*Season 2, Week 11* Analysis Thread - Page 15

I too feel dev and sona are only separated and not divorced ...they always mention they are separated , have not heard abojt divorce from them and there werr no divorce papers in sona's documents .. and moreover divorce cannot happen with sona being pregnant ...

i agree about soha thing ...and d fact that ishwari can use it to her advantage irks me ...
but i feel dev and sona need to talk and make it a point to not argue in front of soha regarding her demands ...dey need to show her a united front ...dev has this inherent tendency to give whatever the other party demands be it ishwari sona or now soha ...but soha should know that she cannot get her way always and should learn to take no for an answer ...
my husband too has this tendency to bend backwards to fulfil demands of my son ...and right now my sona being d only child both sides is pampered to bits ..but from my side it is a strict instruction to my husband and both families that if i am denying sth no one is to counter atleast in front of child ...when he is not around talk to me and convince otherwise no is a no and he should know that ...

Originally posted by: Shaavi

@Mehraan. I too feel the same. They are not divorced, but just separated.

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

The child is crossing her boundaries. From the child's point of view agree whatever she is wishing for is quite innocent and simple because she doesn't understand adult complexities. Sh also might not realise that living with Ishwari might be very painful for her mother or sleeping on the same bed with her father might lead to emotional torture for her.

From the viewer point of view we are happy because she is being the catalyst for the love story.

But if we look at things only from the point of view of what is right, then the child has to learn that she can't arm twist her parents whenever she wants. Children always do that, they always push their boundaries. It is the parents job to demarcate them clearly.

Here due to circumstances, Soha is able to push her boundaries in a way which is not right for her.

Today, she is small and so her needs are innocent and small. But the lesson has been imbibed in the brain. So next time when she wants to spend a night out or have a boyfriend, just emotionally blackmail. Today it is a trip to kolkata, tomorrow it might be suicide threat or running away from home.

Children worsen during the teens till maturity sets in. Making their entire Base weak is never a good idea.

I would suggest that we should wait for the Dixit house to unfold. Ishwari is 100% going to try to use Soha by being extra good and Soha after all is only a child. She might in the long run refuse to stay without mummy but for some small points of time she is going to be affected and might hurt Sona irrevocably with her words. After all a child is being made to feel as if she is the boss and all elders should cater to her.

I seriously hope that Dev lashes out at Ishwari not because his daughter complains, but because Ishwari uses his daughter to hurt her mother

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Amazing posts guys 👏 this thread rocks

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@timbaruch whatever I am saying is on the basis of personal experience. My ex husband was desperate to avoid the divorce as his sister was also going through one and hence their entire relatives and society were mocking them. The easiest way for him to avoid it was win over my child because I will follow him. Further their entire family had severe psychological problems and there was no way in hell I could allow my child to be with them.

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

@timbaruch whatever I am saying is on the basis of personal experience. My ex husband was desperate to avoid the divorce as his sister was also going through one and hence their entire relatives and society were mocking them. The easiest way for him to avoid it was win over my child because I will follow him. Further their entire family had severe psychological problems and there was no way in hell I could allow my child to be with them.

Once I allowed my three year old with him for two hours and realised that attempts at brain washing had been made and also lots of promises of goodies.

My advocate strictly told me keep the child happy at any cost. So for the next two years the mantra was whatever the baby says be it toys, chocolates, movies anything and everything.

After the case was over and I tried to say 'no', my son refused to listen. It became so difficult to explain even small reasonable things to him. There were times when I had to literally beat him.

Slowly and steadily over the next 4 or 5 years he became normal. The war was between the parents. Who suffered- the child.

That is why even when people are blaming Soha, I keep on saying the same thing. It's never the child's fault. Only the parents.

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

@timbaruch whatever I am saying is on the basis of personal experience. My ex husband was desperate to avoid the divorce as his sister was also going through one and hence their entire relatives and society were mocking them. The easiest way for him to avoid it was win over my child because I will follow him. Further their entire family had severe psychological problems and there was no way in hell I could allow my child to be with them.

Once I allowed my three year old with him for two hours and realised that attempts at brain washing had been made and also lots of promises of goodies.

My advocate strictly told me keep the child happy at any cost. So for the next two years the mantra was whatever the baby says be it toys, chocolates, movies anything and everything.

After the case was over and I tried to say 'no', my son refused to listen. It became so difficult to explain even small reasonable things to him. There were times when I had to literally beat him.

Slowly and steadily over the next 4 or 5 years he became normal. The war was between the parents. Who suffered- the child.

That is why even when people are blaming Soha, I keep on saying the same thing. It's never the child's fault. Only the parents.

@Sona, @Payal, @Mehraan, I agree that Soha needs to learn hearing the word No and there is high possibility that Ishwari will use that against Dev and Sonakshi. Dev here is not just impulsive, but as many have said is trying to overcompensate for missing all these years. He also is trying to live his childhood through her where he did not get what he wanted, now wants to make sure that Soha gets everything she wishes.