Why Malini over Imlie ANY day.. so so many reasons DT nt p6 - Page 3

Originally posted by: Divi1301

That’s how a professor is supposed to be - she belongs to an affluent family and is a professor at a top college.. she is conducting herself exactly the way how a professor should .. her grace and her sarees and her language as well.. many people address each other as “aap” in Hindi to even similar age group people.. I have few of my classmates call me aap too it’s just a linguistic thing .. so what else was Malini supposed to do .. jump on vegetable carts and yell? Seriously 😂 and if Malini was that cunning, she wudnt have dated a middle class man like Aditya..for 7 long years .. which is why I totally get Anu opposing to Adi anyways .. oh wait Aditya has such a huge home in Delhi it sometimes appears bigger than Malini’s house to me , so unrealistic!!

Lollll you cracked me up. I am more inclined to reply to people who I disagree with than those I completely agree with. But you just listed an example of why an Imlie DOES NOT EXIST in this world and hence don’t get how she has any takers at all. Like do we know of ANYONE who would do that?

Originally posted by: Writer_Soul

Couldn't have said better... @spelano.ws

Malini can have my sympathy but not liking or admiration...

Would prefer someone like Imlie any give day over didi.. and not saying this because of show or Aditya...

Malini's only claim to fame here is the situation, but individually, she is a exhausting character to watch or a person to be with..

Imlie as a character outside the Situation has lots of substance and vibes that Malini lacks..

People like Malini can gain a good sympathy as a fictional character, but in real life you run away from them because they are too exhausting

If you take out Aditya and Imlie and apparent attrocity they have inflicted on Didi, then what will be left of Didi...Every spice, content , arc of Malini revolves around Adilie...she is hollow individually

What quality she has to invoke any emotion within you, be it smile, happiness, hate, anger or like..

Sympathy and liking are two different things 👍

Imlie for me doesn’t have “substance and vibes” because she is completely fake as a character sketch. I know of no one and i am sure neither do you who acts the way she does. Jumping around on carts as a grown adult and what not. She is just not real. So Malini with all her drawbacks atleast comes across as a real person and not just a lalala fictional character.

Originally posted by: tellyme

+1 to your point of view... So well said and so correct as per my POV too..

Malini is so bland character.. She bores me to core... I could have understood her pain if she knew for real.. Also I cannot bear such weak person be it men or women... You should fight for your right... Or try to talk out in better way... Talked to family Or there could have many better ways than the approach she is taking... Guilt tripping a person you claim to love... Making all family against the person you claim love.. Her love does not seem love in any case... It is obssesion and such person go to any length to to achieve what they want...

Above her acts shows she is such a weak person.. And I don't watch the show to idolize such weak character...

Imlie is my sunshine for whom I watch the show.

I would argue that Malini is a much stronger person than imlie, barring the suicide move. Imlie doesn’t even have the strength to even tell the TRUTH. Imlie doesn’t have the strength to stand by her decision of removing herself from Malini and Aditya life. She says one thing but does the other. Her antics are more crazy and awkward than adorable. She overacts like a 10 year old (even a 10 year old won’t act like she does) and just comes across as plain weird and socially awkward.

Aditya is flawed , he was embarrassed to accept a Gawar as his wife and the forced marriage as real. He desperately wanted to marry the beautiful elite girl he was dating since 7 years and so he did. That’s what any normal person in real life would do , even then he attempted to to tell her . Aditya is a normal flawed selfish male lead . That’s why the story is hit as many can relate the the mistake he did or is doing . He could have abandoned imli at ngo which any normal person would do... but he didn’t, he tried.

After marriage , he started knowing Malini better and imli better.. again Aditya is a normal person , not any glorified ml , so he is flawed and he did get attracted to the shiny penny who also happens to be his wife ... he realized Malini and him do not compliment each other , he realized he did a mistake ... again normal and realistic and yes he is selfish and flawed . That’s one of his main characteristics.

What he did to Malini is wrong , what he did to imli is wrong . I am tired of seeing male leads who are spotless. And unrealistic . Aditya kind of people exists in real life .. Iam glad Iam seeing a different story . Aditya is trying to fix his mess... people get hurt .. unfortunately , there lot of mess for him to clear.

