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Isha the show Law and Order as few lawyers writing for it..so it is pretty accurate and reliable.😊

True regarding Akansha information on US rape laws..it is from department of Justice. I remember pasting the same information while chatting with Tashi few weeks ago.

The laws keep getting updated and it is eye opener that how many loop holes still exist even today

Originally posted by: Mrieshka

Honestly I don’t want to go in detail reply as I respect your opinion about Khushi. I have obviously different take on khushi.

she did not agree to marry Shyam due to her anger. She only agreed to meet him first of all, and she refused after meeting him . She was doing that because of her parents and situation in her town and social issues. She had no hopes left from Arnav, because according to her, he has already moved on with someone else.

I am surprised that you can let go off multiple mistakes of Arnav and poor communication even though his intentions was right, but on the other hand, you are so harsh on khushi and expect a lot from her.

Anyway, it just hurts me more being a woman coming from woman like that but again, I don’t want to have a long discussion about this. Please don’t get offended as its nothing personal and at the end of the day we all have our own perspective. My sentiments are purely based on behavior of character in the story.

I totally agree with you 200%. Even the writer has been clear right from the beginning that Arnav's character is the one which is flawed with maximum to all mistakes done by him.

But few Arnav lovers (conveniently forget only the name Arnav is common here, story and character is completely different here) want to ignore this blatantly and blame Khushi for the things she never did. One neutral glance at the story, we will see through his façade and self pitying pig, wallowing behavior gaining attention for himself. And the writer's choice of story from his perspective gives him ample opportunity to self pity, victimhood and earn sympathy irrespective of what he has done. I have nothing against writer's approach, her writing skills are phenomenal but we need to read through to understand the difference.

The onus was always on him to communicate or response to her communication and Arnav here chose to run away from his simple responsibilities towards his wife, forget the love... His father was right, he's coward who runs away from the situation!

This characterless moron has all the time in the world to plan divorce in his mind, ignore her based on his decision in his mind and his declaration to himself that he does not love her anymore, his intention were clearly to ignore her, not talk to her or behave as if she doesn't exist purposely, choice based on his own conclusions again in his own mind that he is done with this marriage or he was guilty so he can not face her with or without La situation, he informed about the divorce to others before his wife whatever maybe the situation and reasons, chose to let loose in RAVE & drink heavily, sleep with other woman but do not inform such critical incident to his wife and ironically his final decision was to hide it after she had agreed to divorce, continued cheating emotionally and physically behind her back by meeting the other woman and sympathizing / caring for other woman while mistreating the wife and leaving her alone to cry. He knew that Khushi realized he was avoiding her purposely, was crying and still he went on doing it... He wanted her to recognize his intention of divorce when he didn't wish her on anniversary, just wow and don't tell me his intentions were any different! He has done series of blunders that are considered as heinous crime in mental health world and the damage is visible in Khushi!

And then he was waiting for the right opportunity to talk to Khushi the whole year as to why he is doing what he is doing, she had no clue he was thinking of divorce even before La. She must thank Devi Mayya and carry out some major pooja that he did not wait until she dies and then talk to her photo...

Still few have sympathy for this ba$tard (sorry for insulting this bad word), giving him all the escape routes while looking for smallest mistake Khushi did to bash her!

Khushi as per this story and author's description is an epitome of beauty, unconditional love, respect for every relation, attention to details (Khushi never dug old graves after Arnav shared Anamika incident but Arnav repeated blatantly what Anamika did to him, Anamika ghosted him by going away, Arnav ghosted Khushi while staying with her which is way worse), a girl every parent and especially in-laws want, a wife every husband wants for her love, a tremendous home maker who lives happily without complaining, takes care of his parents, giving, caring, kind and understanding nature, making their lives relaxing and simple.

So what if she too has few drawbacks, she is simple and naïve village girl with basic requirements, feels insecure but anyone can be if one partner gets so successful and feels out of reach, it was his responsibility to make her feel comfortable in his world while continue participating in her world but he dropped the ball, she wants a baby like any normal girl; poor girl even let that go for this jerk...

And what she gets in return, still this a$$ hole does not want a kid with whatever excuse I am not even interested anymore after his acknowledgement of misdeeds in latest chapter, he was ok to hide about La, not even acknowledge forget the sincere apology, he was ok for her to marry someone else if it wasn't Shyam, then he simply walks into her life again just like he walked out without her consent, expects her to forgive immediately now because at last he came clean and expressed himself, she has to buy his blatant lies that she matters to him the most or his so called care, and shamelessly he asks her what she wants to do as soon as she is back. He is a pathetic excuse for a human, the most selfish, egoistic, insensitive, abusive narcissist I have ever come across even in FanFic!

