*Season 2, Week 20* Analysis Thread - Page 22

@ Lakshmi. I did read your post and agree with you. That blurb about Sonakshi was in reference to the posts which referred to my light hearted posts this time around. The reason is Dev and the way he took control from Sonakshi. As Sam said he took away her version of the narrative in this remarriage track. By frequently saying that I am doing this for your happiness, Dev has made sure that Sonakshi doesn't write herself as the martyr. He is forcing her to write the story from his pov where he is the one who is being sacrificed. Sonakshi is not just trapped in her love and jealousy, but is also trapped in terms of her righteousness and her pride. The only way out for her from this saga is the acceptance of the truth. And Sonakshi telling the truth is something that I am looking forward to. 😃

@Deepa. Let's agree to disagree. I do not find Bijoy as neither a protective nor overprotective father. 😊

@ Deepa

@Deepa, great post and good point of discussion. Sometimes what we think as boon may be too painful for others because it's about perspectives and how we see any situation based on our past experiences and priorities in life. A character like Bijoy may appear to see like a boon when we watch on screen or when we read in a story but from my experience it's really painful and too draining while handling such people. They are self made people and they feel proud of this fact but at the same time they are loud, unconvincable and becomes unreasonable sometimes.

@ Latha

@ Shaavi

I agree with you, Lakshmi.
No father should be like bijoy.
Any father will wish happiness for his daughter.
For that , as you said, they would even go to son in law & tell him that his daughter can't live without him.
But , no , in bijoy's case , his pride & ego is more important.
I really wish asha was like sonakshi & should have left bijoy & gone.
Then , sona would have been brought up well, not headstrong like this.
Being independent is one thing; being arrogant is another thing.
I think sona needs a submissive husband who just listens to what she says.
Unfortunately, in our society that is not possible.
Especially in a middle class set up, children should be brought up in such a way that
they should know how to compromise.
Dancing on the top of your spouse may not be possible.
Again, nobody in dev's house expected her to cook or take care of daily chores.
Once Dev started going to office, once their honeymoon got cancelled, she should have got back to work.
She need not change herself.
That is why she got irritated & failed because that is not your original self.
I always advise my junior colleagues who are about to get married- don't pretend.
Don't project yourself as a person which u are not.
That would be difficult to maintain.
I am a very straight forward person.
But I don't go out of the way to please people.
I may not have so many friends.
But once they understand me, the bond that forms is unbreakable.
It took so many years to get accepted into my in laws family.
Now everyone knows my true self & they respect me for that.
What I am trying to say is, eventually over the period of time, iswari would have accepted sona.
She need not have put up with Mami's insults.
Should have given back to her.
Dev would have understood & he would have definitely supported also.
Marriage is a partnership.
U should be able to discuss freely anything & everything with each other.
As parents to a girl child, we should give them correct guidance & values in life.
I understand that a girl should not take any abuse just to be in marriage.
But at the same time , it should not be something to be thrown off on a whim.
Children can do mistakes. But as parents we should guide them.
Even when Dev told that get out . She should have given time . She knew dev's temper. He was always like that. What I mean is Dev is not a bad person.
After the talks also, this happens then there would a proper closure.
That is why all this counseling is for.
But for all that u need maturity.
Sorry for my long rant.

@lakshmi, thanks for your appreciation. As a parent if it's their responsibility to be our strength then as a kid it's our responsibility to provide clarity and clear picture to them. No parent wants anything bad to their kids but sometimes they get blinded by their insecurities. Many times people say dev never took stand for Sona, excluding infertility track that guy was always there with her infact he gave full control of their relationship to her, that's how much he trusted her. Sona disappointed me when she conveniently pushed all blame on him when things went out of her hand. In fact, I feel she never took any stand for Dev before her family especially before Bijoy and that guy never complained about this. And I feel the main reason for Bijoy's current fears or behavior is because of this Sona's attitude. Unless he knows what exactly she thinks or wants, I don't think even dev can do anything. Till now, no one knows exactly what she wants since no one saw her without her facade and everyone has their own perspective based on the facade they see.

Originally posted by: deepsel

Also here Bijoy is not blaming Dev for moving on , infact he is happily waiting for that day so Sona can be freed from this emotional baggage and thats why I said he is a better father to wish good for Dev even if its for selfish reasons compared to most normal fathers like mine because if am in Sona's position my father can't digest the fact that the guy is getting remarried while his daughter is adamant to live with his old memories. And I should be responsible for most of that fault for his behavior and thinking and so I blame Sona here for that ! Hope I was able to convey what I wanted to , if not lets agree to disagree and move on.[/I]</font>[/DIV]

I have to agree that Bijoy is happy that Dev is finally getting re-married and Sonakshi would be freed from the Dixit family forever. He is also happy that though Sonakshi has promised him that she has no feelings for Dev, now that he is likely to be bethrothed to someone else, ek bala tal gayi! But, little does he know that Dev has agreed only because of Sonakshi!!!! What would happen when Sonakshi creates tantrums and looses her sanity at Dev's mandap?? 😃



-Rekha

Hi dear ones...hope everything fine with all of you. So, before I go to my reply on Baba Bijoy, I am here with a request. On the mention of the sleeping pills matter in Friday episode, I was forced to go & rewatch the episode where Dev takes Sona's permission to have sleeping pills (Episode 70 of S1, 6th June 2016). I came across lots of dejavu moments there (Mami bringing a jewellery brochure to Ishwari and asking to chose a ring for Natasha, reference of sleeping pills, reference of not hiding anything from a friend, Dev deciding to get married to Natasha and informing it to Ishwari, First time Asha expressing her desire to write a story, trying Natasha's ring on Sona's fingers) and felt like the makers were trying to connect this episode with Thursday's & Friday's episode in many ways. But, I am not getting a clear picture to put it across in words. Hence, it's my request to all the wonderful writers here to re-watch these three episodes. I am sure you will also feel the same I felt and help me to express it out. Please let me out of this suffocation...