Originally posted by: spelano.ws

Hmm, I see what you’re saying but it’s not just about an established career for me but any other other personality traits besides being his wife who is in the dark about his first marriage, any other meaningful relationship outside aditya, I don’t see it with her. The moment I started disconnecting from her as one of my favs was when aditya fought with her over the silly car issue (he was taking out kahin ka anger kahin) instead of calling him out on it she went home crying to her mom and accused her mom of trying to create differences. After that, it became a constant for her that’s all I saw from her no action just trying to evade hard situations any way either by harming herself through starvation or fainting or her words and actions completely different from what her thoughts were shown e.g. they showed us through flashbacks or monologues how she had doubts but would go I have full faith infront of anyone else, don’t know if she was trying to run from the truth herself or wanted to make it seem like everything was perfect but it got maddening seeing her let aditya weasel out of every situation only if he just spoke once to her. Three times she left home and came back through minimum effort aditya put and forgot everything he said or did. As a viewer, it just frustrate me to a point I could no longer connect with her character, even if I could understand her.

The reason I started getting inclined towards imlie throughout the show according to her own beliefs has always given it back to him whenever he crossed a line. Malini also fought with him but only when he completely disassociated himself from her, she did it to get his love back even if it was through some bizzare way of insulting someone else, I am talking about before all this imlie stuff, she accomodated him everywhere and tried to avoid conflict at all costs, it’s easy to be in a relationship like that for years she tailored her needs and interests for him e.g. not playing holi anymore and god knows how many other things she compromised on instead of telling him off (which makes it seem more like she was emotionally dependent on him rather than love) he hardly put effort in that relationship and she was fine with it. We’ve seen aditya’s behaviour with her pre marriage to imlie and post marriage to imlie , the post one always seemed like he was trying to compensate for guilt or something rather than doing it out of love, she herself once called him out and said romantic words don’t suit him meaning he never really used any with her before as opposed to how naturally it came out for imlie. I just think they were both in a bad relationship for 7 years for their own personal reasons rather than mutual love or something. Just for Malini, it was more serious because of how emotionally dependent she got which was bound to end badly with or without imlie since aditya is the most emotionally unavailable person. Said all this regarding the overnight thing, she didn’t always think of him as someone she couldn’t lose she always thought he’d leave her or something even before imlie she had those fears, but she never addressed them and let herself get deeper stuck in a mirage of a perfect marriage because she has never had it in her to face any of her doubts or any conflict pre or post marriage. Even now she made an assumption, we the audience know the truth, her as a character only made an assumption and decided she didn’t want to hear the whole truth. Can’t say more about that because that’s a sketchy area but I guess for me she just remains a hollow character, sad cause she was my only favourite once I was really hoping for a better character sketch more like IK’s mun.

a lot of food for thought here. I would completely agree with the point that I wish Malini just said go to hell to aditya and be more forceful with him. But also being emotionally attached/dependent to your husband (who you dated and both willingly married) is to be expected i would think. You EXPECT your husband to love you, specially when there’s no visible/viable reason for his change in behavior.

I would disagree that imlie makes her own decisions. I would say she gets talked out of her own decisions. The talk back is only “on the surface” on tu tadak level. Imlie wants/doesn’t want a relationship with Aditya? Imlie wants/doesn’t want to shift to hostel? Imlie wants/doesn’t want to be independent? Imlie is also completely “avoiding the hard situation” “trying to run away from the truth“ and “letting aditya weasel out” But I just constantly see people harping that malini is somehow weak but Imli is “strong” even though they are both weak. And I would say imli along with being weak is also “unrealistic” as character.

Originally posted by: sunshine333

a lot of food for thought here. I would completely agree with the point that I wish Malini just said go to hell to aditya and be more forceful with him. But also being emotionally attached/dependent to your husband (who you dated and both willingly married) is to be expected i would think. You EXPECT your husband to love you, specially when there’s no visible/viable reason for his change in behavior.

I would disagree that imlie makes her own decisions. I would say she gets talked out of her own decisions. The talk back is only “on the surface” on tu tadak level. Imlie wants/doesn’t want a relationship with Aditya? Imlie wants/doesn’t want to shift to hostel? Imlie wants/doesn’t want to be independent? Imlie is also completely “avoiding the hard situation” “trying to run away from the truth“ and “letting aditya weasel out” But I just constantly see people harping that malini is somehow weak but Imli is “strong” even though they are both weak. And I would say imli along with being weak is also “unrealistic” as character.

