Insights and Observations - Page 2

Indeed, I agree with you that the trauma of their pasts are the factors behind the Dixits' actions and reactions...

Your statement that Ishwari panicked is right.. It was clearly evident when she mentioned that even on their worst days, she was able to provide a roof over their children's heads... Despite all her flaws, her determination to never give up and fight on, is a quality to be much admired on...

But, since you have mentioned it, I feel that Ishwari is still much more affected by her past than Dev... Since, Dev, either because of Sonakshi or with time, has started the natural process of healing.. For him, his past is slowly, but gradually becoming a blurred memory..

His wounds of the past have started to heal...It's only when Ishwari reopens his wounds, he starts to again feel the agony of them...

I feel that Ishwari always knew that neither she nor her son has been able to come out of their past... Her past has become mixed with her present and sometimes, she can no longer differentiate between the two...

But, then, she sees her son moving ahead in life and suddenly, she starts feeling alone since she and her companion are no longer on the same page... That's why, she acts the way, she has because she doesn't want the feeling of loneliness to engulf and consume her... So, she drags her son back, to stop that feeling...

That's why, I feel that with every step, Dev moves forward, she becomes more and more desperate and consequently, her insecurities and her fears taken even firmer root in her mind...

That's a interesting analysis .Even though I was busy with my personal commitments I had to login to respond to this thread .

I just wanna talk about Sonakshi's character here n .I have noticed some similarity between Ishwari and Sonakshi .

We have seen how Sonakshi was not able to trust that Dev fell for her for a long time .She always thought he is out of her league , even after confession she was doubtful of his love and she doubted his commitment when he hesitated to talk to his mom .No matter how loyal Dev was and how true his love was Sonakshi had her doubts .There were insecurities and she needed constant assurance from him. I see the same in Ishwari too but in a amplified form..Dev is a ideal son and any mother would be blessed to have him. In a way he has dedicated his life for her yet we see her getting insecure for smallest things and needs constant approval from him that she still important to him .

Another thing common between both ladies is they want to have a control over Dev and his decisions .Both expect him to consult them before taking any decisions .We have seen this trait in Sonakshi too where even before marriage she demanded how Dev offered Ranveer a flat without consulting her and Ishwari did the same too .Even now its happening with Neha's issue .Both the ladies doesn't trust Dev enough , they believe he cannot take a right decision and they are there in his life to guide him .In recent episode , Sonakshi made a statement that when will Dev discuss , when he would have screwed up everything .So she believes he would do a mistake .If Dev was against divorce then Ishwari would have behaved in a similar way .

When Dev doesn't heed to their advise both punish him in their own way .Ishwari takes him through the guilt trip .We have seen how manipulative Ishwari can get .Sonakshi on the other believes in silent treatment , last two episodes were a good example .I believe Sonakshi was disappointed with Dev as he didn't listen to her instead supported Neha in getting a divorce .It was never about not discussing matters with her .(I made a post on that so wont discuss the same here ).Sonakshi is not manipulative like his mom and she understands Dev better than his mom .

Another big example would be post breakup scenario .Moving on was never for her parents .I don't believe that her parents forced her to get married , they would have given her enough time if she has asked for it .Initially Sonakshi might have decided to move on for forgetting Dev but later it was only because her ego/pride was hurt .She wanted to hurt Dev in a way he hurt her and it did give her some solace when she saw how much the breakup effected him .I am still not sure why she continued her relationship with Ritwick when she knew she could never give 100% to the relationship , whether to push Dev so that he can take a stand or whether to punish him for choosing his mom over her .

After breakup both the ladies went out of their way to secure their position in Dev's life .It started with Ishwari who begged Bose family to accept the alliance and on other hand Sona went out of way for following Dixit family rituals as she feared Ishwari had the powers to separate her from Dev .

All I wanted to say was all there 3 characters love each other with some conditions - be it Dev , Ishwari and Sonakshi .They have certain expectations and limitations . I am not doubting Sonakshi's love towards Dev but at times she becomes selfish too just like Dev .Both love each other and are happy in their own world .When external issues pops up then the problem starts .Both have different views and they need to learn to find a middle ground .Even trivial issues like room dcor becomes a problem if they ignore each other's opinion and taste .😳