*Season 2, Week 9* Analysis Thread - Page 17

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

@jigsaw1234

Every individual is different. For Sonakshi it is impossible to live without Sona. I can easily understand and appreciate that because I am the same. Make me walk on live coals but can't stay without my son. My ex husband was hundred times Dev, but if he had won the custody case, I would have taken back the divorce case. No second thoughts about it.

Also, There is nothing demeaning about it. In the show also, The mother in Sonakshi overpowers the woman in her and so if the worst scenario comes, Sonakshi will follow Soha.

I would personally prefer Sonakshi to sit with Soha and explain to her that papa and his family was not good to mummy and her grandparents and therefore it is not possible for her to go. She can explain that people can be very nice to people they love and bad at the same time to those whom they don't.

Soha is shown quite sensible and will understand. But if Soha acts unreasonable, Sona would have no option but to bend.

I said that day in pehchaan's post also, we all are judging the show by keeping ourselves in their place. But the leads are not us. What makes you or me feel happy or satisfied will not make Sonakshi happy. Even in our family, is the happiness and needs of two sisters same?

We want redemption of Dev, we want him to grovel before Sonakshi, but have we thought for two minutes what Sonakshi, the character wants?

Originally posted by: Shaavi

The beauty of KRPKAB is that there is no black and white characters, except maybe Ayaan. Even maami and Vickky are not completely black, they are just darker shades of grey. The breakup was not just a result of Dev or Ishwari's mistakes, Sonakshi and Bijoy are also responsible for it. If Ishwari was driven by her insecurities and fear, Bijoy was driven by pride and ego. Is Ishwari wanted to retain absolute control over Son, Bijoy was not ready to let go of his daughter either. Both Dev and Sonakshi respected and mirrored these parents. Both of them let their parents interfere in almost everything.

As much as Dev or Ishwari need to introspect , accept their follies that lead to the breakup, Sonakshi and Bijoy need to do the same. Pride goes a long way before fall and there is no such thing as a selfless act in pride. It is true that Sonakshi did a lot of things for Dixit family, bore all the taunts and all, but most of the times it was not for selfless reasons. For Sonakshi it was about making her fairy tale come true and from her view, a "happily ever after" meant a family mirroring Bose family. She set out to place Dev as Bijoy and Ishwari as her dida and herself in Asha's place without completely understanding the role played by Asha. Also she did not stop to listen or give time to make this happen. Her fear of losing Dev acted as a catalyst and Sonakshi wanted her vision come true in a short period of time.

Dev might have said the words get out, but he had always told Sonakshi that he loved her and was committed to her. He kept proving it over and over, but in the end he got tired of it. Hence his disappointment.

All these main characters are now placed in such a way that they are emulating the characters that they judged others the most. Dev is now fighting for acceptance, understanding the struggle Sonakshi went through with his family during marriage phase. Sonakshi is learning how guilt can overshadow good decision making and make someone so vulnerable that will lead to committing blunders.

Ishwari is realizing how her interference and fear is costing her son to not have real happiness. How she is responsible for not giving him the freedom that he deserves. Bijoy on his end will realize that pride, ego and arrogance are not virtues. That he has not really followed what he preaches regarding absolute morality and will eat his share of humble pie.

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

@jigsaw1234

Every individual is different. For Sonakshi it is impossible to live without Sona. I can easily understand and appreciate that because I am the same. Make me walk on live coals but can't stay without my son. My ex husband was hundred times Dev, but if he had won the custody case, I would have taken back the divorce case. No second thoughts about it.

Also, There is nothing demeaning about it. In the show also, The mother in Sonakshi overpowers the woman in her and so if the worst scenario comes, Sonakshi will follow Soha.

I would personally prefer Sonakshi to sit with Soha and explain to her that papa and his family was not good to mummy and her grandparents and therefore it is not possible for her to go. She can explain that people can be very nice to people they love and bad at the same time to those whom they don't.

Soha is shown quite sensible and will understand. But if Soha acts unreasonable, Sona would have no option but to bend.

I said that day in pehchaan's post also, we all are judging the show by keeping ourselves in their place. But the leads are not us. What makes you or me feel happy or satisfied will not make Sonakshi happy. Even in our family, is the happiness and needs of two sisters same?

We want redemption of Dev, we want him to grovel before Sonakshi, but have we thought for two minutes what Sonakshi, the character wants?