I was right all along, people like Arnav are more harmful than Shyams out there, at least Shyams out their are honest to their character and can be visible to naked eyes. How do simple yet beautiful inside out girls like Khushi out there can recognize nasty Arnavs out there who can damage them beyond repair so politely and in sophisticated manner that they are left to blame themselves, have no clue about their own lives and taken for a ride royally!

This makes my colleague look like a god, because last he did was acknowledge all his mistakes in front of both sides of families, gave her the house completely even though they had bought it together, he paid biggest chunk and stayed low for 5 years until it was confirmed she was out of depression and moved on to marry someone else (I did reconfirm with my another common friend after I saw him dating in Dubai).

- Swati

Originally posted by: bakwas_serial

Isha the show Law and Order as few lawyers writing for it..so it is pretty accurate and reliable.😊

True regarding Akansha information on US rape laws..it is from department of Justice. I remember pasting the same information while chatting with Tashi few weeks ago.

The laws keep getting updated and it is eye opener that how many loop holes still exist even today

anyway I’ve already added a rather emotional rant about what I think of has happened with Arnav. I don’t think my POV on Panchgani is ever going to change. :)

Originally posted by: Learrntowrite

Hi Swati,

I’m listening to what you’re saying. Let me articulate better. Because I also think we are digressing with each comment.


Me citing the law, has nothing to do with what Arnav did AFTER the rave party. I’m simply citing that ‘made to penetrate’ and ‘consent acquired under influence’ are accepted as sexual violence against males. I’ve also repeatedly touched the point about external simulation that can lead to an aroused behaviour.

I will again repeat the my comment. He was walking on his own two feet. It wasn’t like he was falling down the stairs. He had enough strength to carry his body weight. And he was still disoriented enough to not pull himself back from literary falling to his death. To assume this is a man who would be able to make a sensible decision after being repeatedly kissed/simulated/violated is our ignorance of the whole topic.


I would also like to reiterate that even in that situation, he had repeatedly said no. And the woman next to him has paid no attention to it.

Now coming to Arnav’s memories.


The very first point I would like to address is that it gives me closure on why he readily believed that he slept with Lavanya and she might be pregnant. It’s because he has FRAGMENTED memories of the act happening.

Your last point, that these things happen in a rave negates your question as to why he didn’t go all alert from the get go. Why would he knowingly involve a whole team going around telling of his adultery? Why would he be alerted that Lavanya might do something when she was cool as a cucumber like it wasn’t a big deal to her? It’s too common there. It’s a big deal to Arnav. According to him ONS wasn’t a big deal to Lavanya and she said so herself.

plus I think the writer wrote it herself. An actress has more to lose. She was the organiser of the party. She was never going to call the police or get all legal on Arnav when it would open the can of worms on her!!

And, we are entirely forgetting his mental state at the moment. The guy holds himself to such high standards that fleeting seconds of awareness is enough for him to declare himself guilty. How would he be feeling after doing this? From his whole demeanour, he is a guy who has lost his self respect in his own eyes when in reality there wasn’t much he could do.

he is already behaving like a typical victim of sexual abuse. I should have left. I should have said no one more time. It’s extremely sad and heartbreaking to see. I will once again say, had it been a woman behaving in such self loathing, this thing wouldn’t even be up for discussion.

plus, his memories of the night are EXTREMELY HAZY. He says so himself. He needs to rack his brain to even get these two moments. And him realising it’s not Khushi doesn’t mean he was suddenly sober. It’s not like he fully got his bearings back, realized it’s Lavanya and continued. He is still drunk/drugged. These are fleeting moment of awareness that something wrong is going on.

It’s extremely tough for me to put myself in that situation. Imagine having no control on your body and your impulses. Then having a momentary awareness that something extremely wrong is going on and not having enough semblance to do ANYTHING about it. It’s suffocating. I’m sorry but anyone who has ever drank to an extent where you feel like your cognitive functions aren’t proper, it’s an extremely scary situation.

I don’t know what everyone who hated Arnav after this is picturing, but I can only feel his paranoia at the moment. It’s an extremely scary situation not being in control of your body. Thinking about it overwhelms me. That’s why I agree to Tashi. In this situation if penetration happened, this is too painful to even think about.