We’ll just have to agree to disagree here. I have seen way more instances of imlie being firm with aditya and making strong stances on where she stands than I have malini. I have seen her challenging him while I have only seen malini trying to accomodate him. To me, where I started liking imlie the most was the baat khatam rishta khatam part where she basically told adi to gtfo lmao as much as her character is allowed, especially in a circumstance like that. I still think she’s young and will grow even more as a character to become comfortable in taking stands for herself rn she has this immense guilt to deal with too. Honestly, both ishti fls had way more self respect than these two here. But malini’s character does nothing for me than drain the life out of me so I’d always prefer imlie. She seems way stronger a character to witness, more consistent in her beliefs and true to what she has been since day 1. Simply, it wasn’t a choice for me I liked them both but the writers forced me to choose with the crappy writing they did for mun, ruined one of my favs, I am sorry I try not to do comparisons but when I try to imagine what malini would have done in imlie’s place married off forcefully had to live as a servant in her in laws’ place faced humiliation by the people who claimed to love her and then imagine imlie in malini’s place, her husband fell out of love with her her marriage is over, the choice becomes clearer to me because I know who would react in what ways in both the situations.

Originally posted by: sunshine333

Ok after the caustic and taunting and yes even personal replies to my first post I was reluctant for a good number of days to post. But I decided to not be silenced and post why I support Malini over Imlie (and would do so even if this was a real life scenario)

- Adiya CHOSE to marry Malini. It was not an arranged marriage, they dated for SEVEN years and he was happy with malini by all standards till Imlie conveniently comes along. There’s name for it: the “shiny penny syndrome”

- Imlie is a “glorified” “unreal” “unrelatable” character. For ex. to make her “smart” they made her second in all india exams even when she had to finish it in half the time. I mean COME ON. Malini is much more relatable. We have all seen Malinis irl, none of us have ever seen an Imlie. She is truly a fictional and unrelatable character WHO DOESN’T EXIST.

- Everything that Malini does becomes that shes gaining shmpathy. Malini’s sacrifices are seen as “selfish” and “to gain sympathies” whereas imlies sacrifices are “genuine” and make her “mahaan”

- Imlie and Aditya are just plain nasty because they were romancing behind her back IN HER OWN ROOM while calling her didi didi. Didi this and didi that. I mean who would do that to her didi. Yuck yuck and more yuck.
- Malinis only mistake is she loves a useless guy like aditya and gave “shaye” to a naagin.

- Imlie has a CHOICE to remove herself from the situation but she CHOOSES NOT to. She talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk. One ouo baby please .. two fake tears and both are shamelessly romancing each other behind didi’s back. just YUCK

- I understand that since imlie is the namesake of the show and the whole show is based on her she is bound to get some undeserved sympathies and audiences are naturally subconsciously inclined to support the lead “heroine”.

Anyways i would take a malini over imli ANY DAY in real life. Imlie is a classic example of someone who “appears good” on surface but is a manipulative shrew capable of deluding herself and working others to get her way.

I don't post usually..a silent reader!

But in reply to @bold They DO EXIST!

I have come across a girl..she was from village..Studied in village school.. after 12 class..we were in same coaching centre! She was my senior! Woh har roz village se aati thi..that would cost around 2 hours ana jana..jitna time main parhti thi usse bahut kamm time parhti thi..still would complete the tests in half time! She performed really well in medical entrance exam..then she did her MBBS from AIIMS Delhi that is THE top college in India!

So yeah..Such people DO EXIST in real life too!

Ya but does a girl who was forcibly married off and stays at her husbands place without her true identity ,will such a person top, doesn’t seem realistic .. it is just unnecessary glorification of the character .. nothing else ..makers never showed her intent to learn .. instead of waiting for didi to fill the form , why didn’t she approach someone in the Tripathi and asked them for help that “chalo mujhe online form bharna sikha do ?” Adi and others were behind Malini ki form Bharo form bharo arey yaar seriously form bharna sirf Malini ko aata hai kya joh order diye jaa raha hai ??khud aditya kyun nahi bhar sakta.. by this logic sabhi apne professors se form bharwate 😂😂😂This story is not like Diya aur Baati hum.. there Sandhya had a clear vision , she slowly overcame all hurdles and reached her goal.. everything was beautifully covered , her dream and determination since episode 1, her giving the exams , attending college , checking the result , her training , her induction, her posting everything .. that was a natural flow.. with Imlie I just don’t see that arc.. here it’s just two wives Tamasha .. which is so regressive in today’s age .. oh yeah and a crime as well ..Shows like Bhagya vidhata dealt with this forced marriage concept better.. that was 2009 something.. and here in 2021 we get served the same old ghisa pita half baked two wives tale.. with the study element making guest appearances as and when needed to .. lol ..

