Blast from the Past Thread #16, pg 128, epi 180 - Page 104

Originally posted by: cinthiann1758

First of all I would like to say I love all you ladies but I am going to follow with we must agree to disagree. I guess my attitude is this because I know what it is like to be abused. So here goes:

manhandle

transitive verb \man-han-dl\

1

: to handle roughly

2

: to move or manage by human force <manhandled the posts into place>

I LOVE ASR.

I LOVE ARNAV.

BUT...

this man on the first episode was abusive to our/his lady love. Maybe he didn't mean it, but I believe he did, to hurt her. He showed brute force upon our scared heroine. Obviously to intimidate her, thinking she was sent there to ruin his show. His follow up when they met when she handed him his dropped key, with words of degradation. We all know Khushi was not worthless or a money hungry person, he didn't, but she did deserve respect. He didn't give her that in the beginning episodes. YES, he was attracted to her from the very first moment and that may have confused him but even so he shouldn't have treated her that way... But if he did not, then we wouldn't have had Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Doon? His revelation of his further emotions was exacerbated at the guest house. Her gussa, and her "abuse" of him (via shoving) only forcing his reaction.

So in my humble opinion, our love, was a manhandling, sexy😳, tyrant who we all fell in love with and like they say "love conquers all" and then he became a pussycat after a crazy, zany girl with pom poms healed his broken heart💔.

❤️ you all.

I came after a long time and so I was reading this post and so I think I would like to respect everyone's opinion. Now speaking of physical abuse and manhandling, I think I have an abject objection to it but I think that would be a case by case basis. For example ASR manhandled Khushi I think twice after marriage once when he shut the door on her and the second was after heer ranjha. However based on our feedback they stopped it. If we look we see manhandling as a part of Indian serial and movies and I actually abjectly dislike that. The point is no one listened to viewers input other then for IPKKND they listened to us. In any other movie or tv show they did not even give us a single heed.

So here I come and am watching people trying to judge our manhandling of Arnav and I was thinking if it was justified. Now manhandling is not justified but our Khushi always had a sweet revenge, and that was her jelebi like sweet revenge that made IPKKND so endearing. Let us start Arnav thew her from the top of the stairs thinking of embarrassing her in his office and she did the same to him by gaining more points in office and giving the resignation. He drops her off in the middle of the road and she changed his ring tone,and made him again embarrased in front on his family. Now Arnav hurt Khushi in her heart because ourKhushi was one with all hearts and Khushi hurt Arnav and his image because our Arnav bitwa was all about image. So why should we bother, they just very well complemented each other and the fact was they loved each other even though they lacked the very thing of utmost importance to the other . According to Khushi Arnav had no heart and according to Arnav Khushi lacked brains. However their love was not stopped for that flaw and so that had a beauty on itself.

Originally posted by: sohara

viv and ArshiH, you are making me ecstatic.

Any guy would be aphrodisiac to see that flawless curvy creamy back.So I can't blame Arnav. and apparently he would not like if any other guy looks at her lasciviously. i loved possessive Arnav who opened her hair when NK was lusting her.

ArshiH, you must remember how he smeared haldi on her back during remarriage!😳

EDIT: SORRY THIS IS A REPEAT POST

EDIT: SORRY THIS IS A REPEAT POST...

@Blasters after reading all the Chat... I must say... we all rock...and so happy that at least we bunch openly can discuss certain aspects with respect and knowledge...

res

Originally posted by: salooni

thanks

love this every much😃

Originally posted by: IssPKaur

Hello! Just read this...i love the man but cannot agree. Abuse is abuse. He probably hurled verbal much more than physical...but still. A lot of women i know who go through abuse try and justify it to themselves for the longest time citing the fact that the man at heart is a good one. It's classic victim behavior...till it hits the wall... We value ASR, of course we do, we know who he really is, and love him for that. But sometimes i felt the character was in the wrong...especially pre guest house...and post forced marriage. It doesn't matter that he was doing it ONLY to her. Most men do it only to their wives or girlfriends. They seem perfectly nice to all other women.
I for one do not think Khushi's anger during resignation was extreme. All that talk of "aukaat" for instance, i found unacceptable to say the least. I was mighty pleased actually that she felt the anger and expressed it. So glad they didn't make her apologize to him for it later...

This chat is an essential one. Glad we''re having it! Big hug to you all, by the way. Missing you like crazy!