In defense of Ishwari - Page 5

Originally posted by: mena_k

Good post!

Yes, I too don't expect Ishwari to immediately love Sona (though she had this lovey dovey feeling before for Sona when she worked as nutritionist). She did lie to Sona when she went to ask her to marry Dev. Remember, she clearly said I am not doing this only for Dev's happiness (when Sona questioned Dev your mother is doing this for your happiness and I don't exists in the equation) as you are thinking but I want you to marry because that will make me happy. so yes she did lie to get Dev's fav toy for him. She was in a hook or crook more then like always. She gets what she wants, the path to get can be ethical or unethical, she doesn't care, because she thinks herself as "GOD" and she can never be wrong.

Its but natural Sona wants to do things for her husband. She is not taking over the kitchen (more so because she does not know how to cook 😉 ), but doing small small things for your husband does make and is desired by every girl after marriage. Its not only the bedroom happiness one cares for.

Ishwari is just being stubborn. Instead of giving a little bit of space, she is fighting with Sona for Dev's attention. No she does not care for Dev or she would know Sona's presence makes Dev happy. She only does things so that Dev gives her attention. Like cooking halwa in the past, when she thought Dev might be getting away from her. And about the marriage thingy, I believe Bose family need not to have adjusted to any tradition once it was decided and agreed upon for a bengali wedding. Its the Dixit who needed to adjust. Bose family didn't ask for any compromise in Dixit's tradition at functions (though Sona disliked some) held in dixit house so why would Dixit's ask for the same.

Originally posted by: Gita_N

Awesome post !! 👏👏 I feel very glad to see such a beautiful message. Seriously, even I was wondering why Sona had to raise her voice against her husband that his mother didn't accept her whole-heartedly. That too on Day1 😳 Has her father accepted Dev as his SIL with all love and affection for him? He too accepted just for the sake of his daughter's happiness which is well appreciated. If he needs more time to understand Dev, then why can't Ishwari be allowed to take her time? I just don't understand why she had to shout on top of her voice at Dev for this. Expected a mature discussion here, given the earlier portrayal of the character. I felt the essence of Sona character is lost here😳.

Another post. There are many posts stating that Ishwari lacks maturity and rational thinking mainly because of illiteracy. Seriously? While I completely agree that education should play a vital role in behavioural refinement, it is not the one and only criterion. Honestly, I did not see any kind of a balanced approach from Mr. Bose - leave alone with outsiders but even within his family. While Ishwari compromised to a greater extent on her dreams, Bijoy didn't compromise a bit in getting his daughter married the way he dreamt.

Originally posted by: Sruji1

Very well written 👏 👏. It's not some rajashri production movie that where both families are so understanding each other 😆 Devakshi marriage is love marriage where both families come from different cultures. They didn't accepted each other. I think they tolerated each other because of their children happiness. I think ishwari accepted sona as her son's wife not her bahu. And the non veg fiasco I don't think if dev didn't agreed for non veg bijoy will let it go. He is ready to fight for that when Asha said that dev included non veg then he was happy Maybe if sona know that ishwari didn't agreed she would have talk to her father. But as ishwari said either family would have compromised. So she compromised for her son happiness because her son happiness lies on sona. I think if dadi bua was not there ishwari would have eated. And I think it's only ishwari and bua who didn't eated the other Dixit family members eated. I think maybe it doesn't matter for bose family because only ishwari eating or not eating is matter. But still I don't think bose family should feel insulted it happens in every marriage. And in this marriage it's Dixit family who compromised. I really felt bad for dev sisters. Dev Is only brother for them. There is some rituals in marriage which only groom sisters can do. But they let it go because of dev happiness. And the fish fiasco I know bose family have no fault but it's their responsibility to check what things going to their daughter sasural. They can't leave everything to organizers they should have checked that all things are going or not. The fish drama caused because of their care less Ness. And Lack of communication between both families did blunders in marriage. I think there is no time to discuss . One week for marriage is less time

Originally posted by: Gita_N

Awesome post !! 👏👏 I feel very glad to see such a beautiful message. Seriously, even I was wondering why Sona had to raise her voice against her husband that his mother didn't accept her whole-heartedly. That too on Day1 😳 Has her father accepted Dev as his SIL with all love and affection for him? He too accepted just for the sake of his daughter's happiness which is well appreciated. If he needs more time to understand Dev, then why can't Ishwari be allowed to take her time? I just don't understand why she had to shout on top of her voice at Dev for this. Expected a mature discussion here, given the earlier portrayal of the character. I felt the essence of Sona character is lost here😳.

