Why do we feel that imlie doesn't love Aryan - Page 7

Originally posted by: Enlightened21

Wow....this is beautiful. You need to post this as a separate thread, especially because we don't get much posts portraying Imlie's emotions. I am feeling more emotional for her now. Poor little girl. 😭

Ahh i can totally feel that i am way emotional abt Imlie today, will surely post this separately in an hour or so

Why u guys are so good, i m glad to meet such nice people here😘😍😍

like I mentioned it before, I can understand the psychology that other viewers like yourself see motivating imlie but I cannot relate at all. not even 10%. I can relate to malini even though I disagree with her decisions and revenge but imlie, nope!

imlie is becoming more like a caricature -- one reason is her being shown as mahaan and giving so many lectures (I tune out). I don't see her being human. mahaan cancels that out.

I watch quite a few regional serials and the FLs are not shown as so mahaan. if the FL is wrong, she gets wacked from so many corners. not only that, she ends up having to face the music and doing some introspection. we see none of that with imlie. instead, others are continously apologizing to her.

the second reason is the obsessiveness -- I joked in one post that imlie is neither OCD or alcholic/drug addict to have so much weird focus. her over the top behaviour makes it hard to relate.

a regional serial I am watching has this woman adopting a child. she is in her 50s and the backlash she faces from her neighbours, her own family - so much drama. but we never see her as obsessive, instead she comes across as gentle and principled. we see her struggle with the decision and almost give up a few times because her grown up son is so upset. yet, she is carrying through but it is costing her. she forgot her son's birthday and her daughter-in-law had to remind her. she is falling asleep as she is tired and misses out on few family stuff. she gets brickbats for it. my point is that she comes as very human who is trying to do the right thing but this is not an easy decision for her and it is something she struggles with on a regular basis.

what do we see with imlie? it is bizarre that she would cry so much over a baby she just met. instead of people telling her off and questioning her, we have aryan over the top supporting her because what imlie wants, imlie gets. she comes across as bratty and undisciplined. that isn't a female lead for me. 🤷

Originally posted by: wasra

@bold: Ok I know what the problem is here bcz i was myself confused with her behaviour until I happened to listen to a conversation of my grandmother of how pregnancy was back in those days. Pregnancy is not a sickness especially when the lady being pregnant is completely healthy with the baby and the most interesting thing do we know why Imlie has been behaving like the way she is after she is pregnant I mean not being cautious enough etc. etc because she belongs to a tribal village. Pagdandiya is a tribal village, the 3 dots on her chin is actually a sign tribal women use and Pregnancy for them used to be like a dailyu routine, these women being pregnant used to do farmind, cleaning their house, mopping the floor, washing utensils, washing clothes all the hard labour work can u imagine that? On top of that all these women will be seen mother of 5-6 kids. Shocked right? But this is a fact. Imlie has been raised in an environment like that for her pregnancy is not a stage where she needs to lie down and rest she ran behind the van that too in rain when they kidnapped Aryan even fell but we were completely fine that time why? bcz they took her husband away she is a loving wife so it was fine running behind the van like that. She was being careless then but post Malini's arrival and Gudiya into picture she has not been doing any such stunts what makes u think she hasn't been careful?

Also, it's the ITV female lead phenomenon that no pregnant FL will be seen acting pregnant they all are superwoman it is not just Imlie.

@italic: she would jump but not when she is pregnant. She is going to be a mother after all.

@undeline: I myself created a thread yesterday on whether Imlie will be a good mother, pls find the link here u will find everyone's POV on it and everyone does agree that she would be a good mother, just give it a read :

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/imlie/5297188/would-imlie-be-a-good-mother

Bold - Another superb point which I am sure not many would have thought of. A pat on your back for bringing this up.👏 Even I used to have a problem with all her antics in this phase. But then, decided to keep silent because of the exact reason you mentioned in the underlined part.😆

Originally posted by: Shabia1

Agreed 👍🏼

It's not that Aryan is not prone to mistakes. But with imlie it's more of a routine to act like a single woman and do whatever she likes.

