In defense of Ishwari - Page 3

Originally posted by: yyy

There have been many post against Ishwari and while watching the episodes again a thought crossed my mind ..why do we expect a MIL to fall in love with her DIL just because her son loves her ..in real life do two families fall in love with each other for the sake of their children..they merely accept each other .It takes time for a strong bond to create/Why this unrealistic expectation that a MIL has to accept DIL as her daughter from day one and DIL has to be a daughter to their in laws .

Ishwari has done the same , she saw how her son was broken when he almost lost Sonakshi and how much the girl meant to him .Any mother would not like to lose her son hence she went ahead and begged Bose family to accept the proposal just for her son's sake .Her intentions was very clear from the beginning and she never misled Bose family .All the while she said how much Sona and Dev loved each other and wanted them to marry .Forcing Ishwari to accept Sonakshi would lead to more problems .

Post engagement fiasco i dont think Ishwari has mistreated Sonakshi or her family .She did compromise on lot of things for her son.Even in the wedding she did not give a chance to complain .Can we blame Dixit alone for the misunderstanding at the wedding ?Was Bose family fair when they wanted the wedding their way and were not ready to compromise .If both families had talked about rituals, food the wedding would have been a smooth one .The ego that our culture is superior is the root cause of all the issue .

Coming to Sonakshi the girl needs to have some patience and yelling at your husband will only push him away from you .There will be people like RR and Bua in every family and they are temporary . You need to smartly tackle them .Seeing the recent promo i only want to say Dear why do you want to be his mom first be his wife .The juice/tea fiasco made her look like a typical insecure Bahu not today's career oriented girl .Both Ishwari and Sona should stop competing against each other .On your wedding night you have your husband next to you who did things to please you and your family .Instead of appreciating and basking in his love you are more worried about your MIL .

Originally posted by: kar08

No one expects the MIL to fall in love with her DIL. No one is even asking her to accept the DIL. But one has to draw the line at outright taunts and insults.

I have strong feelings on this word 'accept'. I am in a minority that believes a marriage is between a husband and wife. Period. The sooner DILs stop craving acceptance from their MILs/in laws, the less this lack of 'acceptance' can be used as a weapon by the MIL/in laws to make the DIL feel bad. We as women should stop craving acceptance. It is highly overrated. There is a way to be civil to each other and respectful of each other's space, even in a joint family. Whether this can ever realistically happen is highly doubtful, though. The culture of keeping the DIL 'in her place' and ensuring that she is reminded in many ways, that she should consider herself lucky to be in that family, is too deeply ingrained and is being perpetuated, through the years, by women themselves.

"Post engagement fiasco i dont think Ishwari has mistreated Sonakshi or her family" - Expecting Sonakshi to sign a pre nup document that states that if there is ever a divorce, she will have no claim on any of Dev's property and will have to to bring up her kids (Ishwari's grandkids that she's dying for) on her own with no support from Dev. This is not bad treatment?

Originally posted by: yyy

There have been many post against Ishwari and while watching the episodes again a thought crossed my mind ..why do we expect a MIL to fall in love with her DIL just because her son loves her ..in real life do two families fall in love with each other for the sake of their children..they merely accept each other .It takes time for a strong bond to create/Why this unrealistic expectation that a MIL has to accept DIL as her daughter from day one and DIL has to be a daughter to their in laws .

Agree,It takes alot of time to create a bond between MIL/DIL and its a two way process,both have to make efforts to accept each other and let me tell you I have seen with my few friends, in spite of 6-7 years of marriage their relation with MIL's is not at all good.Food is one issue where mother's become so irritating,my son like this ,cook like this otherwise he will not like it and bla bla... same which is being shown in the new promo.I still remember one line said by my MIL" Blood relations mai sab rishte nibha lete hai but doosre ghar mai aaker sabko apnna,unhe tumhe apna banana,rishta nibhana bahut mushkil hota hai" .Its very difficult to adjust in another family when you have been born and brought up in a different way all together!! And here,we are talking about Ishwari who initially did not want her son to get married because of her insecurities but when he saw her son in such a miserable condition ,she agreed for his son's happiness.So,Its really unrealistic expectation from Ishwai that she will accept Sona from day one when she never liked her own daughters to come in between her and Dev.

Ishwari has done the same , she saw how her son was broken when he almost lost Sonakshi and how much the girl meant to him .Any mother would not like to lose her son hence she went ahead and begged Bose family to accept the proposal just for her son's sake .Her intentions was very clear from the beginning and she never misled Bose family .All the while she said how much Sona and Dev loved each other and wanted them to marry .Forcing Ishwari to accept Sonakshi would lead to more problems .

Post engagement fiasco i dont think Ishwari has mistreated Sonakshi or her family .She did compromise on lot of things for her son.Even in the wedding she did not give a chance to complain .Can we blame Dixit alone for the misunderstanding at the wedding ?Was Bose family fair when they wanted the wedding their way and were not ready to compromise .If both families had talked about rituals, food the wedding would have been a smooth one .The ego that our culture is superior is the root cause of all the issue .

The biggest problem,there was no communication between both the families like how rituals will happen,what to wear during rituals,food menu etc.Normally both the families sit together and discuss about all this but to show a drama it was not shown.If we talk about food,Dev said that Bose family can keep non veg and they agreed,they did not even discuss with Ishwari about same in spite of knowing Dixit's are Brahmins. During wedding,both sides were making fun of each other's traditions,this was really sad ,mine was same cast marriage so I do not have much idea that it really happens in the inter cast marriage or not.

Coming to Sonakshi the girl needs to have some patience and yelling at your husband will only push him away from you .There will be people like RR and Bua in every- family and they are temporary . You need to smartly tackle them .Seeing the recent promo i only want to say Dear why do you want to be his mom first be his wife .The juice/tea fiasco made her look like a typical insecure Bahu not today's career oriented girl .Both Ishwari and Sona should stop competing against each other .On your wedding night you have your husband next to you who did things to please you and your family .Instead of appreciating and basking in his love you are more worried about your MIL .

I was really surprised the way Sona shouted on Dev on their wedding night. Ok,she was hurt,humiliated by Dadi bua & GKB but does it mean you start yelling like this.It was such a special moment for both of them,in spite of making it memorable they fought, discussed about each other families insult. Sona knows about Dev's family very well and she was the one who used to advice Dev even he said that you are the solution of all my problems but where is that Sona? Poor Dev,he was trying to make every one happy but in the end what he got!Now they are married and problems will be there and every time they can not fight like this rather talk and try to understand each other's POV.If they keep on fighting like this God knows what will be their future!! 😕

Originally posted by: sajinifaby

Originally posted by: sajinifaby