating [I don't know how!] and that he actually liked her and she trusted him, blahblahblah. Needless to say, he cheated on her within a few months and that's when she wanted to kick herself.

Originally posted by: tvdekha

once a cheater always a cheater...

If I was married and had kids I might give him just one chance and if still he does the same,he is outta my life

Completely agree with the statement! I am a firm believer in the Once a cheater, always a cheater saying.

And you're right, being married with kids would definitely throw a whole new perspective on the situation. And I think that even if I stayed together with the person, it would be difficult for me to ever actually be with them again, connect on any level, and it would become the depressing life of being in the marriage for the sake of the kids.

Sigh, I guess it's a weighing it out situation. Which side would make more people happy?

Originally posted by: Naina2127

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Completely agree with the statement! I am a firm believer in the Once a cheater, always a cheater saying.

And you're right, being married with kids would definitely throw a whole new perspective on the situation. And I think that even if I stayed together with the person, it would be difficult for me to ever actually be with them again, connect on any level, and it would become the depressing life of being in the marriage for the sake of the kids.

Sigh, I guess it's a weighing it out situation. Which side would make more people happy?

Its easier to say we would kick him out, but if it actually happened what would we really do?

A while back me and my friends were having the same conversation and just for a laugh we all said what we would do. I said i would kick him out and let him have no contact with the children either (i know thats unfair to the children).
One of my friends said she would kick him out and let the children go and live with him on some days so he would realise what its like to look after them on his own.
My other friend said she would let him stay for the sake of their children but would have no relations with him. Let him fend for himself.
We all came up with these theories of what we would do but we all agreed on one thing. If there were no children involved we would leave them.
If you have children then it all changes as you have to think about them too and not just yourself.

But now when i think about it, would i really kick him out and not let him see the children?
Its hard to say unless your in that situation. And i hope we never are.

Btw, kick him where it hurts the most, that should teach him a lesson 😆😆😆
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File for child support; immediately! This other woman can get pregnant and take LOTS of money if I sat around sulking. I would legally seperate, move out myself, on the condition that the house is put on the market. Take 50% of the equity once it sells, and share custody of. I will be super nice and accommodating, but will not let him take more than 50% custody. Once the kids will be able to drive I will barely have to ever see him! And once the kids are married, I can just fully avoid him forever!

@ronnie4000 ... where were you when Devyani was looking for a lawyer 😆