My dear Sonya,
This is really the stuff of a PM, but as you have responded here, I will do the same.
Firstly, at my age, there is no question of my being antagonistic towards anyone, least of all someone of your age. I look upon all of you young people as kids, witness my warm teasing relationships with a steadily increasing number of young friends this forum: those riotous chipmunks like Alakh and Tripti, then Lashy, and Riyya and Disha and Megha and Pallavi and so on and on and on. They are all lovely children and they indulge me and are openly affectionate towards me, and I value that and reciprocate it.
The friendly and mutually respectful relationship I have with those who are younger than I but more mature, like Ela, too has never deviated from that norm, no matter what our differences of perspective about a character or a track in the serial.
You should, in the normal course, have also fitted into the same slot as my young friends. I cannot now remember what all I wrote to you and when, in response to your comments, but I do vaguely remember trying to cheer you up and advising you not to get too worried when a character did not shape up as per your expectations, but to go with the flow, criticise them when you were angry with them, and then let it pass. Not to let them get too much under your skin. In fact I remember spending more time and effort - and I never have enough of the former - replying to you in those days (which could not have been very far off seeing that my first post in this forum was only on June 30 this year) than with almost anyone else.
Now to my comment about Paridhi. It was in the same vein as my comments about Rajat in that
lep scene, which I would have reiterated had I done a post on yesterday's
uthak baithak bare-bodied display (Alakh,Tripti are you listening?😉). The ones about Rajat did not bother you, even though I repeated them on more than one of my threads. So why do the 4 words about Paridhi bother you so much?
As for my jibe inviting you to report me to the mods, that was not well done of me at my age and level of maturity. I should have known better than to let a child like you irritate me so much. I am sorry about that, more because I slipped from the standards I set for myself than anything else. My only excuse is that I was in a very bad mood after the disaster of the Jodha in the previous episode, after I had hoped for so much from her. Alakh and Tripti got me out of it, bless their hearts, but when I read your post, carping about those 4 words out of umpteen posts, I was exasperated beyond a limit. I should not have let you rile me so much. But if you can find it in you to look at it from my point of view, maybe you will see why I reacted that way.
As for your commenting on my posts, I leave that to you. It is more than likely that we will continue to disagree, for that seems to be hardwired into both of us, but it is wise to keep such differences at a light and jocular level, and if that cannot be done, to leave them out altogether and not comment at all. I often mark many posts, with the content of which I disagree, but where I find the style attractive, with a Like, and do not comment on them.
My old advice to you about the characters still stands. I too am occasionally furious, even livid, as I was with Jodha the day before, but I get over it. One cannot get ulcers over such virtual beings. I write what I feel, regardless of the majority opinion here. For example, I found the Jalal-Jodha comedy scene in the bedroom in poor taste, with all those Govinda style double entendres, and not at all befitting a proto-Akbar. It was so much at odds with some of the lovely ones earlier, as at Ajmer Sharif and in the Kali Mandir that I could not believe it was happening. But there it was.
As for your graceful apology, it is accepted, but the more important thing is to identify why it was necessary in the first place. One thing is for sure. Whether you reappear on my threads or not, there will be no hard feelings at all on my side, but quite the opposite. Why else would I have never stopped PMing you about them, despite your having vanished for months?
Take care, dear Sonya, and God bless.
Shyamala Aunty
Originally posted by: SonyaBlade
Auntyji,
I suppose its all in the delivery with how it comes across. In those previous posts the way you mentioned it came across as fun loving and carefree...even the comments about Bharmal , Mainavati..etc...and looking the way they do ever disparaged their physical appearance, it was just your opinion on how they come across in the role they play...
BUT I found it to be entirely different in your delivery with the way you commented about Paridhi's looks...you have to admit the post was definitely not fun loving and sweet like many of your posts...in fact even in the ones where you are venting you haven't commented on an actors looks quite the same way from what I can remember off the top of my head. The acting is obviously open to commenting on,
WHICH is why I wanted to point out to you how it came across to me when I read this particular post. There never was any intention on my part to report it, so no I"m not taking the bait so to speak to take that course of action.
Furthermore, I seem to always get this underlying feeling of antagonism from you which is why I had not commented on any of the previous many posts...for instance just from the delivery in your comments you have basically stated that you do not believe I have read all of your posts and you have also put words in my response by stating that I claimed to not like them (which I bolded in below) . Not agreeing with your comments is very different to not liking them.
I'm not sure where this negativity towards my posts comes from, however; what I can say is that it is definitely coming from your end, while I made very attempt to be respectful when crafting my post in this thread.
I"m not sure if I have gotten this line right but I"ll attempt it anyways ...
"Je humse koi bol hogay hai, phir hum maufi chathe hai...nadani samaj ke...mauf kar do? "
I wouldn't mind getting back into the mood in responding to your threads...but as of right now I"m not sure if that would be a wise course of action on my part...
I'll wait for your response, if you choose to provide one.
Thanks,
Sonya
Edited by sashashyam - 11 years ago
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