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This main purpose about this post is not to make an in-depth analysis of this week's episodes or dissecting the characters of Dev, Sonakshi and Ishwari... But, to clear out the thoughts, that still leaves my mind in a state of chaos..
A lot of things have happened since my last post, and I feel that I need to clear my head, so that I can concentrate on things which will actually affect my real life and not, some characters in a fictional show...
So here it goes...
1. In my opinion, Dev's incapability to keep the promises that continues to come out of his mouth, is by far, his worst flaw... The way that promises keep coming out of his mouth is so similar with the way that taunts come out of GKB's mouth...
I feel the reason that he can't keep his promises is simply because, when he makes them, he only takes himself into account and forgets about his mother, family or other things...
When he makes those promises to either Sona or someone else, he doesn't take into consideration how his promises will affect his mother.. Because he doesn't believe or understand that how promises made by him can affect his mother or his family..
For him, his promises and his other responsibilities or relations are two completely different things, completely isolated with each other...
When, he says to Sona that her family is his family also, it means that, for him, Bijoy and Asha are like his parents and so on... He loves them and pampers them in a way similar to his mother... The way that he fed Asha with so much warmth and affection is very much similar to how he takes care of Ishwari...
When he says that Sona, you are also part of my family, he simply meant that for him, Sona is not only his wife, but so much more... For him, his family is incomplete without his 'Khargosh'.. Subconsciously, his home is where his heart is and his heart is with Sonakshi...
So, I feel that as his character has undergone a lot of change but I feel that he's a work in progress and I feel that it will take some life-altering events, in his life, before he finally transitions into a man that we are all waiting to see...
2. Even though, this is related to my first point but considering, this is the issue which has aggravated a lot of viewers this weekend is 'how Sonakshi can hear to in-laws (Ishu and GKB) insults regarding her family mutely, especially after she left the house after telling her that she feels like an outsider?'
So, I would like to point out that she might have been made to feel like an outsider but what hurts her the most is not that fact whether anyone else considers her family or not, but whether Dev considers her one or not...
When he told her to stay away from his family matters.. That's when she started feeling suffocated and alienated in the Dixit household... We have to remember she is the same woman who admitted to the fact, that the only person who has the power to hurt her is Dev... And here, I don't mean the physical abuse but the emotional torment...
Even before she became his wife, she knew that she will face challenges in the form of Ishwari, GKB and others... She knew that they have not accepted her completely, especially Ishu and that's why she tried so hard to fit in...
Sonakshi's biggest flaw is that she is emotionally co-dependent on Dev... If Dev's happy, so as she... If Dev feels sad, then, she also feels sadness... She does what she does because she wants to see him happy... She knows that her happiness is tied with his... That's why, I feel that Asha said to Bijoy that Sonakshi will only remain happy with Dev because she has also seen her daughter's trying to move forward but still failing miserably, because she can't let go of Dev...
This was further confirmed with the scene when she lays her head on Dev's lap signifying that the only thing that she needs is her husband's affection and support... For her, Dev is the axis of her world...
And, coming back to the argument, even when Sonakshi expresses to Dev about her feeling like an 'outsider', she never mentioned or even targeted Dev's family members... But, she accused Dev of considering her an outsider...
When she said she feels like she is walking on egg shells at her in-laws place, she meant that Dev blaming her for her actions... She was angry at Dev and not on his family, because with time, she has come to a realization that she probably will never be completely accepted in his family... Hence, her demands and expectations are only limited to her husband...
3. Now, I feel that many of us are pissed at Ishwari for how she behaved in her son's in-laws home.. She had no right to expect that she will be treated like a queen and put on a pedestal, like her home...
Bijoy answering her questions in a calm manner clearly indicated that he was not worried about his actions nor had any interest in bowing his head down like a slave in front of the 'great' mother...
And, in my opinion, it was a good thing that neither of our protagonists spoke up, because,while it would have satisfied us, it would just make Ishwari more paranoid and crazy... When she saw her son showering love on another maternal fears, her insecurities again come back to the surface and that was why she was so blunt and rude...
And, personally, I feel that Bijoy knows what kind of mother, Ishwari, yet he stoked the fire when he told her that he has thrown his son out of his home, along with his daughter...
While, I am glad that Bijoy treated both of them as adults and had the confidence that his daughter is in safe hands of her husband shows that he has started to trust Dev and their small moments was great to watch...
