Hi all, wonderful discussions! 👏
Just adding my two cents on two ongoing discussions.
I think Dev and Sona are divorced. Asha, like Devakshi themselves, is falling into familiar patterns when she refers to them as husband and wife. Bijoy did object to her doing so with a look and she immediately corrected herself -- okay, not pati/patni, but Soha's mother and father. They would not refer to each other as ex-es if they weren't divorced. However, I do agree that much like Dev's celibacy, they have left this open ended enough (by not showing us the divorce papers or having any character mention the legal proceedings) that if you really want to believe they are just separated, you can do that too.
As for Soha, I do agree that she is testing the waters and pushing boundaries. This behaviour is dangerous if it were to continue in the long term, but I am willing to give Dev and Sona a little time to become a team in this regard. In the mean time, I don't think it is the worst thing for Soha to have her way for a few days. The argument they had yesterday was very predictable, and it would have happened even if they had been together all this time. Sona was given high ideals and principles, Dev had the experience of survival mode. Sona will want to pass on those ideals, while Dev will want to give his child everything he didn't have.
What makes the situation very complicated now, is that Dev has not been a part of the equation for six years. He didn't get the chance to put in his input as Soha grew up, make the mistakes that he would learn from, and help mould Soha's personality by giving her the lessons and the gifts that he had to offer his child. He did the big thing by accepting all the blame in order to be with Soha, but as evidenced by his reference yesterday, the pain of missing out on six years of her life is nowhere near resolved, and if I am not mistaken, it will only get worse as he discovers how different his daughter is from a child he would have helped raise. At some point, Sona will have to accept responsibility for this, however blameless her motivations were.
I am not a parent, but I can speak from the perspective of a child and the way I see it, Soha has been through a huge upheaval lately. At this point, she is craving stability and I can't fault Sona and Dev for giving in to her demands to shore up the emotional ground under her feet. Discipline is not always the answer and sometimes can have very unwanted effects. They have this one opportunity to make sure that Soha's innocence and her childhood doesn't slip through their fingers and they are taking it. I mean, look how deep-down, genuinely thrilled she was sleeping with one parent on either side. If you can give her that to make her feel special and loved, why not? Once Soha is more sure of herself and her parents' love, I think they can start laying down the law with confidence that it won't break her spirit.
CID
