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Mods, kindly take a pause before indiscriminately trashing posts as usual...the random opening/closing of a thread has left us all with whiplash and it is unfair to ppl who are actually taking the time to post a valid reply.
So here goes my reply which I took the time to type out so it deserves to be posted:
LOLL@ the passive aggressive trolling being done here...haha how cuteš
@Bidya: I applaud you for putting your point across in such a direct and CLEAR manner...while being completely respectful. If only more ppl could follow suit.
I myself would not have that kind of patience...š
So in the continued list of ironies per some new "brave" replies hereš
1) Niti's note is being "over dissected" and ppl are accused of not getting the "context" of her note. Yet other ppl don't even want to read through the replies this thread to get the context of the discussions here...š
2) We are expected to sit and monitor Niti's social media activity all day to know the "context" of when she posts what but she isn't expected to take some responsibility for her choice of words...nice.
3) When the ppl in this thread were criticizing Parth for a DAMN LONG TIME and STILL continue to for every stupid behavior he exhibits, then these same ppl don't stand up for his "context"...strangeš...why not just acknowledge the OBVIOUS bias rather than pretending to stand up for some form of "general integrity" here?š...So easy to toss around the label of "sadist" conveniently only when the criticism is directed at your favšš
4) Compassion isn't measured only on the basis of who shows sympathy to the person you have blind loyalty too...compassion doesn't mean one shouldn't stand up for the integrity of something...
Poor choice of words is no excuse...least of all when ppl dig in their heels and start to justify everything said by someone instead of taking a second to review context...a context they accuse other ppl of not getting btw...ironic.
Niti went on and on specifically only stating things like "My sacrifices, my discomfort, my family, my mahaanta for doing things for fans"...and then ppl aren't expected to react to that? What is this strange mentality where a person is encouraged to only sit and stew in their own problems instead of taking a breath and thinking they aren't the only one in the world facing challenges?
5) Also finally, I wish ppl would understand one basic point...criticizing Niti doesn't mean ppl HATE her...if you can't even equip someone to deal with criticism, they are not equipped to deal with life, PERIOD.
Instead of constantly ENCOURAGING her to keep feeling sorry for herself, feeling victimized, praising her for "her sacrifices", ppl should be encouraging her to be a STRONG role model who stands up for herself and her choices...instead of always finding ppl to blame...fans are the last ppl to be making scapegoats in this...yes even in a crazy obsessive fandom where many ppl do stupid things...standing up for yourself at the cost of guilt tripping fans is not the way to go.
THAT is the crucial point that Niti and the ppl encouraging her are missing here.
I will never wish ill for Niti...or anyone...I would only wish that she grows up and looks for positive reinforcement in her life rather than constantly succumbing to this mentality that she is the only victimized person in this world...only she can do that for herself if she is able to look beyond the ppl who skew her perspective on a daily basis by encouraging her to feel victimized.
