D for Deception!!! - Page 4

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

I liked Wednesday's episode. There is no kitchen politics there. That's a small problem. Sona will be caught, taunted.. she will do some sensible talking and things will move on

What today's episode gave us was strong material for sona's future thoughts that Ishwari is unwell and needs help where it comes to Dev

And of course some more devakshi arguments are brewing already

Why do I think a second separation track is coming soon. Where sona will go back to her mayka and yet again a passionate Dev will beg her to come back

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Agree. 😳 And like you said, this whole thing would just be like Halwa incident where Ishwari was SO innocent, and Sona was insulted 😳 Again Dev would go gaga over Ishwari for helping Sona 😆

The only problem is, if Ishwari were like any other regular MIL, not an issue. But she has this uncontrollable habit of lying and deceit which is going to create problem for Sona. For good or for bad, a lie is always a lie and she does it all the time. People must 'try' to avoid lying as much as possible . I just hope that like yesterday, Sona again defends herself saying it's not a big deal that she can't cook Rasam hoga 80 yrs pehle that newly wedded bride should spend her entire first day in kitchen, who cares now people hardly get leaves on their own wedding (working women). What is this shame of admitting that one doesn't know something ? It's not like a criminal offense ! 😕 People do stupid things to avoid small problems only to invite a much bigger problem from the same issue. Sona is gonna get trapped for her lies. She should stick to her own instinct and habits and should ignore Ishwari's suggestions like these. I myself learnt it hard way in my life and now I dont care to admit in front of whoever that I still can't cook what can I do 😆 But hiding stuffs like this creates a spider-web in which one day the creator itself gets stuck😕

This DB is really annoying. She is thinking about Sona's Bahu Who told her that Sona would have a boy ? Nonsense ! 🥱 I never knew Ishwari had such close relatives all of a sudden who didn't bother to attend Neha's wedding to suffocate her with rituals ? 😕

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Ishwari's character is a product of the patriarchal society. 90% of uneducated women in a household where men and their families have dominated lie blatantly. That is how they survive. That is how they get their requirements fulfilled in a patriarchal joint family. For them how /or the path that they choose doesn't matter as long as they are good in front of others, but the goal matters. Hence they will be liked by all and termed the most diplomatic person and loved by all. . I AM NOT JUSTIFYING HER.

Origin of a character and behavior of a person has a history behind it. Most of these traits develop in the initial ages of your life . So grooming of a child plays a huge role in it. What the child sees and understands/ perceives from its environment affects the child. Our parents always tell us don't fight in front of kids, don't lie in front of kids etc etc..

An educated, independent and straight forward person like Sona who comes from a very balanced family ...also fell into the trap because this is a new ground for her. Initial fear and wanting to be perfect in front of her in laws made her do it...was she feeling guilty ?? Yes, she was but did that stop her from agreeing to her MIL . No!! - Because the want to satisfy her love was beyond every principles that she followed.

Now ,imagine at a young age Ishwari has lived with a person like that Dhadhi Bua. What her life would have been and how she would have survived? Remember she never had the luxury that Sona had in her childhood. Women she was around would be like Dhadhi Bua and GKB..so how do you think her character would be ?? The nice side of her comes from the knowledge of religious texts. When it comes to application of these principles to achieve a task fails then she uses her own means to survive. That is what she has seen in her childhood and no one said its wrong because towards the end the goal is achieved!! She will not change . She has mastered it by now. It is a part of her. You take it away from her then she is lost !!

You think , Dhahi Bua would not have lied ?? Yes , she would have done the same as Ishwari . Just that now she is the eldest one and in control , so she need not lie. She can use a religious reasons to achieve her means ( here again she is manipulative - using religion )

But will Sona follow this path - never !! She cant , she will use her skill to come out. I personally feel ,Sona either will give the right answer to Dhadhi Bua tomorrow because while Ishwari was cooking she kept watching every move of hers...she is smart , even at that time she was trying to learn and understand.

OR tell the truth to her and come out clean.

That is how most educated women who are brought up in a very balance family are , they will accept their ignorance . Then learn and achieve what they want to , not to satisfy the world but for themselves.

❤️THIS IS THE REASON FOR DEV TO FALL IN LOVE WITH SONA - AN EDUCATED ,INDEPENDENT ,STRAIGHT FORWARD LADY❤️. Very different from the women he has seen . You know it with the answer that he gives to Kaki during that Muhdhikayi function!! And before their double date while eating those Kachories ...😳

Originally posted by: AnnzSageflower7

Isn't it funny how Dev's Izzat is repeatedly mentioned conveniently to advocate everything that is dubious?

Tia, I don't think Ishwari can make Dadi Bua do or understand anything. You can't teach an old proud person to behave with humility. Especially if you are a daughter in law ! 😲 NEVER !! The ego of a mother in law is quite an impressive monument.

Dadi Bua wants to teach Sona to toe the line, with her long menu and expectations. She wants to say "Look, all your studies and great earnings mean nothing here, if you can't even cook a decent meal for your family. Your husband is earning for the family, what can you do here?"

Ishwari and GKB are not as educated as Sonakshi. They are not her co-workers, to value how good she is at her job and profession. If she wants to be part of the women of the house, she has to fit in.

Don't get me wrong. Instead of doing it for her, Ishwari could have stood by her and instructed her to do it step by step, if she really wanted her to win them over. That's what a good saas would have done in the face of Dadi Bua. But she cannot risk Sonakshi being better than her can she? That too in her domain? Sigh.

WHy are women often their own worst enemies?

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Agree. 😳 And like you said, this whole thing would just be like Halwa incident where Ishwari was SO innocent, and Sona was insulted 😳 Again Dev would go gaga over Ishwari for helping Sona 😆

The only problem is, if Ishwari were like any other regular MIL, not an issue. But she has this uncontrollable habit of lying and deceit which is going to create problem for Sona. For good or for bad, a lie is always a lie and she does it all the time. People must 'try' to avoid lying as much as possible . I just hope that like yesterday, Sona again defends herself saying it's not a big deal that she can't cook Rasam hoga 80 yrs pehle that newly wedded bride should spend her entire first day in kitchen, who cares now people hardly get leaves on their own wedding (working women). What is this shame of admitting that one doesn't know something ? It's not like a criminal offense ! 😕 People do stupid things to avoid small problems only to invite a much bigger problem from the same issue. Sona is gonna get trapped for her lies. She should stick to her own instinct and habits and should ignore Ishwari's suggestions like these. I myself learnt it hard way in my life and now I dont care to admit in front of whoever that I still can't cook what can I do 😆 But hiding stuffs like this creates a spider-web in which one day the creator itself gets stuck😕

This DB is really annoying. She is thinking about Sona's Bahu Who told her that Sona would have a boy ? Nonsense ! 🥱 I never knew Ishwari had such close relatives all of a sudden who didn't bother to attend Neha's wedding to suffocate her with rituals ? 😕

Originally posted by: srikalaganesh

V good analysis... she is v possessive abt her son ...she is doing everything for her ...I feel she requires some counseling... I will agree Dev is her son and she is the reason for him to come to this stage..., but she should understand that she can't take wife or life partners place in her sons life ...

But one thing I can tell that she can get in to any level or face any hurdles for her sons happiness...