General response to the eviction thing (@Malika and Lakshmi): I don't want to talk too much more about this, since the point of my original post on the subject was to say, Sona and Dev have shelved this, so I will too. What I do want to clarify though, is that I don't think two wrongs make a right. Mistakes cannot cancel each other out, nor can they compensate for one another. Sona putting her parents' house up for mortgage was a stupid decision, and was a significant part of why they eventually got evicted. However, that doesn't lessen Dev/Vicky's culpability in throwing a family out onto the street in the middle of the night. Similarly, the guilt of Sona hiding Soha can never be lessened or erased by any of the mistakes Dev made , though he made many. Separate mistakes require separate redemption/apologies.
General response to the key thing (@Charu, Malika, Lakshmi, Rekha, Timbarucha): The more I think about it, the more Sona's move to give the keys back to Mami immediately seems like a calculated risk rather than a mistake. I completely agree with Timbarucha on the fact that consulting Ishwari before giving the keys to Mami would have nullified the effect of Sona's intention. In order to truly bamboozle Mami -- which she succeeded in doing -- she had to undermine Ishwari first, and hope to god that Ishwari would understand what she was trying to do.
I really liked that move because 1. Sona truly exercised the haq that Ishwari gave her, saying implicitly, "if you have given me the responsibility of the household sincerely, you also have to trust the decisions that I make for it. This can't just be a symbolic gesture where you retain all of the executive power." Ishwari had to come good on all the promises she has made Sona since the reconciliation. And 2. Sona took a risk; she knew that Ishwari might be upset and hurt, but she did what she thought was right, and more importantly, what was right for her. Dil ka faisla -- dimag se nahi -- sirf dil se. 😊
If she did accept Ishwari's decision without question, she would have constant antagonism from Mami to look forward to, something she is not interested in dealing with. Mami genuinely believes that Sona is just like her, out to get Dev's wealth. If that perception is genuinely shaken, as it was yesterday, even if it means Mami thinks Sona is an idiot, Sona saves herself, Dev, and Ishwari a lot of grief. Secondly, with the sequence of her actions, Sona silently established herself as an authority figure in Mami's mind. She made a decision without Ishwari's consent, and though initially hurt, Ishwari accepted that decision, and validated Sona as an independent, executive authority in the family. That is huge. Mami thinks she hit the jackpot with the physical keys, without realising that Sona retained the great power and responsibility that came with them. That's why Sona told Ishwari, you gave me a responsibility, and I think I have fulfilled it.
The beauty is, though, that Sona didn't do any of this with strategy in mind. She did it because she felt genuine empathy with Mami's feelings of being used and thrown. Mami is so crass and self-absorbed that people tend to forget that she too has feelings, but Sona showed that there is much to be achieved if those feelings are recognised and validated.That is a core S1 trait that I am excited to see return in her character, and the same trait that Dev was bursting with pride over in the episode. This woman who can set aside her own pain, and feel deeply for someone who has been as cruel to her as Mami has, is the woman he fell in love with. Now with the authority and support she needs to exercise that empathy as a governing principle of the IN household, Sona will be able to contribute significantly to its overall emotional health.
Edited by Samanalyse - 8 years ago
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