But, throwing people out of his house, no matter whether they are adults or not, is irrelevant.. While his intentions and his idea was good, his execution was wrong... But, we have to still remember that it's a show and they have to introduce such methods to make things more interesting and lighthearted...
4. Also, I feel that Sonakshi has not reached a place from where she can question either Ishwari or someone else's actions including GKB, Vicky or even Neha...
When she gave a very logical solution to Dev regarding Vicky joining Ishwari Enterprises... Vicky came back home and told everything to RR and RR using Ishwari's biggest fears, made her beloved 'Jiji' dance to her tunes and hence, changed the decision in her son's favor... In all of this, Sonakshi was the victim and yet, she was made to feel like an accused...
Even, in Neha-Ranveer issue, every action of hers was, instead of being appreciated, was turned against her...
So, I don't think that we can expect the same Sonakshi that once showed Ishwari and GKB their places, until she knows that her point of view, or her actions will not be turned against her...
5. That is why, I feel that her demand of a makeover of the room shared by her and Dev, is a very much needed step.. Till this date, everything in the Dixits have remained the same, except for her physical presence...
Once the room is finally redone, I feel it will act as a physical reminder of the changes that are happening in the lives of the Dixit family... At the same time, it will give a sense of belonging to her as well as could become her abode inside the Ishwari mansion...
I don't understand what's the tension going around the forum regarding the swing... We have to realize that it was shown as a precap for an episode to be aired on Monday... So, there will be some drama involved in it...
I am sure that there is something intriguing regarding the precap, but I am sure that it will bring our lovebirds closer because their new sanctuary will have flavors of both of them...
6. I feel that Dev's stay at the Bose's will do wonders for his character growth.. Till date, he has been part of family where there was no communication... Everyone led their separate lives... Everyone had their own agenda and this man who became their provider, was responsible to fulfill each and everyone's whims while no one ever catered to his own emotions...
But, then he goes to a family where everyone communicates freely, expresses their emotions without any kind of hesitation... The concept of egos doesn't exist among them..
He was a part of a dinner where he saw two members engaging in some lively banter... There was a lot of teasing but the mood around the table was filled with a sense of warmth and content... He was alarmed because he knew if this happened in his home, then, it would have been taken as an insult and the argument would have turned into an ugly clash of egos..
This stay made him realize that how families are tied with strings of love and understanding... Unlike his family, where the only thing which keeps them together are their needs and desires...
It's funny that the only thing that Dev demands from his family.. To be more precise, his mother is the same thing which Sonakshi expects out of him... A caress through his hair is all, he desires for all his hard work... He just want to lean on someone when he feels sad, down..
Sometimes, I feel pity for this man because his 8 year old self had a mother who truly loved him... Ishwari is so insecure that she, in my own opinion, no longer emotionally connects with her son... And, that disconnect started to happen even before Sona entered Dev's life...
In all the pampering that Dev showers on her, truly made her feel like she is entitled to all that love... Instead of feeling blessed that she has got a son like him,.. She feels that for all her sacrifices, she has right to everything in her son's life, including his happiness..
That's why, we see a Dev who can't imagine his life without his 'Khargosh' because he knows that in his wife, he has got a person who loves him, the 'Dev' that no one cares about... He longs to be free of all his burdens, he wishes to be free and live his life, the way, he envisions it... But, he can't do that until he is free of his responsibilities...
But, his mother will never let him relieve his burdens... She is putting all this weight on his son's young shoulders, not caring that he feels suffocated by it... In her insecurity, she is no longer seeing her son, but only sees her image..
7. I think we all accept the fact, that 'the Only Constant in Life is Change'.. And, there are two ways through which we accept them in our lives..
One, we accept them and adapt ourselves accordingly... That will mean that we have to sometimes, undergo a bit of trouble, but in the end, it will be worth it...
Or, Second, we resist and resist, until we are forced to accept the change... And, this acceptance usually comes at a cost...
So, I firmly believe that Dev and Sonakshi will come out being stronger through this period because they make mistakes and learn from them... They accept that changes are happening in their lives and accordingly adapt themselves...
Meanwhile, Ishwari and all others, who believe that nothing has changed will be up for a rude awakening.. If Ishwari can ever come out of her paranoia, then probably, she can accept it and make her peace with it.. In the end, it will be good for her only... Otherwise, she will be forced to accept them at the cost of her son (Like she had to accept Sonakshi into her household, even when she didn't want to...)
P.S: Glad that this extremely long rant is finally over.. I hope that this makes some sense... Finally, I could go back to my life...
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