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I wrote this on July 30 -- obviously they crossed the line a bit on July 31 (kind of threw a wrench in their own recovery -- which was end justifies the means approach) -- hopefully they will bring it back on track -- or I will become a "hated guy"!!! Being a guy that was vociferously in Khushi's camp for the last 3 months, getting yelled at for some hiccups in the middle could be weird -- still fun though!
This is probably the first time when we will have a completely different opinion because of our Gender!!! Let me explain why.
Yes what practically everyone is saying is correct -- There needs to be "some sensitivity" involved in dealing with Khushi. But first let me tell you what I think and then jog your memory on some of the events of the past.
I think all of this stuff is building "friendship" between the two -- they are now playing with each other, taunting, challenging, pulling each other's leg etc etc. This is building that fundamental relationship -- remember, wife and husband relationship is not just about "warm cuddly" moments -- a man will DIE if all he can do with his wife is "warm cuddly" stuff with constant attention to be paid to "real sensitivity" -- He should be allowed to be himself because the WIFE needs to understand that MEN are not all CUDDLY all the time. He is establishing a mode of communication with her. YEP he knows that he screwed up -- before you yell at me, you know I watch the show for Khushi. But Khushi is now learning to be with a man who wants that playful fun relationship with his wife that he got accustomed to. She needs to trust in their love and play along -- that LOVE is what is being established now.
In general I say this in every deal I walk into -- the first tone we set remains as the impression between the teams. Irrespective of how hard you try, that mode of communication does not change. With his sister it is a "responsibility". While his wife is his responsibility, he needs a different kind of relationship with her. He cannot really do the prank stuff with his sister -- he never knew how because their life was always SERIOUS. So, as soon as he sees his sister the thing that comes to his mind is "she needs my support" -- I will be may be exaggerating if I say it is a chore -- but it kind of is till he breaks that with her as well -- he is constantly worried about her.
Now coming to Khushi -- we know she can take care of herself and she is SUPER STRONG. So, he knows he can push her into breaking that barrier between them. You need to understand that not all human beings are the same -- Khushi is shown as this strong playful character. She bounced back from everything and smiled the next day because she has faith that she will eventually WIN.
His main goal in this Nok Jhok is to fan her LOVE for him. He is constantly in her proximity. He is constantly talking to her -- believe me she loves his company and this whole time she is spending with him while she has the pain inside of what he did to hurt her.
This way is better when it finally culminates in that "beautiful apology" he gave after he screwed up around the death anniversary. That apology though short cleared up all the crap between them. That is enough to set things straight after he FANS all the LOVE she has for him.
Today's episode was NOT meaning less -- it had a lot of meaning. She was so damn happy when she was packing those gifts because he was sitting right behind her.
Here is an exercise -- put yourself in her shoes, forget the feminism and what others will think of you stuff for a bit. Say you are in love with this BOZO who hasnt apologized for crap but has been running around you like a puppy for 3 weeks now constantly reminding you of a relationship you wanted in the first place. Would you enjoy this leg pulling if you trusted that the guy will never do "wrong" to you? Your only requirement now to be completely in love with him or be one with him is that he apologize once. Other than that, he is doing everything you wanted him to do -- woo you like crazy, be around you all the time, pull your leg because you are that type of a person ... Think about it, dont you think that this is exactly what you would enjoy?
As for intensity etc, I think that is a bit of direction magic that is missing as you will see in my "Jog your memory" section.
Now to Jog Your Memory: Guys remember the way these guys developed their relationship -- it was through a bunch of gaffes interspersed with some really beautiful moments when you guys wanted them to "make out"! He knows Khushi differently than any other person.
1. She just yelled at him and showed him at the building. She showed that she can be aggressive. Picturization was excellent
2. She came to his house and yelled at him -- again very different from everyone -- she can take care of herself. -- this followed by TEEJ was AWESOME.
3. She poured Mango Juice (santreki nahin mili na) in his shoes, made him Jalebi Bai, and put "misrey" in his Car -- all in one single day -- showing that she will retaliate -- again she can take of herself. This followed by "DHAK DHAK, TARE, Him EVERYWHERE ...) --- it was beautiful.
4. She hugged him when her father was in the hospital -- she TRUSTS him. That was by far the most touching scene in the whole story so far -- she went to him again in her hour of need -- CLEAR LOVE AND TRUST -- but TOO PROUD to admit it to him.
5. She worked with him calling him Laad Governor in getting his bro and her sis together. Even though he kind of yelled at her from time to time -- he saw that she is capable of fun stuff.
6. She challenged him and they got together great at the wedding. We saw the way those scenes were shot -- it was the way they were shown that was magic we could have that in a few scenes now but that was missing.
So, this is what HE knows of her. After this she pulled his leg constantly trying to hold her own. She saved his life twice ...
So, his impression of her is "FIGHTER that can take care of herself, trusts him, is in love with him and yes is badly hurt and hence running away from him" -- also she has a huge ego, just as big as his and he bruised it too many times (despite which she is in love with him) and he needs to make her "forget" the ego and get down in the mud with him.
So, the final thing they will show is him sacrificing his ego for her and then apologizing to her completing what is a "BEAUTIFUL" way of bringing them together.
So, I am with this approach. He is establishing how he is going to be with her -- she has to establish the same. Every couple has a way of existing -- this is theirs. He is showing LOVE now. If he showed GUILT all day that would be the MOST BORING show really. THat Guilt in good measure in one episode followed by a lot of things that she loves will make you all happy believe me. And like I said, Khushi is ENJOYING this ATTENTION. So, if you think like her you will enjoy it too. THis thing is building up really well.
Cheers
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