There may as well have been a woman who was engaging in intercourse under influence. In the middle of it realising that something wrong was going on, panic and may still not be able to protest or stop OR EVEN CONTINUE PARTICIPATING under delusion and disorientation. This has been documented. It’s extremely disgusting to think about. Just that there was a man who has been stimulated to the point of responding, we shed all these notions.

those hazy memories have done the most damage.
a) they had him convinced that he drank so much that he lost control. He is not assuming things. He is drawing from experience. This has happened to him once. He is saying I drank too much too quickly. He wasn’t even considering a possibility of drugs. What would he get tested for in the morning. And in case we’re forgetting, he was absolutely dying of guilt to think about anything else when he was already convinced he was at fault.

B) the same memories lead him to fully accept the whole blame on him. Not once did he try to redeem himself in Akash’s or Khushi’s eyes. To him he should have been better. He is being extremely harsh on himself. Selfish, self cantered people don’t do that!


The only thing I am super pissed at him about is his behaviour with Khushi. He was trying to douse fires all around that he seemed were important and did not take into account what it was doing to his wife. Or how the whole year would feel 10 times worse to Khushi when she learns the whole truth.

but for Panchgani night, I am absolutely heartbroken for him. Tashi’s boxer jokes were needed because this is too messed up to think about. That was a gullible and terrifying situation to be in. And now he will pay the price of one time letting loose at a party which he felt was safe to do so in. Also a party fro where he was leaving by 11!!!!. The only statement of yours that I agree with is that he will blame himself for life and most likely pay for it too. All because there was an obsessed b*tch around who doesn’t understand no means no.

Edit - up until 2nd January, Lavanya was an extreme professional in Arnav’s eyes who was also a goody two shoes darling of the film industry.

Edit 2- the term that I mentioned and the term that Akanksha explained are not random Google searches. It’s from US government website. I’m sorry but I would trust that more over a show that takes creative liberties for dramatisation of things.

I 💯 agree with every single word you said here Isha. You said it way better than I could so thanks for articulating my thoughts so clearly 😊.

All I feel for Arnav at this point is empathy.

Originally posted by: bakwas_serial

Belated Birrhday Greetings Swati😍 I am sure hubby and kids made you extra special.

I am a fan of old Law & Order ..or say a fan of Sam Waterson...when he was assistant DA. 😍

TY so much Shraddha, yes, Santana Row dinner and some trip next month! Boys have been very secretive! Last years they surprised me with Hawaii trip, the island we had not done..

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

And what she gets in return, still this a$$ hole does not want a kid with whatever excuse I am not even interested anymore after his acknowledgement of misdeeds in latest chapter, he was ok to hide about La, not even acknowledge forget the sincere apology, he was ok for her to marry someone else if it wasn't Shyam, then he simply walks into her life again just like he walked out without her consent, expects her to forgive immediately now because at last he came clean and expressed himself, she has to buy his blatant lies that she matters to him the most or his so called care, and shamelessly he asks her what she wants to do as soon as she is back. He is a pathetic excuse for a human, the most selfish, egoistic, insensitive, abusive narcissist I have ever come across even in FanFic!

- Swati

Oh wow! These are some harsh words and I don’t think any of it define the Arnav of this story. Especially the part of him “shamelessly asking what she wants” because he is trying not to assume anymore I guess?? I thought him assuming things was the biggest sin 😅. Especially disregarding why he doesn’t want kids and it could be associated with some trauma is fascinating to me!

Anyway, I don’t think these are the qualities I associate with this Arnav but les just say these are our differences of opinion. Seriously hope these words don’t come back to haunt in case DML reveals something or later chapters talk more in depth about his mental trauma ✌🏻

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

I totally agree with you 200%. Even the writer has been clear right from the beginning that Arnav's character is the one which is flawed with maximum to all mistakes done by him.

But few Arnav lovers (conveniently forget only the name Arnav is common here, story and character is completely different here) want to ignore this blatantly and blame Khushi for the things she never did. One neutral glance at the story, we will see through his façade and self pitying pig, wallowing behavior gaining attention for himself. And the writer's choice of story from his perspective gives him ample opportunity to self pity, victimhood and earn sympathy irrespective of what he has done. I have nothing against writer's approach, her writing skills are phenomenal but we need to read through to understand the difference.

The onus was always on him to communicate or response to her communication and Arnav here chose to run away from his simple responsibilities towards his wife, forget the love... His father was right, he's coward who runs away from the situation!

