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LadyLaLa

@LadyLaLa

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Posted: 13 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: rightchoice

This marriage happened in private so they want to make it public...so let them...it may look unnecessary to tell society at this time but it needs to be out in public in a proper manner for the sake of Khushi and her respect.

In their defense I must say, Anajali and Naani did not agree for live-in as soon as Arnav told them. There was also a big drama. But the point is Arnav did tell them what he wants and they accepted that eventually.

Now also, they will accept but give them some time, things will not happen in speed we want...

Getting it out in the public may end up raking in more trouble... remember the Videogate of Khushi? public may recognise who Khuhsi is ... I doubtif Nani & Anji are conducting this wedding for the public... this marriage will be a private affair... nothing more...

Coming back to LA, yes both Anji & Naani did not agree at the onset but ASR still brought in LA to live with him.. they could not do a thing but were mute spectators... LA made a complete transition and did not cross her boundaries yet we saw the society ladies sniggering at LA & Naani... we also saw the society ladies sniggering at Anji just because her husband was away for long periods of time... so my point is yes agree we live in a society and must abide by their norms... but the Raiszadas are rich... their marriage may be the talk of the town but tomorrow the same society will bend backwards to please them because they ahve power, status and money... 😊 This marriage is in no way going to affect the status and standing of the Raizadas in society... at least that is how I feel...

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rightchoice

@rightchoice

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Posted: 13 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: LadyLaLa

Getting it out in the public may end up raking in more trouble... remember the Videogate of Khushi? public may recognise who Khuhsi is ... I doubtif Nani & Anji are conducting this wedding for the public... this marriage will be a private affair... nothing more...

Coming back to LA, yes both Anji & Naani did not agree at the onset but ASR still brought in LA to live with him.. they could not do a thing but were mute spectators... LA made a complete transition and did not cross her boundaries yet we saw the society ladies sniggering at LA & Naani... we also saw the society ladies sniggering at Anji just because her husband was away for long periods of time... so my point is yes agree we live in a society and must abide by their norms... but the Raiszadas are rich... their marriage may be the talk of the town but tomorrow the same society will bend backwards to please them because they ahve power, status and money... 😊 This marriage is in no way going to affect the status and standing of the Raizadas in society... at least that is how I feel...

@underlined - precisely for the same point, we need Khushi to have proper wedding and accepted by everyone. No one may comment about it today, but what if some one throws ill comments at later year. Khushi might feel bad for what happened. This re-marriage or grand Griha Pravesh will give the proper rights to Khushi. You can only be immune to the society for a certain degree. After that it haunts you like anything...

I would support re-marriage or grand entry for the sake of Khushi. She should not feel inferior to Payal in any manners.

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..BhUvaNa

@..BhUvaNa

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Posted: 13 years ago

#23

i agree that they can react ,
and for me its not about their reactions ,but the way they are reacting,, , why anjali talk about parampara... when she herslef stays with her bro even after marriage. and nani being the elder of the family taunts arnav taking his father's name .. arnav hurted nani, so nani hurting him , isn't she aware how that words hurt arnav.. she can say,ask what ever regarding marriage why past?and this payal .. after sharing so many years of her life with a girl like khushi ,she should have understood
her silence , she should have worried rather angry.. but still ok in return we r getting to see their marriage(the way khushi wants)😊

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Mahabhootni

@Mahabhootni

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Posted: 13 years ago

#24

I don't have siblings and even I know I'd be extremely W*F. What did everyone expect? Dancing?! lol! Normal people don't react well to something so life changing like secret weddings.

Anjali's default mode is crying so it would make sense she over weeps though it is annoying.

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Ne kt

@Kanchhi_

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Posted: 13 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: pamk06
I think his family is justified. Anjali, Payal, Nani...

Payal and Anjali are hurt because their siblings are not sharing the reason with them. Who wouldn't... You brother or sister who has shared each and everything with you till date just eloped without giving you any reason, are you just going to forget and forgive. No ways... i would expect my family to react exactly like this. Payal is reacting by keeping quiet, that's her personality but from her reactions we know she is not happy, she is hurting as much as Khushi is. Anjali is reacting by crying.

