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Harryfan011

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Posted: 8 years ago

#31

Originally posted by: asha2012

@ Suyash

I love love love your write ups - because you write from your heart and you are one of the most unbiased analysts of this show. I am also biased - well I try to be unbiased but am not so successful sometimes. 😃

What you said about the primary thing you would look for in a life partner is what we all need - I know exactly what you feel because I have been through that - my mum was diagnosed with cancer two years back and my parents stayed with me and my husband for most of the last two years. Believe me it was not easy for us as she needed looking after physically and emotionally as well. My father was also seriously ill last year and he spent almost a month at the hospital and was also on ventilator for close to ten days. We managed to get them back on their feet and by God's grace both are doing much better. But i must admit that it wouldnt have been possible for me to do this without my husband's unwavering support. He has always treated my parents as his too and I am quite sure I couldnt have married anyone else.

You inspired to share this about myself on this forum...

Thanks and looking forward to reading your writeups again..

Asha

@Asha, thank you so much for your kind words... I don't think that anyone could be 100% unbiased but I do try to present my views in a balanced way... So, thank you for appreciating my efforts...

But, most importantly, thank you for sharing something so precious from your life... Reading your post was definitely a soothing experience and inspirational... I wish both you and your husband all the happiness in the world...

-Suyash

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Narshi21

@Narshi21

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Posted: 8 years ago

#32

I think jshukla has explained what happened on the day of separation.

Dev was not under senses but Vicky made him believe he is the one who signed the eviction paper. Dev definitely knew that he was responsible for eviction and it was not because of Bose's self respect. Even Ishwari did not believe Dev at that time.

Everyone thought Dev was responsible for Bose's eviction including Dev. Also Sonakshi did not believe Vicki immediately she wanted know from Dev personally but we know it didn't help anything.

I think at least from this we know why everyone's perception is different.

Edited by Narshi21 - 8 years ago

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Shaavi

@Shaavi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#33

I know that many members may not like what I am about to say, but it is nothing personal. What I am writing is in line with the show.

Sonakshi came to IN as a nutritionist, as an employee of Dev Dixit. She might not be on the same level of Kichu or Tina, but she was in a way no different than them. Yet she assumed that she was different than them. She intruded in Dev's personal life continuously and always gave a "plausible explanation". She told him him that he did right when he apologized to someone for what his family did or told him that he was wrong to leave Vickky in jail and that he should have brought him home and explained things to him when she had no right to do so. She even went one step ahead and told him that he should let Nikki go for sleep over because she did it and that was the right thing to do and that was normal. She muted his phone and made him lose crores of rupees because she decided that him spending time with Nikki and having fun was more important. Even in the recent episode she decided that she will forgive Vickky who was Dev's culprit and put his whole company, his life in danger, yet still believes that what she did is correct.

Why is her freedom more important than his. She has right to make unilateral decisions regarding his life and rearrange it so that it meets the "perfect husband(Bijoy)" image that she envisions. She even gave the same understanding to Suhana who told Dev that she will call him "papa" only when he will behave like Bijoy as he is the standard for best husband and father. But then if Dev wants his relationship with her to mimic his and Ishwari's relation, why is it not palatable to her. She wants to keep her personal and professional life different, but mixed them with his life and gave out judgments as to what he should do and shouldn't do. She laughed at him when he told that he likes blue, white and grey colors for his choice of clothes. But is now not happy that he got clothes for her.

I applaud the makers to bring this question regarding the thought process or ones choice. Be it love or freedom, it should be human choice and not something that is restricted to gender. Sonakshi has made several unilateral decisions especially regarding Suhana, but is now expecting him to contribute to her upbringing equally. Unless she realizes her blunders and corrects her mistakes regarding them, there can be very little harmony in their life.

I also liked maamaji's advice to also think as mother of Sonakshi. As mother of Dev, Ishwari will not be able to teach Sonakshi anything or help Sonakshi learn anything. But as mother of Sonakshi, she has all the right in the world to teach as well as to show Sonakshi a mirror for her mistakes. And that is where I think the makers are taking the story. With Sonakshi now facing the truth mirror. 😃

Just my pov. Not intended to hurt anyone.

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ltelidevara

@ltelidevara

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Posted: 8 years ago

#34

Awesome post Shaavi

I still remember how she said orange shirt suits him and feels happy when he wears it.But now Dev selecting her wardrobe is branded as intrusion. Ridiculous.

She has all the rights in the world to meddle with everything in Dev's life. But Dev should not do so . It is again intrusion.

The day she stops thinking that she is different and perfect she will try to learn and feel for others. I am happy Nikki understood Dev so well and took it in right spirits. Ria is Ofcourse scared of Sonakshi she is too much in awe of her.

Waiting to see what would be Asha's take on this issue. I am curious .

Like Shaavi said Iswari should think like a mother and correct Sonakshi's mistakes though Mamaji said it with a different thought.

