KRPKAB current track -- My take.... - Page 5

@mily_mathew: It's not a mere coincidence that all of us felt disgust at the interaction between Dev and Ishwari. The writers are very deliberately showing things in a certain light to elicit our responses. How else were they supposed to show it? Dev and Ishwari obviously don't understand that their relationship is unhealthy... that is the whole premise of the show.

Learning from your mistakes is not always a linear path, where you realise immediately and change completely. It takes time to identify the root of the problem and then again to address it. On top of that, you might have a thousand reasons to doubt your instincts, you might be treating the symptoms instead of the cause. It takes time, and Dev is learning the hard way.

@LiveLife321: So glad to see your response! I too was relieved yesterday when they didn't brush this under the rug, actually showed Dev carrying his conversation with Ishwari forward, and had him behave that way in front of Sona and Asha. Now that they are making it an actual issue, I am looking forward to seeing it unfold.

You were so right about their break-up/patch-up, and honestly, that is what I loved so much about it, and about the wedding. Nothing in those episodes indicated that Dev and Sona had reached their Happily Ever After. If they had had a fairytale wedding with all the problems resolved, it would have made their mistakes now look terribly inconsistent. In real life also, we accept people we love with their flaws and we work on creating an equation that works both ways -- that's what Dev and Sona are doing now, and what is keeping me hooked!

We feel safest when we believe that our parents can handle everything and always know what is best. Ishwari's happiness makes Dev feel safe and her anger makes him feel alone and scared. Instead of accepting the harsh truth that his mom is human, which he has a good sense of, he chooses the easier way whenever possible and assumes that Ishwari acts selflessly for his good.

I don't blame the CV's for their unconditional love of Ishwari! They have created a masterpiece of a character. Like Dev, she too is a tragic heroine with a fatal flaw: the fear of becoming redundant. That fear is driving all of her actions. She keeps dragging Dev back into the past because deep down she feels like she has nothing to offer in the present. And this is becoming her undoing, like a self-fulfilling prophecy. She fears that Sona will cut her out of Dev's life so she exerts her manipulative powers on Dev. In turn, those very powers are what is eventually going push Dev away when he realises why she has been using them.

I love the physical/emotional separation idea, and especially the notion that Sona is preparing him for it. Maybe this time, with his newfound independence, he won't need alcohol to call Ishwari out on her actions!

@Krkapb_meg: I do my best, and I tend to post most when the show is in a controversial stage like this!

Dev's arrogance, absolutely! I think what intrigues Sona is that his arrogance doesn't come from entitlement, as she once assumed, but from survival. He had to be arrogant in order to make it to where he has but in the process he has lost so much in terms of emotional growth. I think he helps Sona see what a luxury her upbringing was, with nothing challenging her black-and-white value system.

I totally agree that Dev is ready to grow out of this relationship, and Ishwari knows that which is what terrifies her most. If he is not dependent on her, what is going to keep him from moving away with Sona and becoming part of her family, leaving them destitute once again? That's why she reminds Dev of his "debt" to her every time he lets himself forget and lives in the moment. Basically, he needs to be aware that Ishwari will need extra TLC when he has fun without her, if he wants to avoid a big blowout.