The "why" of any situation goes a long way of accepting things but as they don't know the "why", the leads are or cant answer the "why" so they are fighting to get the answer in the only way they know.

i feel they are justified, i would have been more upset if they would have just accepted. Its just next morning,. Give them time...

Nani is justified because she is little from old school. "Bhaake" shaadi, is still a big crime in her world. For all you know they are thinking,"Is khushi pregnant, thats why the rush"

Ditto..I think that they all think something "fishy" happened between ArHi that's why they rushed to marriage and not telling anything. This multiplies their anxiety to know what really happen but no avail, thus the frustration.

Lets not forget this is a fictional drama so everything must be over the top. But I've seen worst than this...I knew a family whose daughter eloped to marry her BF. That family did her Shraddh.. You guys know what's shraddh,don't you?? What could be worst than that?? Raizadas and Guptas reactions understandable.

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Nisha

@Nrp77

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Posted: 13 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: rightchoice

by the way, whats wrong if a daughter upholds or talks about her maika tradition...don't she has rights on her brother???Does that mean she looses all the authority she had immediately after brother's marriage?

My brother would beg to differ. I am his oldest sister and he has respect for me (at least I hope he still does...haha), but I don't have authority in his household, nor would I ever think to assert myself there. It is different when our brothers are single, but once they have their better halves, we have to step back.

Yes it's fine to uphold traditions, share opinions and remind them of how things are/were done by our parents/elders. Our feedback is fine as long as we're not crossing boundaries or insulting our brother's spouse in their home. I can go stay at my brother's house as long as I want (I'm sure he'd get fed up with me and tell me to go home after a week...hahaa), but I cannot play the same role in that home or in his life now that another woman is present. I need to respect that my sister-in-law is the biggest part of his world and refrain from asserting my beliefs into their lives. I don't always agree with everything they say or do, but I respect their relationship enough to accept their decisions. 😊

As for Anjali...she lives and breathes for the Snake. In her eyes he can do no wrong and clearly she would go postal if anyone said anything negative towards him. So don't you think she should respect the fact that her brother made an unwise decision to have a shotgun wedding, be upset (possibly give him the silent treatment), but not insult his new wife who is in a difficult position. Khushi was just disowned by her own family and Nani was playing the "I'm so traditional and need everything done my way' card, so as a good sister, Anjali should be her brother's support against the world. I'd chew my brother out like nobody's business in private, but I would not insult him or his spouse in front of my extended family. I'd like to think that my parents raised me better than that...

And again, Anjali is married. She should rely on her husband to take care of her and provide for her, but clearly traditions and social norms are only relevant when Anjali says so...🤪

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LadyLaLa

@LadyLaLa

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Posted: 13 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: rightchoice

@underlined - precisely for the same point, we need Khushi to have proper wedding and accepted by everyone. No one may comment about it today, but what if some one throws ill comments at later year. Khushi might feel bad for what happened. This re-marriage or grand Griha Pravesh will give the proper rights to Khushi. You can only be immune to the society for a certain degree. After that it haunts you like anything...

I would support re-marriage or grand entry for the sake of Khushi. She should not feel inferior to Payal in any manners.

You missed my other point... society ladies were also sniggering at Anji... I don't think this wedding will be a grand affair... it will a ceremony just to appease Anjali & Naani's bruised egos...

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---Nisha---

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Posted: 13 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: rightchoice

Do you think people having different opinion than you as backward...???
In my opinion there is no question of backward or forward in this issue. Its about people's expectation and emotional attachment with the people.
No one making case of illegal marriage here...

I see your point but that still doesnt explain the over the top drama. They liked this girl, infact they wanted Arnav to marry her then what is going on. If anjali could accept a live in with La then why not this marriage when she likes Khushi. And I shouldnt have called them backward since they really arent and I have never really thought they were (emotional certainly)...I think the crazy episode made me a little crazy...thinking clearly now.

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Mandy

@mandy0310

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Posted: 13 years ago

#29

Anjali and Nani are justified feeling hurt and cheated out of the chance to welcome Khushi but today they were both OTT, with Nani going as far as to compare Arnav to his father which was obviously a low blow to him and Anjali's non stop crying it was just too much.