Originally posted by: Peonies

👏👏👏 BRAVO . GREAT POST!!

I find Imlie a totally unrelatable character as well, while Malini and Aditiya totally based on real people.

Imlie is a "superwoman", at age 19. Even though she grew up in the village. She is wrongly given too many superpowers and too many traits, that teenagers are NOT known for. Like being completely selfless, knowing how to solve every problem, using psychology to deal with grown-up mature people, wanting to study and work all the time, etc etc.

But I don't think Imlie is mature enough to realize that she is the one hurting Malini, the most. She is but a child. Even the romance with Aditiya was not initiated from her side. She is a hormonal teenager and feeling the first pangs of sexual attraction. It could have been any man.

Now Aditiya, well my views on that two-timing spineless, worthless man are well known.

I want to see him completely break after Malini's suicide attempt.

Also can't wait till Malini kicks him to the curb and sues him for emotional distress.

Unfortunately what you may likely see is Adi - staying his course regardless, makers showing suicide is no way to emotionally manipulate anyone and desperate Malini only get a temporary ticket back to T house after all the drama. (credit to Areyaar for expressing this possibility). If Malini does not go back to T house - I will have respect for her. What do you think she will do after all her drama? Leave Adi...unlikely!

Self respect is worth something - no?

Also regarding Imlie - makers have already established that Imlie's circumstances have made her unusally mature for her age and it is not a far stretch that a rural born girl be gifted and talented.

All 3 characters are relatable as long as consistency in character sketch is shown. I believe makers have done that better for Adi and Imlie - its easy to predict what they will do and sympathize with them for their choices. Malini is the loose cannon here - one day sickly sweet and ignorant and a screaming entitled person another... and single threaded to boot.

Originally posted by: Divi1301

Ya but does a girl who was forcibly married off and stays at her husbands place without her true identity ,will such a person top, doesn’t seem realistic .. it is just unnecessary glorification of the character .. nothing else ..makers never showed her intent to learn .. instead of waiting for didi to fill the form , why didn’t she approach someone in the Tripathi and asked them for help that “chalo mujhe online form bharna sikha do ?” Adi and others were behind Malini ki form Bharo form bharo arey yaar seriously form bharna sirf Malini ko aata hai kya joh order diye jaa raha hai ??khud aditya kyun nahi bhar sakta.. by this logic sabhi apne professors se form bharwate 😂😂😂This story is not like Diya aur Baati hum.. there Sandhya had a clear vision , she slowly overcame all hurdles and reached her goal.. everything was beautifully covered , her dream and determination since episode 1, her giving the exams , attending college , checking the result , her training , her induction, her posting everything .. that was a natural flow.. with Imlie I just don’t see that arc.. here it’s just two wives Tamasha .. which is so regressive in today’s age .. oh yeah and a crime as well ..Shows like Bhagya vidhata dealt with this forced marriage concept better.. that was 2009 something.. and here in 2021 we get served the same old ghisa pita half baked two wives tale.. with the study element making guest appearances as and when needed to .. lol ..

How racist people are here that village girl cannot be a topper, cannot have common sense or strength to fight odds. People mature early when they a faced with difficult situations and I am one among them. Because she was forced into some marriage doesn't take away intelligence from her or her fighting spirit. She came to city because she was forced Adi bought her home and for a village girl who has never seen a city having a house is more important for her safety.

I can never relate to a coward obsessed with a man like Malini who is from so called high society educated well dressed beautiful etc etc but doesn't have self respect. First if she is professor and with such unstable mental health she needs to reign , in many countries it is important to check mental health before hiring someone as professor. She can't even speak to her husband straight but vent frustration on others.

imlie has the fighter spirit which she got from her mom who fought against all odds to educate her daughter. I m surprised that from which high society people belong to or which bubble they are living in that they have not seen village girls and girls from low income fight back against all odds and progress.

Guys broaden your views and stop being racist to village girls or lower class kids who fight againt all odds.