Lady, you're pregnant. Act like it. Your priority is to look after yourself and trust your husband. Even if my doctor hasn't said I have risky pregnancy. Still I know pregnancies are critical itself. I need to be as cautious as I can be. That's common sense. You know your husband will never desert the child when he knows the child needs help. But you want to be super woman and jump in head first. You don't want to wait and see what your husband has in mind because subconsciously you don't need him.

About Malini not being a threat to your baby. Well once a fool is a mistake. Always a fool, jokes on you. Don't you know how lethal Malini can be. How she hates you and the way your last meeting went, she can never be trusted?

The problem is not why she's helping a helpless child. It's her mind set. If we're watching the same show, you can't deny if I say she'll jump off a building to save a parrot while she's pregnant. Because that's her mindset. And I'm calling her mind set toxic and problematic. She needs therapy. Casue all she'll do is trasmfer this mind set to whoever child she raises. She'll basically transfer her traumas and saviour complex into the child. And that's not cool.

Originally posted by: Shabia1

Ok. That's one viewpoint. But the pregnancies I'm witnessing and have witnessed are not so reckless. Even in village areas. Especially the first one. I have seen 1st pregnancies in my cousins resulting into miscarriages because of not caring enough. So it's about perspective.

The problem again is not pregnancy. It's again the mind set. And it depends what you consider as being a good parent. I didn't say she'll be a bad parent. It's just she'll transfer her problematic mindset unknowingly. Like in the promo, she's has a child with her in dangerous places as her cameraman. Isn't it cool

Ok wow. I don't have anything to say if you think she'll not jump while she's pregnant. I guess we haven't been watching the same show or character. Peace out.

I would have to agree with you -- I think she will jump even if she is pregnant or not even for a parrot or cat. she is that type of personality. that is what they are showing.🤷

at the same time, I hear what wasra is saying in terms of how rural women relate to the pregnancies and how it is so normal for them to work in the fields and do labour. that is true. however, there is something about how imlie is shown that she comes across as being rather careless. maybe it is because she won't priotorize herself that she comes across that way 🤷

I am not sure whether you have visited my temperament thread. So, posting this here for you. Have a look. Imlie is more or less having this temperament, which I am sure you will find it interesting. 😆

https://fivetemperaments.weebly.com/sanguine.html#:~:text=The%20Sanguine%20excels%20in%20communication,can%20be%20rude%20and%20uncaring.

Originally posted by: Shabia1

Ok. That's one viewpoint. But the pregnancies I'm witnessing and have witnessed are not so reckless. Even in village areas. Especially the first one. I have seen 1st pregnancies in my cousins resulting into miscarriages because of not caring enough. So it's about perspective.

The problem again is not pregnancy. It's again the mind set. And it depends what you consider as being a good parent. I didn't say she'll be a bad parent. It's just she'll transfer her problematic mindset unknowingly. Like in the promo, she's has a child with her in dangerous places as her cameraman. Isn't it cool

Ok wow. I don't have anything to say if you think she'll not jump while she's pregnant. I guess we haven't been watching the same show or character. Peace out.

That's the point dear this is not some normal village which is progressing towards turning into a tier 3 city, it's pagdandiya the village of rebels, they hate govt, Satyakaam Imlie's dadda is the rebel leader of pagdandiya can we expect any kind of amenities being available there? NO. Her mother Meethi did not even had access to a telephone, they used to communicate via the postoffice phone thats how much backward the village still is.

@italic: i know and i never said that u consider her a bad parent bcz I was of the same thoughts that's why why i created that post yesterday and u will find amazing POVs on the same there. Do give the thread a read.