Another post. There are many posts stating that Ishwari lacks maturity and rational thinking mainly because of illiteracy. Seriously? While I completely agree that education should play a vital role in behavioural refinement, it is not the one and only criterion. Honestly, I did not see any kind of a balanced approach from Mr. Bose - leave alone with outsiders but even within his family. While Ishwari compromised to a greater extent on her dreams, Bijoy didn't compromise a bit in getting his daughter married the way he dreamt.

Originally posted by: sajinifaby

Perfect spot on reply...👏👏👏

Pretty much similar to my take on the subject..

Originally posted by: Gita_N

Awesome post !!👏👏 I feel very glad to see such a beautiful message. Seriously, even I was wondering why Sona had to raise her voice against her husband that his mother didn't accept her whole-heartedly. That too on Day1😳 Has her father accepted Dev as his SIL with all love and affection for him? He too accepted just for the sake of his daughter's happiness which is well appreciated. If he needs more time to understand Dev, then why can't Ishwari be allowed to take her time? I just don't understand why she had to shout on top of her voice at Dev for this. Expected a mature discussion here, given the earlier portrayal of the character. I felt the essence of Sona character is lost here😳.

Another post. There are many posts stating that Ishwari lacks maturity and rational thinking mainly because of illiteracy. Seriously? While I completely agree that education should play a vital role in behavioural refinement, it is not the one and only criterion. Honestly, I did not see any kind of a balanced approach from Mr. Bose - leave alone with outsiders but even within his family. While Ishwari compromised to a greater extent on her dreams, Bijoy didn't compromise a bit in getting his daughter married the way he dreamt.

Originally posted by: yyy

Yes it was unfair to just have Bengali wedding as Dev is the only son and every mother has some dreams for their children marriage .They should have agreed to follow both the culture .All this happened because Ishwari was desperate to get her son married and Bijoy was not ready to let go off his ego .

Again Bose family were insensitive..they could have at least served non veg in a different room. Sonakshi knew Ishwari's food habits and yet she did not say a word when non veg was added to the wedding menu and we had Dev who only wanted to please his in laws .

Wish Sonakshi had realized the root cause of the issue is lack of communication between two families and her family is equally responsible for this .

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Originally posted by: yyy

There have been many post against Ishwari and while watching the episodes again a thought crossed my mind ..why do we expect a MIL to fall in love with her DIL just because her son loves her ..in real life do two families fall in love with each other for the sake of their children..they merely accept each other .It takes time for a strong bond to create/Why this unrealistic expectation that a MIL has to accept DIL as her daughter from day one and DIL has to be a daughter to their in laws .

Ishwari has done the same , she saw how her son was broken when he almost lost Sonakshi and how much the girl meant to him .Any mother would not like to lose her son hence she went ahead and begged Bose family to accept the proposal just for her son's sake .Her intentions was very clear from the beginning and she never misled Bose family .All the while she said how much Sona and Dev loved each other and wanted them to marry .Forcing Ishwari to accept Sonakshi would lead to more problems .

Post engagement fiasco i dont think Ishwari has mistreated Sonakshi or her family .She did compromise on lot of things for her son.Even in the wedding she did not give a chance to complain .Can we blame Dixit alone for the misunderstanding at the wedding ?Was Bose family fair when they wanted the wedding their way and were not ready to compromise .If both families had talked about rituals, food the wedding would have been a smooth one .The ego that our culture is superior is the root cause of all the issue .

Coming to Sonakshi the girl needs to have some patience and yelling at your husband will only push him away from you .There will be people like RR and Bua in every family and they are temporary . You need to smartly tackle them .Seeing the recent promo i only want to say Dear why do you want to be his mom first be his wife .The juice/tea fiasco made her look like a typical insecure Bahu not today's career oriented girl .Both Ishwari and Sona should stop competing against each other .On your wedding night you have your husband next to you who did things to please you and your family .Instead of appreciating and basking in his love you are more worried about your MIL .