Honesty is Overrated!!! - Page 4

Originally posted by: KamnaSharma

Im a silent reader of this forum. Can I say a v simple thing. If u feel the cvs are not doing justice why you are wasting your precious time in watching something which you feel unrealistic. The cvs have creative freedom to write what they think appropriate and the viewers also possess the same right as the remote is in their hands. Nobody is complelling to watch the show. It's epitome of negativity to bash the cvs after the episode. If you think the serial is disgusting dont watch. Atleast the cvs have restrictions and have to adhere to certain norms. Where as the viewers have no compulsion nobody even bother if they stop watching the serial. This is atrocious... to watch the episode without fail and criticise everything. Hypocrisy personified thats alll I can say!

Originally posted by: vibg

ive been saying the same thing. she is good from which angle? look at her offsprings.. they are emotionally weak people. she does everything to give pain to her own suputra!

Originally posted by: rose4ever

Just watched the episode .As far as speaking the truth about Sona's medical reports is concerned,I have zero hopes of Dev telling it to Sonakshi.She will find it out some other way and it will create a huge drama.So,I wasn't surprised to see him hide the truth today.Dev is not thinking that by hiding he is only going to cause her more pain,not thinking about her right to know it,or the fact by talking about it,they can actually find some solution.

There was no reason to lie about dinner today.Is he going to give the excuse of difficult past for every small thing? He could have easily told the truth today.Haven't we seen so many times Dev skipping breakfast or dinner due to work? So what was the big deal today?

As soon as I heard Dev & Sona agreeing not to fight,I knew something of that sorts would be happening the next moment/episode🥱I wasn't wrong.There was no need to react the way he did when the only thing Sona was asking was about the need to lie regarding dinner.👎🏼

As for Sonakshi- I don't think she would lie regarding date to Ishwari🤔At least, I hope not.It's probably gonna be Dev who informs Ishwari about them visiting to her mama's place.But of course,Ishwari is going to blame Sonakshi and create a big emotional drama and Dev will probably stand mum and feel guilty.Again.

Originally posted by: tia.o

And you show a heroine who lies to her mother-in-law to go on a date with her own husband as if she is doing something wrong instead of taking her right as a wife.

A strong woman doesn't lie to get her rights, she just takes it. To spend time with her husband, no woman needs someone else's permission. Yes, she may inform due to courtesy, but that's it. Obviously concept of equality is beyond you.

You know, a lot of MILs are nosy like Eeshwari(though this woman takes it to the next level). I wanted to buy some nice Indian traditional menswear for my husband for his brother's wedding so I informed my MIL about that. So she opens her pitara of my FILs old clothes, and tells my husband that there is no need to buy new clothes as there is so many clothes his 70 yr old dad is not wearing anymore. She just loves to pit herself against me at every opportunity.😆 I told her that we are going shopping and I was just informing her.

What delusional world do you think we live in?

You think a husband and wife is justified by lying to each other or others in the name of saving them from hurt? Do you think they won't be hurt when the truth comes out? And what character stamp would you put on the main leads of your show? In plain speak, a couple of liers.

Intention doesn't always justify the means. If it did, then everyone who wants to earn a degree by cheating so that they can support their family will get credit for good intention. But instead they are suspended.

CVs when I was demanding Dev to protect Sona, I meant protection against insults and humiliation. No adult needs protection from truth, no matter how bitter or painful it is.

And when I was asking you to portray a strong woman, I meant to show a woman who demands her right, not lies to get it as if going out with her husband is a crime.

By the way, this was also the woman who never hesitated from telling the truth and stood up to Ishwari to show her the mirror after break up. Now you made her into Ishwari Part 2

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font size="3" color="#660033">You know Rose, I am kinda tired at this excuse of a sad past repeated on loop to justify lie, deceit, rude behaviour everything. Get over it already.</font>

<font size="3" color="#660033">Dev is what? 30? And say he started his business in his 20s. And say his hard life started when he was 10 (because his father had to be alive when Nikki was born unless she is illegitimate).</font>

<font size="3" color="#660033">So mathematically he had 10 years of hard life in total. Then he had 10 years of better life assuming he started his business in his 20s. So he has lived a rich and priviledged life as long as a poor hard life and soon his rich life will be longer than his so-called past.</font>

<font size="3" color="#660033">Then why does he keep whining about his past even now?</font>

<font size="3" color="#660033">Har complaint ki excuse, Past perfect aur kya?</font>

Originally posted by: dsr11

Exactly. Today's episode got me thinking that they are actually trying to show codependency in the show. Hopefully they deal with it in a proper way. I still have hope even after I put up with all the useless characters/ useless fights/ useless episodes/ useless tracks. Earlier it was just the mom-son duo in such a relationship, but now Sona entered that relationship.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle

This fits the Dev-Eeshwari-Sona scenario so well. All three are switching between victim-rescuer-persecutor roles according to the situation. One of them needs to come out of this cycle in order to stop it. I expect Sona to do that. She is relatively new to all this and she had a healthy upbringing. She should stop playing victim of Eeshwari and Dev; she should stop persecuting Dev for listening to Eeshwari; she should stop rescuing Dev when he doesn't want to be rescued. Dev and Eeshwari will continue in that for a long time before it turns to better, because they have been in such a relationship ever since Dev's father died and that's a long time! - And it's not natural. Dev now has a wife to spend time with. There's only X number of hours in a day, out of that he spends Y number of hours at work, sleeping, going back and forth from office. So that leaves (X-Y) hours left to spend with family. Even before Sona, Dev used to read, work at his study etc and Ishwari used to hang around with Radha, Neha, Nikki, Riya, Mamaji. He didn't spend all those times with his mother. But now he has a wife who deserves to spend time with her husband. Dev needs to stop feeling guilty and spend time with his wife. If he is that guilty about spending time with his wife, why did he marry?

Lies never take you too far. Honesty and truth is the only way out of such vicious cycle. During break up, Sona was able to point out Eeshwari's mistake without all the drama. She should do the same now. Just show them the mirror every now and then and let them do whatever. Just draw boundaries and make them respect them. Though it's hard, she should try not to get affected by all the mom-son drama. She should take good care of herself and do things that make her happy without including them. She needs to preserve her own sanity if she wants change in the dynamics of this triangle. - Absolutely agree.

May be I am just delusional and thinking too much of an Indian soap. May be it will just be like gopi bahu show, with subservient DIL, controlling MIL, uptight son and some vamps thrown in for drama. I will just watch some more episodes and see what they are trying to show. - That's why I am still sticking around and for people like you. Otherwise I'd have left already.

Originally posted by: tia.o

Originally posted by: dlavanya

I would differ a bit here.. Facts dev was 9yr when he lost dad and dev is now 28 may be..

I wouldnt count on how many years of hard life a person lived ... According to me a single awful day in the past of a person is enough to make a life long impact.. Having said that 10 yrs of hardship is a lot and no matter how many years of riches he lives after that wouldnt matter..

Lets not assume what all they had to go thru during those 10yrs .. Lets just accept it was very difficult period and they can never erase the impact that had in their lives for this lifetime.. Now lets see what those hardships were and how dev and ishwari will eventually atleast learn to live with out fearing past.

(Just as an example a girl was raped oneday. Lets say it happened 20 yrs ago and ahe had a very goid life before and after that fateful day.. Would you say she should not remember that ine day her whole life? Will her life ever be the same after that day?

We saw sone guys were after ishwari and she used to roam around with a knife.. So how many such frightful days would she have gone thru...so lets not undermine the past