Lakshmi

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RUQAIYA10

@RUQAIYA10

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#35

Hi Shaavi,

You are absolutely right . I always thought I was the only one who thought Sona's intrusive behaviour in season 1was totally unwarranted especially the part where she switches off his mobile. She was just his employee and had no right to do it .She never even apologized for her behaviour because it was justified as a noble act of giving Dev a piece of his childhood. Infact I will even go far as to say that she falling in love with Dev was believable but Dev falling in love with her seemed a bit forced to me.Sure he had developed a soft spot for her and became comfortable with her after the accident but It did not take as much time as it should have. No offense to anyone. this is just my pov

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Narshi21

@Narshi21

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Posted: 8 years ago

#36

Dev gifting Sona dress or selecting whole wardrobe is not intrusion, but telling her to do or wear according to his wishes without considering her mind is not good.

Sona suggested orange shirt only after Dev asked her to choose a shirt among many shirts.

I think we all have selective memory.😉

According my POV Sona was never an intrusive person but definitely she was an opiniated person

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Shaavi

@Shaavi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: Narshi21
Dev gifting Sona dress or selecting whole wardrobe is not intrusion, but telling her to do or wear according to his wishes without considering her mind is not good.
Sona suggested orange shirt only after Dev asked her to choose a shirt among many shirts.
I think we all have selective memory.😉
According my POV Sona was never an intrusive person but definitely she was an opiniated person

Narshi, In one of the recent episodes where they were introducing NIL and Laksh, Sonakshi was shown to order a dress for Ronita. In the sangeet episode of their marriage episodes, Saurabh and Elena was shown to order the dress for her. During neha's wedding, he didn't ask her, but she selected it for him by saying pick maroon one. The only reason Dev asked his secretary to get more shirts when he had just got new ones was because she laughed at him and called his dressing sense boring. Which employee tells their boss that he doesn't have color sense. Yet Sonakshi did that. In that episode he gives her the receipt and specifically tells her that he asked his pa to get shirts of each color. Then shows how the onyx one and the white one looked good. But she once again rejects them saying they are boring. That is when he asks her to suggest one. Who was she to reject his choice again. Even after marriage when Dev goes to her house during heir bhaidhooj fight, and are thrown out during midnight, she talks about his lack of sense of color.

If she can choose dress for Ronita and Dev, why shouldn't they do the same for her. He said that all of them helped him in choosing for her. He even showed a dress that Suhana selected for her. If Sonakshi can make a decision whether Suhana should have her father's name in the birth certificate of life or anything, why shouldn't Suhana pick a dress for her. And Sonakshi is not just an opinionated person, but a very intrusive person. She is sommeone who preaches, but never practices what she preaches.

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thedramaqueen

@thedramaqueen

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Posted: 8 years ago

#38

You know that dress scene... play the cute season 1 krpkab theme song in your head. And then watch it... both dev and sona will look just fine.

That eriee music is making it look like she feels suffocated

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sjain

@sjain

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Posted: 8 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen
You know that dress scene... play the cute season 1 krpkab theme song in your head. And then watch it... both dev and sona will look just fine.
That eriee music is making it look like she feels suffocated

I JUST BIG HUGG SWEETHEART..MAMMOTH ONE🤗

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malikakas

@malikakas

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Posted: 8 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen
You know that dress scene... play the cute season 1 krpkab theme song in your head. And then watch it... both dev and sona will look just fine.
That eriee music is making it look like she feels suffocated

This! I think its all about perception, had Dev done something like this earlier Sona probably wouldn't have minded or felt suffocated. But she is feeling suffocated in terms of her work and therefore is primed to perceive this as smothering.

I agree with Shaavi, its not like Sona has never made unilateral decisions for his supposed benefit before. But that eerie music isn't there so its not highlighted as much. I think this has always been my issue with Sona as a character that she can dish it out but she can't take it.

Sam sort of mentioned this idea in the last thread on how Dev's logic is internally consistent. He would accept smothering as a act of love. In S1, when Sona tried to force Dev to manage his clothes, his first response wasn't "you don't get to dictate to me how to live", it was to humor her even if he didn't buy into the concept. Even after their argument wasn't over her not being allowed to tell him how to live, it was over whether it was necessary or not.

Whereas my struggle with Sona is that she is internally inconsistent. She wants to have all the control over other people's lives (i.e. Dev, Neha's divorce, Soha, Khatri) but doesn't want any give up any control over her own life. And those two things are mutually exclusive of a healthy long term relationship because the other person will always feel like you are skewing the rules in your favor. When she decides, she doesn't have to tell Dev about Soha, when she decides Soha is both of their responsibilities.

I am not saying Sona 'has to' work from home but she's making this an issue about pride when really she needs to address what's driving Dev to be so pushy about it. In S1 Dev was the one who told her to go out and work. Personally, I think if she had just humored him a bit initially his behavior wouldn't have escalated to this degree.

Edited by malikakas - 8 years ago