*Season 2, Week 14* Analysis Thread - Page 13

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

This is my conviction in any case. If I am proven wrong, I will cross that bridge when we get there.😆

I don't think there is much risk of Ishwari's revelation causing Dev to wonder about Sona and Jatin that way. For one thing, he already went there with Sona during the office tashan and didn't need any help getting to that possibility. Additionally, he is not afraid of Sona having a sexual relationship with Jatin as much as he is terrified that Jatin is so much closer to being a family with Sona and Soha than he is -- that is to say, there would be fewer steps/obstacles involved in a Jatin-Sona marriage and happy family with Sona.

I honestly think that if Sona were to come out and say, yes, I am seeing Jatin then Dev would deal with it (there would probably be a lot of private destruction of property involved). What is bothering him now is that he thinks she is lying to him and he is determined to get to the bottom of it. It's as though this is the reverse of the Neel Lakotia situation, where he was certain that Neel wasn't Sona's boyfriend despite all of her insistance to the contrary. Here he thinks Jatin is her boyfriend and she is covering it up. In both situations, he is completely clueless about who her heart does go boom boom for. Hint: it starts with a D and ends with an -ev. 🤔

Dev needs to move past his jealousy, stop taking Sona at face value, and open his eyes to the glaring non-verbal clues in front of him. Sona wants to be a team with him, at least where Soha is concerned; she wouldn't be living in IN if not. His family and his happiness are at his fingertips if only he has the courage to sieze the day.

EDIT: As for Nikki, I don't think so. Dev clearly mentioned her birth when he proposed to Sona, and that was before their troubles began. It was the last good memory he had before he took Sona to his old house and told her he lost his childhood and himself there. For some reason, I just don't feel like it's that dramatic of a revelation -- the ramifications are going to be the significant part.

Originally posted by: Shaavi

Today's episode had 2 highlights for me --

1) Saurabh -- Ronita discussing honeymoon. I get the feeling that they are not going to go for their honeymoon. It will get cancelled because of something involving Sonakshi and Ronita's mom will be upset. 😊

2) Mirror image of Sona scenes with Dev on their coffee date. First of that mirroring is shown when Sonakshi gives coffee to Dev. Immediately Dev remembers the first time she gave coffee to him at his home. Second time is when she says "tumhare saath rehna"...

This mirror scenes with reflection is quite confusing. Today, I was especially puzzled with the second reflection. What was she trying to say or what were they trying to show was not clear. Were the makers trying to say that Sonakshi was still next to him, on his side, but was also away from him and on opposite side. Not sure. If anyone can understand it better, please provide explanations.

Originally posted by: Shaavi

@bold pink. I should stop predicting. 😆 😆 😉

Originally posted by: malikakas

Aishu, you've hit the nail on the head here. This is one of the reasons I strongly relate to his character. For me this is a character that has never really lived for himself. They say if you don't really love yourself, its hard to love someone else. Most of the issues Sonakshi has with Dev's "love" stems from the fact that he had a hard time loving himself without guilt.

This was something I wanted to discuss with Sam, when we were discussing male privilege and gender expectations with respect to a girl moving into a guy's house. I had started a response earlier but didn't have time to really get into it. So I hope its okay that I continue the discussion here. 😳

For me, the degree of guilt that was placed on Dev's character prevented him from having "male privilege" in the truest sense. Early on he was made to feel guilty about the advantages he enjoyed as a male, like the right to an education over Neha. So much so that he was basically "taught" that he was not "allowed" personal happiness without fulfillment of his family's happiness first (e.g. the honeymoon). Dev was required to take on the responsibility as the head male of the family but without the rights that are usually afforded to the head male of the family because he hadn't chosen it from a place of empowerment. Decisions that appeared seemingly his, always required the approval of Ishwari (like hiring Vicky in the company).

Going back to the previous discussion, in my opinion, Dev wouldn't have considered the idea of alternate living arrangements because his primary concern at that point in his life was clearing his debts-- i.e. taking care of his family and looking after his mother. IMO it was far less out of sense of male privilege or personal convenience. More than male privilege, I'd say it was male responsibility. Dev was made to be educated and successful OVER his sisters for that reason.

Obviously a lot of males in Indian culture are expected to look after their family, but I feel Dev got that message in a different way than people like Vicky or Saurabh or even Ranveer. I feel the latter 3 got the benefits of male privilege a lot more. Vicky and Saurabh could easily threaten their mothers that they would move out with their respective wives because they weren't consistently made to feel that they owed the family anything. If anything GKB instilled in Vicky a sense of entitlement that people should owe him. Ranveer's scenario was a lot closer to Dev's... but Ranveer was still taking on responsibility for his family from a place of male empowerment and maybe a little bit of male ego.

Dev, however, was emotionally manipulated into taking responsibility of his family from a place of guilt. Like the scene where Ishwari ensures Dev watches her humiliation to force him to work hard. Ishwari is a very complex character and I don't believe she is totally negative. But frankly she was a bit emotionally abusive towards Dev because of his status as a male. If anything she's more concerned about Neha not having a happy childhood than about Dev not having one.

So what Dev ended up learning was that he is not entitled to happiness unless his family is happy. Taken another way... everyone's happiness is his responsibility. That he isn't valuable unless he directly contributes to someone else's happiness.