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take a bow Tia. there is no better way putting the thoughts into words. Yes Dev Dixit is not a man that a woman with self esteem can call as a wonderful husband.
the irony is going by the average indian households, he is the best among those that a normal households offer. I would like to say you are among the lucky few who get to see a stronger men with great character, unfortunately not every female gets this chance.
Exposure to a bigger world, a greater society, a higher thought process are those that help us emancipate. I too am an NRI , i can clearly see the difference in my own attitude when i was living in India and once i moved abroad.
All i can say, the society in which we live, plays a major part in us framing strong opinions of how one should behave, and going by that in mind KRPKAB is bold enough to bring certain aspects of society to our living room.
To people like you, vimal, tikerfairy and few others who have seen men with honor and virtue can never accept the behaviour of Dev and forever we are going to condemn him. But for those who are yet to see such men, their benchmarks low as compared to your standards and hence they find him ideal. this show is for those average mass.
I think Rekha, you were not watching the same show I was. Firstly, Dev didn't love Sona despite him being aware of her infertility. He loved Sona first and then came to know about her infertility. There is a difference.It's like someone falling in love with a HIV patient and someone falling in love with someone and then finding out that they have got HIV.I don't know what you know about love. But true love doesn't come and go based on circumstances which was no one's fault and just situation of life.The fact that Dev married Sona knowing the truth is normal. Because of the simple reason that he loved her. Not her ability to have children. If the situation was reversed, Sonakshi would have done the same.But lying and deceiving are not situation. What Dev said to Sonakshi yesterday, had he said the day he found out the truth, well he'd be an excellent human being and ideal husband. But what he said yesterday sounded insincere by his actions.If Sonakshi is enough for him, then why did he go behind her back trying to get her pregnant without informing her?It's like saying someone tells a woman that he loves her with all her imperfections and then schedules plastic surgery behind her back. That is exactly where insincerity comes in. By the way, Dev didn't reveal what he tried to do but failed to do because the doctor did not cooperate.All Dev's dialogues of support were not there when he was letting Sonakshi keep on getting insulted without saying a word. It was not there when he could have spoken the truth and stood by her regardless whether his mother "allows" them to get married or not. His choice was to hide the truth and continue deception.He couldn't even tell the truth about his misdeeds to his mother in private. He wanted Sonakshi to say it. Why? So that he can share the blame with her rather than be the sole target?And what mistake did Sonakshi committed that she had to say sorry? Her condition is beyond her control and since Dev hid the truth, her choices were also taken away from her. Then sorry for what?You asked which man will accept a woman who can't conceive? The answer is that the man who is in love with the woman. Because when someone truly in love, NOTHING matters than being with the person you love. They would never be happy with anyone else regardless of their ability to procreate. If a man only marries a woman for how much her womb can function, he is not in love. Period.I have seen couple like that. Not one, but three of them where they can't get pregnant. But they are happy together. One couple adopted, the other got pregnant by fertility treatment and the third remained childless. These are real men and real women who are truly in love. The people who run away hearing about infertility thinking to find another functioning womb, were never in love.However, in what way a man marrying the woman after finding out her infertility while hiding the truth of her health condition is women empowerment? Being lied to is women empowerment? Or the fact a man married you knowing about your infertility is women empowerment? I don't think you know the definition of women empowerment. Because being lied to is actually taking away your power to make your own decisions and that is the exact opposite of women empowerment.The script basically showed that no matter how big a man's lies are and how often he lies, if he says he did it for someone else's good and have good intention, then regardless what his actions were, he will not only be forgiven, but his wife will say sorry for situation not in her control. That's definitely not women empowerment.I have nothing to say about Ishwari. She has always been a selfish woman. And why would I choose Elena? If I have to choose as an example, I will choose Bijoy. He is cranky, eccentric, abrupt and rude. But he is wise, speaks the truth, always does justice to every single one of his relationships. And most of all, can't even imagine hurting his own family members by deceiving them.Let's not forget, Neha's divorce was also Dev Dixit and Ishwari's doing. They never gave her good advice. They are the ones who handed over divorce like people pay for candy for being a good girl.I can't write positive posts on regressive mentality shown on screen. I can't focus on romantic scenes on the bedroom and public humiliation and flogging of female lead's self-respect in living room on a daily basis. I can't wax poetic on the male lead's smouldering glances and lofty dialogues which is negated by his actions. If you want "positive posts" like that, there are plenty of them in the forum for you to enjoy. I will write what I see and feel.However, may be next time if I ever write any post, you will come back with stronger arguments to prove your point.
Shiv Shakti
