*Season 2, Week 9* Analysis Thread - Page 34

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

I don't know what they will do now. They can fool themselves and call it co-parenting. But this companionship ain't going away. What will they do with that? What will they do with the happy happy rosy rosy feeling that they will start getting in each others company?

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

Seriously dq, even I want to know that what will they do now?

Thank you @PayalJ Edit-Typos

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

Seriously dq, even I want to know that what will they do now?

If I sum up the entire discussion then problem is both have the different idealogies and both are wrong. For dev to be with the loved onces is means, the apane. But if you have thr relatives, like, tripathi family here I including mamaji is, of no use, because, these relations are going harm you. Or accepting the loved ones the way are they is also wrong you required to stop them if they are, going to harm you like he knows what ishu is, but he don't done any thing to stop her. In case of sona she required to understand every realation of husbond and wife is different and needs are also different and every family is different and there is nothing perfect in life not a person and relation. They are imperfect and that's, there charm or you can according to the situation you are going make, it perfect for you .

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

First you could have disagreed without using demeaning linguistic style like why I even respond to views like this. If not fo r the sake of decorum then at least for the sake of the spirit of this thread!

Second I really don't understand why you take every thing personally and try to apply it on yourself? Nowhere did I divide the female population into two.

Please note that what I was talking about was the double standards of the so called hardcore feminists who have totally distorted the meaning and definition of the word feminism and think they are the only well wishers and preservers of female dignity.

I am myself a highly qualified professional working woman employed on a very senior post in a fortune 500 company and a divorcee. Am I not a feminist? I am but I am also fair because I realise that fighting for women rights doesn't mean negating male rights or constantly demeaning them.

I still have my feminine qualities like my maternal feelings and I love to cook and care for my family. And I am not ashamed of it. I am proud of being feminine as my feminine qualities are not my weaknesses but my greatest strengths.

Feminism means equality in every field of life but the definition is constantly misinterpreted to means preferential treatment in every treatment of life.

Heard the famous saying- 'chit bhi mera pat bhi mera angootha mere baap ka' or another version 'chit main jeeta pat tum haare'

If the word feminist is being loosely used as an abuse word today, the responsibility is solely of those women who misuse and exploit it day in and day out.

PS: if you seriously believe in what you said about the real definition of feminism then why react so strongly on an example which simply showed how several people are not following the true spirit and misusing it? Why take it as a personal hit and also start hitting others also on a personal level?

I'm sorry if my language was demeaning you in anyway.
It is not and will never be my intention to question your education, experience or standing in the society.
I come here and feel free to pose a question with just as much faith as I have on myself to treat people fairly as I would expect people to treat me fairly alongside my faith in people's intelligence in this forum.

Neither I did or will question if you are a feminist. In this day and age, I take it that all of us are for equal opportunities and respect.

So, no I am not here to prove anyone less or demean anyone.

1) Why I take everything personally? To me, unless one is Sona, Dev or any character in this play or the writers of this play, all that one states here is personal opinion. No?
I was asking if you were justifying the use of the term in that tone, in the play.

2) Your writing had 2 categories a feminist brigade and the other - which sounds like men, in general but I'm not too sure so I will say- other. I am sorry if my words lead you to believe I was accusing you of categorising only women. You were categorising all people. Right?

3) Your first writing was "an example which simply showed how several people are not following the true spirit and misusing it?" and neither did I read it as that in your writing then nor did I mean to be attacking your beliefs.
Given that no characters in the play put their hand up and asked why being a feminist is wrong and I have made a few posts asking why those terms- intelligent, independent and feminist- are used as derogatory terms, I took the opportunity to make it clear that not all feminists fit in your description of feminist brigade and I belong to this third of perhaps even the nth category of people who are feminists who believe in the spirit of feminism. I seem to have shown myself up as a sensitive feminist at that.

Anyway, much apologies again. Best.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

I know that Payal has already replied to you requesting you to respect the spirit of this thread. I would like to reiterate her request as co-mod and ask you to re-read the rules and respect the atmosphere we try to maintain here. Your post falls both under moral policing and a passive aggressive attack on another member's views.

I understand that it can be frustrating when we feel strongly about our views, and other people don't see what we do, but on this thread, we would like for everyone's views to co-exist peacefully no matter how different they are. Please note, this request is not for you to change your views but to respect another person's right not to agree with them. Thanks.

Many apologies for being demeaning, passively aggressively attacking and disrespecting the spirit of this thread.

I have written to Payal with my clarification and apologies.

Much thanks!

Originally posted by: jigsaw1234

Many apologies for being demeaning, passively aggressively attacking and disrespecting the spirit of this thread.

I have written to Payal with my clarification and apologies.

Much thanks!

Hi everyone, I know there are a lot of discussions going on here at the moment, but it is officially time for the new thread. Here is the link, and as always, feel free to carry over pending discussions.

@jigsaw1234 please there is no need to apologise as we are all friends here. Secondly what I meant by personal was don't take it as if I am talking about you as a person.