why mallu never let go of ashu? - Page 2

she is just following DK-sheena's thinking- mere nahi to kisi aur ke bhi nahi- too the extreme.

Originally posted by: aardhan

Deepa, I feel the answer is in her need to be a perfectionist and possess all things unique. Remember her perfect house, her perfect career as a successful surgeon, her collection of unique antique jewellery. So in her mind Ashu was the perfect candidate as a husband, tall, handsome, very intelligent, sophisticated tastes, a thorough gentleman. So she wanted to have the perfect married life. I feel more than Ashu its this dream of becoming a perfect couple with Ashu that is her obsession. Maybe they were complimented a few times when they would have gone out together. And as long as Ashu remained single she was not threatened but when Nidhi came on the scene she felt this perfect dream evaporating and that was something she could not let happen.

I feel Mallu is also vain, she is very proud of her beauty and brains. Look at he way she used to dress, nothing out of place, everything perfectly selected to enhance her beauty. I feel Mallu also has a huge ego and always wants to be the center of attention, the most important person. Like you said she could have had anyone falling at her feet but the fact that the one person Ashu whom she wanted falling at her feet did not just irked her to no end. Initially her ego must have been hurt that Ashu was not giving her the type of attention she craved and this probably motivated her to keep pushing him. She just could not accept that Ashu would refuse someone as beautiful and intelligent as her. So, he became a challenge for her. Finally he would have relented enough to be her friend and over the years they became very good friends but never more than that for him. He was simply not interested.

As long as she feels needed and everyone is dependent on her she is fine. Example is her brother who never stopped thanking her for looking after him or bringing him up, etc, etc. So when Ashu did not want Mallu as a GF, I think every time he praised her for being a doctor, helping him, she must have been elated just being praised by him, it fanned her ego. In the earlier epis we have seen him praise her as a doctor but everytime she steered the topic towards their relationship he either refused point blank or diverted the topic.

As Nidhi came along, she stopped being his center of attention and also her vanity took a beating as she simply could not comprehend that Ashu found someone other than her beautiful. When he praised Nidhi as having a potential of being a brilliant doctor her inner radar kicked on and she perceived her as competition. How could Ashu find someone else with beauty and brains! Thus started her struggle to keep Ashu to her side and very quickly spiraled into an obsession with Sue constantly fanning the flame of jealousy. After years of being his only friend and sharing everything except his name and physical intimacy, she probably could not bear to see him change for this young girl. She probably saw love in his eyes for Nidhi, the kind she had always wanted to see for herself and it angered her. After being on the mainline for so long she just refused to get sidelined!

Well, Deepa I tried to explain the issue only from Mallu's POV. This does not include what Ashu thought or did in this relationship. As you said he never encouraged her by giving any signs and in fact on a couple of occasions even suggested her to get married.

Originally posted by: khush93

Mallika is an obssessed lover. Untill Nidhi came in Ashutosh life , noone was there in his life and Mallika is always his closest friend.Ashutosh never gave any signal and always rejected her proposal but politely.
So Mallika always thought that one day he will accept her as a wife. But when Nidhi came in his life everything ruined and she became obssessed lover.
just my POV

Originally posted by: Malvika_rajeev

Deepa, Very valid question, and a nice pondering thought over the weekend.

Well, in the past episodes, AShu never gave any committments to Mallika for anything further than a friendship (the dialogue: dosti se kam aur dosti se zyaada...) even when she proposed to him pointblank, even to the point of emotional blackmail with BB's house as a bargaining card, he refused to comply.

Well, from a psychological POV, this is a combo of ego-vanity-comfort zone. She just refused to see the facts and dwelt in the illusion that Ashu will be hers some day. All this was fuelled by her SIL (remember she even made Aditya get a ring for Ashu?)

When Ashu confessed his relation with Nidhi, Mallika blew up...How could you? mein itne barah saal se tumhara intezaar kar rahi thi aur woh kal ki aayi ladki...AShu told her, I didnt ask u to wait!!

That should have been enough for Mallika to wake up to reality. But she never chose to go that way.

From a medical college POV, deep friendships are common. when two classmates spend 24X7 together, (they could be of opposite sex) they know each other so well, so well, (well I dont mean the term soulmates nahin to joote padenge mere upar) and even when one of them gets married, the friendship continues, but at a different platform. Mind you, I am not talking about an obsessed relationship, as displayed by Mallika.

I have had such friends, all male, and even today, they continue to be that way, even after marriage and with kids. The joke being that my husband turns to them for help after a jhagada with me!!! I am friends with their wives, their wives ask me their favorites and the college gossips etc etc..

Wont bore you further with these details...but Mallika should have woken to reality a long time ago. There is a saying: when dreams take command of your life, you end up in the pigsty.

Malvika