@bold: that's bcz Imlie herself has been raised like that by satyakaam😆do u expect her to do anything different from that 🤪Satyakaam taught her how to fight, can u believe that? To a village girl🤗when all girls of her age at her village do is go fill water pots with their mothers and swing on sawan ke jhule. Imlie has been raised as a rebel since she was a child, the girl knows to drive a tractor, fire a gun and every utpatang thing u can think of in the world she does that as an expert. Sumbul confessed to the same at RWSP ep Imlie kuch bhi karti hai, she climbs on a tree, jumps from tops like every jungli pana she does but that Ghonchu we all are so in love with🤣I mean Aryan loves her for exactly that😳 When he reconciled with her post Jo track what does he say: U, me, cheeku, Jungli🤡😃toh hum kon hote hai fir Imlie ke junglipana ko judge karne wale Madam jiski responsibility hai usko khud koi problem nhi hai

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

like I mentioned it before, I can understand the psychology that other viewers like yourself see motivating imlie but I cannot relate at all. not even 10%. I can relate to malini even though I disagree with her decisions and revenge but imlie, nope!

imlie is becoming more like a caricature -- one reason is her being shown as mahaan and giving so many lectures (I tune out). I don't see her being human. mahaan cancels that out.

I watch quite a few regional serials and the FLs are not shown as so mahaan. if the FL is wrong, she gets wacked from so many corners. not only that, she ends up having to face the music and doing some introspection. we see none of that with imlie. instead, others are continously apologizing to her.

the second reason is the obsessiveness -- I joked in one post that imlie is neither OCD or alcholic/drug addict to have so much weird focus. her over the top behaviour makes it hard to relate.

a regional serial I am watching has this woman adopting a child. she is in her 50s and the backlash she faces from her neighbours, her own family - so much drama. but we never see her as obsessive, instead she comes across as gentle and principled. we see her struggle with the decision and almost give up a few times because her grown up son is so upset. yet, she is carrying through but it is costing her. she forgot her son's birthday and her daughter-in-law had to remind her. she is falling asleep as she is tired and misses out on few family stuff. she gets brickbats for it. my point is that she comes as very human who is trying to do the right thing but this is not an easy decision for her and it is something she struggles with on a regular basis.

what do we see with imlie? it is bizarre that she would cry so much over a baby she just met. instead of people telling her off and questioning her, we have aryan over the top supporting her because what imlie wants, imlie gets. she comes across as bratty and undisciplined. that isn't a female lead for me. 🤷

@bold: I do agree that they went quite overboard in showing her obsessiveness for Gudiya and that's why it became irritating.

@italic: we won't see the normal stuff that happens in any other itv serial happening here trust me, they have not created any parallel of the typical itv cliche romance stuff that we get to see with every itv couple and no itv husband supports their wives like Aryan does. Are baba why do we keep forgetting this is rebel leader Satyakaam ki beti Imlie how will she be disciplined baba🤪and ofcrs she is bratty bcz she has been quite a pampered kid (in terms of getting all her zid fulfilled) Meethi and Satyakaam have made sure of that. Guys u really need to go see the starting episodes of Imlie Satyakaam had burried AKT under the ground when he got to know about Adi.lie's forced marriage he is that much possessive of Imlie. People were dying to have a Aryan-Satyakaam faceoff but the makers dissappointed us on that, it would have been total clash of titans.

Dear, I remember the circumstances in which she is raised, by whom and where. But she's not a teenage anymore. She has suffered a marriage, educated in a college and is a mother to be.

And until when are we going to excuse her behaviour because of the reasons: age, pagdandiya, meethi or satyakam?

Shouldn't she be shown as learning from her experiences, growing as person and Aryan being a positive influence on her previous mindset?

Instead, imlie is stagnant. And stagnant things start to deteriorate or give bad odour. That's what imlie has become.

This is how she grew up, that's what she's been taught and overall that's how she is. Those reasons are overrated now and don't justify her actions anymore. I mean come on it's been years. And how many numbers of episodes again?

to add to shabia's points, I think my current problem with imlie is that her passions are not grounded. people who break rules are obviously those who think out of the box and are enthusiastic. that is fine but there needs to be kind of grounding and some semblance of sanity for you to relate to them. even if you don't get their passion, at least you can cheer for them or the very least just watch the drama. I am not sure if I am explaining well but imlie is missing a key component of being real. it feels very cartoonish for me in the gudiya track. if I have to take her seriously as a character, then I find her more irresponsbile and indisciplined.

then you have contrast with aryan who is so grounded and so well drawn out as a character.