This characterless moron has all the time in the world to plan divorce in his mind, ignore her based on his decision in his mind and his declaration to himself that he does not love her anymore, his intention were clearly to ignore her, not talk to her or behave as if she doesn't exist purposely, choice based on his own conclusions again in his own mind that he is done with this marriage or he was guilty so he can not face her with or without La situation, he informed about the divorce to others before his wife whatever maybe the situation and reasons, chose to let loose in RAVE & drink heavily, sleep with other woman but do not inform such critical incident to his wife and ironically his final decision was to hide it after she had agreed to divorce, continued cheating emotionally and physically behind her back by meeting the other woman and sympathizing / caring for other woman while mistreating the wife and leaving her alone to cry. He knew that Khushi realized he was avoiding her purposely, was crying and still he went on doing it... He wanted her to recognize his intention of divorce when he didn't wish her on anniversary, just wow and don't tell me his intentions were any different! He has done series of blunders that are considered as heinous crime in mental health world and the damage is visible in Khushi!

And then he was waiting for the right opportunity to talk to Khushi the whole year as to why he is doing what he is doing, she had no clue he was thinking of divorce even before La. She must thank Devi Mayya and carry out some major pooja that he did not wait until she dies and then talk to her photo...

Still few have sympathy for this ba$tard (sorry for insulting this bad word), giving him all the escape routes while looking for smallest mistake Khushi did to bash her!

Khushi as per this story and author's description is an epitome of beauty, unconditional love, respect for every relation, attention to details (Khushi never dug old graves after Arnav shared Anamika incident but Arnav repeated blatantly what Anamika did to him, Anamika ghosted him by going away, Arnav ghosted Khushi while staying with her which is way worse), a girl every parent and especially in-laws want, a wife every husband wants for her love, a tremendous home maker who lives happily without complaining, takes care of his parents, giving, caring, kind and understanding nature, making their lives relaxing and simple.

So what if she too has few drawbacks, she is simple and naïve village girl with basic requirements, feels insecure but anyone can be if one partner gets so successful and feels out of reach, it was his responsibility to make her feel comfortable in his world while continue participating in her world but he dropped the ball, she wants a baby like any normal girl; poor girl even let that go for this jerk...

And what she gets in return, still this a$$ hole does not want a kid with whatever excuse I am not even interested anymore after his acknowledgement of misdeeds in latest chapter, he was ok to hide about La, not even acknowledge forget the sincere apology, he was ok for her to marry someone else if it wasn't Shyam, then he simply walks into her life again just like he walked out without her consent, expects her to forgive immediately now because at last he came clean and expressed himself, she has to buy his blatant lies that she matters to him the most or his so called care, and shamelessly he asks her what she wants to do as soon as she is back. He is a pathetic excuse for a human, the most selfish, egoistic, insensitive, abusive narcissist I have ever come across even in FanFic!

I was right all along, people like Arnav are more harmful than Shyams out there, at least Shyams out their are honest to their character and can be visible to naked eyes. How do simple yet beautiful inside out girls like Khushi out there can recognize nasty Arnavs out there who can damage them beyond repair so politely and in sophisticated manner that they are left to blame themselves, have no clue about their own lives and taken for a ride royally!

This makes my colleague look like a god, because last he did was acknowledge all his mistakes in front of both sides of families, gave her the house completely even though they had bought it together, he paid biggest chunk and stayed low for 5 years until it was confirmed she was out of depression and moved on to marry someone else (I did reconfirm with my another common friend after I saw him dating in Dubai).

- Swati

First of all no one is bashing Khushi or sympathizing with Arnav based on the name. That’s a lot of uncalled for and unfair assumptions on your part. We agree Arnav made mistakes and we also understand Khushis hurt. No one is bashing her. But I have to say you have been bashing Arnav from the get go based on some assumptions and you are talking about a person that has not been described in this story at all.

The Arnav you are ranting about seems to be a character completely made up in your mind. I’m sorry to say that you are wrong in making those assumptions and please know I will never agree to anything you said about Arnav in the above post of yours. I have no idea why you are so harsh on him but whoever you are blaming it’s definitely not the Arnav from Arpitas story. Sorry but I 200% disagree with everything you said here.

That said I have nothing against you or anyone else who is against Arnav but I cannot just keep quiet when he is needlessly being bashed. Bash him for the misjudged decisions or mistakes he made but not for his character which is made up in your head.

I think I need to step out of this discussion before I offend anyone but had to say my piece one last time

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

TY so much Shraddha, yes, Santana Row dinner and some trip next month! Boys have been very secretive! Last years they surprised me with Hawaii trip, the island we had not done..

Yeah..I am sure it will be a good surprise😘

Simply loved my trip to Kauai. More than to Maui. Not seen the rest. It is beautiful..

Originally posted by: Mirchi23

Next part when you update dear