Definition of Gender - Page 3

Originally posted by: gemini54

@libran13

It also shows that he is never going to confront Ishwari. If any step has to be taken, it has to be from Ishwari herself which at the moment seems to be an impossible situation.

The above line is what I am saying that shows Dev at this point is not redeemable

Originally posted by: AnnaPaquinFan

Okay so if it's Ishwari who takes the step to reunite them , then that redeems Ishwari only, why'd that redeem Dev , unless n untill he goes into active by himself ??

Dev's problem is he's fond of quick fix. And quick ways are often Devil's ways. Rarely they solve any situation correctly n permanently.

Instead of going on long hard battle for his love and finding balance between mother n his lover , he took a destructive step which resulted in so much collateral damage to completely innocent n pure hearted people like sona.

Originally posted by: libran13

Agreed that Ishwari's taking a step would only redeem herself and not Dev. What i meant to suggest was Ishwari taking the first step towards Dev and Sona would initiate their patch up. Of course just because Ishwari accepting their relationship is not going to bring Sona back. Dev must do his bit of apologizing, wooing and assuring her that he would never leave her again because Sona was hurt pretty badly. If Sona would ever considered getting back with Dev, i think she would only think of it after she was sincerely assured by Ishwari that she truly accepted them.

And regarding Dev's fondness of a quick fix in every matter. This is not the first time he has done that. He has done it many times before and he and Sona has even had arguments regarding the same. But in the end she has also told him that she accepts him even with all these flaws. Though i am sure when she said that she would have never even thought that he would do the same to break-up.

Originally posted by: AnnaPaquinFan

@Bold, I'm pretty sure she was completely unaware of this set of flaws in Dev that unfolded it's ugly face during their brek up, never ever even in nightmare she'd have imagined or envisioned Dev being so ruthless , heartless , inconsiderate n weak as he was on that doom's day at the hospital , so blind to her pain, heart break, self-respect n humiliation of hers n her family.

She herself affirms that when she was saying her last words to Dev, that this is not in fact the man she loved.

So, I don't think she'd made any promise like she'd accept him with his flaws , had she been aware of this new Dev Dixit. She was a blind naive fool when she made that tall claim, n it came back to her as a cruel laugh from destiny.

Because in no way she'd have considered embarking on a life long journey with this Dev , so so weak . NO self-respecting woman should.

Originally posted by: SoreThumb

Quick question..you used to post in IPK and madhubala forum right? Yes, that's right.

Originally posted by: AnnaPaquinFan

What a fantastic post with true hard hitting words. 👏 Completely agree with you.

Well nowadays when our girls are brining Olympic medals for our country leaving behind boys and shining the face of India with glory, it's so very unfortunate that many still couldn't shake the thinking that a woman's life is dedicated to man's happiness , in case of gf her bf's n for a married woman , it's to be dedicated to her spouse n his family's happiness. Why can't we still think out of the stereotypical POV , where we have different sized yard sticks to measure a man n a woman's action.

Behold the male lead shading two precious drops of tears n suddenly all the unforgivable things he did are alright !!

I've been already been pretty vocal about the unfairness of viewing n judging man n woman through different lenses in several forum posts and especially in this post of mine, if it's possible to find time , do please have a look, here's the link- https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/kuch-rang-pyar-ke-aise-bhi/4699478/before-they-patch-up

Especially this comment of mine is pretty relevant to ur post methinks, so copy pasting it from my post-

That too in a country that's still full of BS ideas n ideals about how a girl should behave. It's a woman who must change , it's she who must pine, it's she who must adapt after marriage , who must sacrifice her ambitions, dreams n small small wishes whole life so that family n marital life runs smooth , it's she who must wait, it's she who must have all the "faith", "loyalty" , " patience" .

It's a battle for the girl as soon as she's conceived in her mother's womb, battle to live a life as she wishes with head held high .

Once again, congratulations n thanks for your post, for it gives a much needed platform for many to raise their voice in concern . Inspired bit of writing. 👏

REally loved reading all the replies too. I must say I'm truly proud of being part of this forum where there are so amny sensible wise talented mature people around here. It's a boon.

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

I will quote a real incident here - one of my colleagues in office was complaining about his wife and how she tells their problems to her mother. I just asked him do you tell your problems to your parents. He confidently said of course they are my family. Then I said are your wife's parents not her family. Instead came the answer once she is married to me, my family becomes her family and all her loyalty should be towards my family only. This was said by a highly educated professional. That's Indian mentality for you.

Sonakshi should care only about Devs family as she fell in love with him.

To hell with what her family goes through. If she shows some consideration towards her own family she becomes a heartless bitch who never loved the poor hero enough. Sona agreeing to move on for the sake of her family's happiness makes her selfish and grasping.

A guy thinking about his family is NORMAL.

a girl thinking about her family is BAD AND ASANSKARI.