Originally posted by: jigsaw1234

Fair enough. I made that statement on Sona leaving the child behind in rush of emotion and more like putting myself in that place rather than the character.

That said, other than the CVs who knows what the character wants? Sona might choose either way - stay with the child and father or walk away for the child and Dev's happiness.

Sorry if I have made you believe that I want Dev to grovel in front of Sona. No, actually, I want him to grovel in front of his mum first. Tell her why he couldn't trust her when he fell in love with Sona. He owes her that much. I want to believe that after he succeeds in this, when Ishwari knows Soha's wish, she will bring them together!

Originally posted by: jigsaw1234

Originally posted by: jigsaw1234

Edited for readability.

Thanks for this.

I agree on the underlying thread in this story: no black or white; all of us are grey and are hero/villain at various times.

I am not a fan of trashing one character to glorify the other or someone to take sides blindly. With that in my mind, let me put forward my argument.

I don't understand why we blame Ishwari and Bijoy for everything that has happened between Sona and Dev.
We were shown Dev and Ishwari are an adorable mother - son duo. Ishwari was never unkind to anyone. She is incredibly tolerant. She is as righteous as Bijoy Bose if we need comparison. When she realised her son's future was being out in a hard bargain she made the choice, irrespective of her daughter's wishes. Neha did eventually find a better man. When Dev was ready to marry Natasha, again she didn't disapprove. She did remind Dev not to mix business and family though but left it for him.
What was common in both situations was the proposal came to her first. She then discussed with her son. She repeatedly was shown to believe that her son will tell her when he falls in love. She believed in their trust for each other.

Now, comes Dev-Sona's love. What did Dev do? Even when Sona asked him to talk to family, he refused. What exactly was bothering him about his own family? Why did he fail to show trust in his mother?

My question is, don't you think Ishwari was pushed to insecurity by Dev failing to trust his mother? Of course, Ishwari, like any mother, right or wrong, will always support her child, hence her lack of faith in Sona. She couldn't believe her love could have taught her son to deceive her. So she blamed Sona and however hard she tried she couldn't forgive Sona.

Bijoy and Asha, they are a pair. I refuse to believe they have an impact individually because then we would be saying loud one always has the louder say. Again, Bijoy is protective, he was respectful to Dev at all times before their first break up. Again, after seeing your child hurt tell show me a parent who won't be paranoid the next time around? In real life, at 10, my son's classmate's parents don't even invite a child for their child's play date because that boy cheated their son in a game of pokemon!
So what is wrong in Bijoy being protective?

BTW, when Sona finally went to meet Dev because they were on the streets it wasn't because Bijoy told her to , it was actually Asha!

Again, my question is didn't Dev push the Boses to distrust him? Show me an instance before the first break up where Bijoy expressed distrust. This is the same Bijoy who told Sona to keep her relationship secret form the rest of Bose family so she can enjoy a bit of romance!

Both Ishwari and Boses are 'Once bitten Twice shy' and they were unfortunately bitten by Dev Dixit.

So going forward I wouldn't want to involve the parents in the mix at all. Their pride is there for us to see in how well they have brought up their children who are self sufficient, independent, intelligent and have a great social standing. All of us have pride and arrogance and to me, both these sets of parents show it wisely. Of course, if we get on their wrong side, you don't expect even a mouse to sit tight, do we?
Both their children are brought up well, given enough tools to distinguish right from wrong and respect from blind faith!

Coming to Sona and Dev. Again, you make a good point on there being no such thing as selfless act. I totally agree with you on this. Sona's actions at the Dixits house were her attempts in her words to bind with that family. Right or wrong they were her choice and being the person I am, I'd just say, she tried with good intentions and that is everything.

@Bold, Sure they love each other. In all things in life there is a moral code.

Sona didn't come back to leave the Dixits. She came back to put an end to the issue raised because of money.

She didn't leave because he lied or the taunts or that he slapped her father. She left because he asked her to leave!

Even if we say she was wrong to return the money, fight for her father's pride, It is a shame that Dev who expected her to understand his fight for his mother's pride and wishes wasn't able to understand her.

Like I wrote elsewhere: What this story has shown me is most promises are there to be broken, relying on each other is relationship after all. There are also times when one must be the stronger one, the honest one and there are some lines which should never be crossed. And those are the times that actually matter!